2007-10-03 18:20:11 · 18 answers · asked by ames 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Speaking from a guys point of view, I think guys are more intimidated by a pretty girl then they would admit! Looking across the room, and actually talking to the girl... for some guys its just to hard I think..If you think you like this guy, go and make conversation with him!
Take Care!
2007-10-03 18:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is largely a modern issue... I have been involved into the industry of studying these set of phenomen, and my rought estimation is that about 90% of adult men in this age have never EVER approached a woman in their life, and the majority of the remaining part of men only approach when they are drunk. Only a very very small handful of men actually approach women on a regular basis...
... while most men would never even want to talk about this issue or admit it... Most of the time it turns to "well why don't women start doing something!"
With this being yahoo answers I can't go into too much detail, but let's say that the main reasons for this are (in short):
- Societal changes in the past 40-50 years, mixed in with consumerism and feminist changes have made men into "boys" i.e. "where have all the real men gone"
- Women are much less approachable than ever (again due to different factors such as the ones pointed above) hence making the process even more difficult
The good news: Change is a-coming and there is a wide range of movements that are changing men... but it will take time for those to take place.
What you can do right now in your own life so you don't have to wait the 5-10 years it'll take for these movements to reform men?
You can improve the odds by becoming as approachable as possible. When looking at a man that you want to be approached by... do you:
- have a HUGE smile that flashes from ear to ear?
- Is your body-language open and inviting
If you're more daring, you can even try "proximics", which is simply the act of getting near his space. Get an excuse, like getting something or greeting someone who is very very close to where he is, and then do the "invitation" from there. Or, even more, you could get an excuse to ask him for a light or about where he got his shirt (or something equally plausible).
p.s.
The part of being approachable is the crucial bit. I have too many lady-friends who ask how-come a man won't approach them... but they're standing there and looking at the man with an expression that says "come near and I will KILL you". They're pretty surprised when I point out their posture and expression at these moments, so be certain that you're not doing something similar.
2007-10-03 22:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by aleknovi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Approaching a girl is VERY hard. A lot of people have approach anxiety. If you are interested don't be afraid to approach the guy or give him the signs you are intersted to make it easier on him.
A good place to get information on how to approach guy is Dating Training. Tons of good info there - iput the link in the source box in case you wanted to take a look at it.
Smiling at a guy goes a long way too. Be flirty back :-)
2007-10-03 18:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is human nature, for guys to look at girls. I will glances at all the girls in the room and check out the ones I like. Since I am checking your out, I would only talk with you if I could see you would be open to have an conversation. Most girls I seen (and they know I am checking them out), they do not give any signals that I am welcome to start up conversation.
2007-10-03 18:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by zrogar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because usually the girl will make some nasty rude remark. A putdown will usually be her responce.
If you want guys to approach you then be nice when they come over.
2007-10-03 18:30:17 · answer #5 · answered by bahbdorje 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are afraid of rejection, if you girls notice and you are interested then go up and talk with him and it will make it a lot easier for him.
2007-10-03 18:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by BILL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are like us, they are scared of rejection. He is probably thinking of a way to approach you. Either that or he is really shy :)
2007-10-03 18:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by Punkindoodle's Momma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Intimidation, the more they like you the furthur away they stay, unless of course they have a healthy dose of self confidence.
2007-10-03 18:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by astrid c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are inherently shy, plus men are visual creatures. Females are auditory. Women will talk... guys just gawk.
2007-10-03 18:31:27 · answer #9 · answered by pro_steering_wheel_holder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
89% of guys want the girl to ask them out
2007-10-03 18:24:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋