Depressed...Help!?

Question

I have no one...just me, my husband, and my daughter in my little world. I've seen my doctor and my pastor. My doctor just wants to sedate me on anti-depressants and my pastor says that when I'm ready, to come and see him. I don't want to talk. Talking does NOTHING! I get up, feed my daughter, take my daughter here, take here there, feed her again, clean, clean, clean......life sucks!

We have no extra money for fun. We go to the park, but there's days when I don't want to leave the house!

Answer 1

I am home with my 3 yr old son, have a 16 yr old daughter who tells me my life is boring and a husband who thinks that I am the luckiest person in the world because I get to be home with our little guy. I get how you feel.

I work from home about 15 hrs a week on a good week and 3 or 5 on a bad week just to deal with other adults. I also go to every local library event and class held for my little boy just for him to have someone else to play with. Not all of the other women are friendly but some are.

It still gets hard and I am not looking forward to the winter quite yet but with no Mom and tot group around that is all that is available to me.

I am always here if you would like a pen pal?

Answer 2

One or more things might be contributing to your depression or hindering you (obviously). You may have a poor diet which is causing a chemical imbalance or making you depressed due to its blandness, have past trauma that is still bothering you because you don't know how to deal with it or because it was very painful, are encountering unpleasant smells often (like perhaps from a new rug which smells bad), have bland surroundings (you may want to decorate your walls with posters, have unpleasant parents, don't have friends or ones that give you bad to no advice when you ask for the help or when it's obvious you need it, you may have a boring getting-no-where life, or you may feel as if you're not getting your way in general (which frustrates everyone who feels that way).

I had problems with depression and suicide due to my parents neglecting my education, including knowledge about right from wrong, and not having much interesting or helpful to do. I also got mistreated a lot at various jobs I had and bullied at school for how I was dressed and appeared before I was 14.

Later I got stuck in a miserable substitute for a "normal" public high school and had next to no friends and soon after attending that school was bullied by the police off an on a few times. Other miserable things happened including being repeatedly kicked out, but God helped me beat my depression and saved me. I'm still depressed sometimes, but it's not as bad now and I always have hope.

Do not use medication unless you've tried my solutions first please, because many medications have bad side effects and can make you worse. Also, forget therapists, psychologists, and psychiatrists. They have always troubled me and annoyed me more than given me peace. Unless you are having mental problems such as hearing voices or seeing things that aren't there, and compulsive obsessive thoughts, that diet or environmental change, or work, fun activities, and prayer are not making go away, then see a Christian psychiatrist.

Check out the link in my profile if you are interested in spiritual help, which I found has been a lasting and permanent solution heading towards perfect peace. I hope you show the link to others.

Answer 3

See postpartum depression, and read section 2, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Try the multidimensional approach for a few months, including Omega 3 fish oil supplements, the other treatments, possibly herbal remedies, and consider Hormone Replacement Therapy, on a temporary basis only. Keep the antidepressants in reserve (they may not work, or have side effects: they make some people suicidal: read the labels, and www.drugs.com). Try to get someone in (here, we have District Nurses), to help out, occasionally. Ask your doctor, or a social worker (contact through the doctor, local hospital, or try Social Services).

Answer 4

I'm going to be brutally honest (and I don't mean for this to sound harsh). If you don't want to try anti-depressants, that's understandable. A lot of people get by just fine w/o them. But people who don't want to go the medication route usually use psychotherapy. So if you're unwilling to talk about your problems or use medication, you're not going to get anything achieved. If you want things to improve, you're going to have to try one of these methods. Trust me when I say sitting around and hoping things get better doesn't achieve anything. You've got to be willing to open up and try something different. I suggest talking w/ a trained professional (psychologist/therapist), instead of a pastor.

Good luck. I hope things improve for you.

Answer 5

Wow, it's unusual to know that a mother would feel rearing a kid sucks. I guess what you can do is go out and do other activities with your kid and husband...break the monotony of just feeding and cleaning her. Go to the cinema, to the park, watch fun movies at home, make crafts. :)

Answer 6

OMG! I really know how you feel.I feed my kids,do laundry,dishes,feed the animals,my husband works but he doesn't really pay attention to what I do.I feel left out sometimes,neglected.Take a class-start doing crafts-get out there and socialize! I use to be the same way and sometimes I am to this day.I changed it,and you can too-but your going to want to do it.Do what you feel will make your life happier.Your never going to get away from taking care of your child unless you leave.Do you want to do that? I would hope not-See a counselor.I know it sucks but it could be worse..........

Answer 7

hullo
well, you should have a starting point somewhere, all the same, depression is treated by drugs and by cognitive therapy which means changing ones thoughts by looking to the subject from a new prospective.
what you lack is the compliance with the therapist.

Dr solo