Help I feel like an ungrateful daughter! How do i make my parents reaize i'm not a baby?
Long story short i'll give u facts ... I need your input!
-im 21 and live at home w/mom,dad and older sis
- my mom doesnt drive ,so she relies on my dad for transportation
- my mom is out of a job and i've been taking her everywhere to job agencies
- it's seems to like to my family my social life is not important and that i should be assiting them w/driving wheneer i can or when i dont have class
when i go out w/my b/f they'll call me at 11:30pm at night and tell me it's to late and come home!
i feel bad cuz i'm tired of being the chofer and i know i'm supposed to help my mom ,but she doesnt seem to care that i have a personal life even though i stil live at home.
i work partime, go to college and i have a wonderful b/f who has a career and is 3yrs older than me
when ever i try to have a seriouse converation to my mom telling her i'm gorwn up already "she doesnt want to listen to me! ,but my older sis who has a low life b/f and and child that i adore.
2007-10-03 17:51:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i've been driving my mom and 25 yr old sister around since i was 16
2007-10-03 18:23:36 · update #1
my mom doesnt respect me & i havent ever done nothing ,for her to be that way ive been a great daughter i just dont understant why she cant be happy for me when i go out!
2007-10-04 04:04:30 · update #2
If the advice of the people above me doesn't work, it might be time to consider moving out on your own or with your boyfriend......
2007-10-03 18:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by wenchiepirategirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard dilemma for you. You want to be supportive for your family but you also want to grow up and be independent. All I can really say is you are in a hard spot and I don't envy you. Just remember your parents are still trying to protect you, and you will always be their little girl. However you have also got to start your life (which you have done) and make yourself happy at the same time.
I think one of the first things you should do is sit down and let your parents know that while you are happy to help them out you would still like for them to remember that you are 21, and in a relationship with someone. You do not need a curfew at this age. But thank them for their concern and make sure you let them know they will always be important in your life but that for right now you are trying to grow into a woman they can be proud of, and you need some room and space to do that. Good Luck to You!!! I wish you the best and hope this helps.
2007-10-04 01:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by kacibray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop and think about this .. Try to caculate how many hours your mother gave to you since the day you are born . Also cou nt how much you save buy staying home plus all the sacrifice she did for sending you in college But now that she stuck without ajob you are complaning for driving her around If you are such a good dauther you will take a second look at yourself
2007-10-04 01:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand that u have alot on ur plate with school and work and such. i can also understand that ur 21 and are growing and want time for ur social life. but let me leave this with u......sumthing my mother used to tell me......"as long as ur living under my roof, its my rules u will listen to." i am 34 with 2 kids and have lived on my own pretty much since i was 18. even now when i go visit at my parents house, i still obey their house rules......it boils down to respect. and another thing to remember.....treat others the way ud like to be treated. i'm sure ur family will remember ur kindness even though right now it may not seem like it.
2007-10-04 01:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by vixin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well here is the thing u need to talk to all ur family and let them know how you feel. Tell ur mom u cant be there for her all the time that u have other things aswell.Let her know that u can take care of urself and there is no need for them to call u to come home.Ask them to respect u as the adult u are.Best of luck
2007-10-04 01:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GROW UP!!!! That is my answer. They are your parrents and where would you be without them? Get a job and move out if you don't wanna help.
2007-10-04 19:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by soulmate_n_nc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋