My friend, whom I have been in and out of contact with for the past 15 years, is getting married. She sent me several different e-mails to let me know the dates and locations of the bridal shower, bachelorette party and wedding. They weren't e-cards or e-vites either, just an e-mail. Is this the norm now?
2007-10-03 17:41:09 · 12 answers · asked by I do 26.2 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's tacky. When I receive e-mail announcements for births, graduations, weddings, etc. instead of sending a gift, I hit reply and put congratulations. I figure if they feel it's ok to announce via email, it's ok to acknowledge via email. No gift, just congrats.
2007-10-03 19:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by J M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
On the one hand, E-mail is the modern equivelent of what, in dear Jane Austen's day, would have been dashing off a quick note on the house stationary and sending it over to the neighboring manor house via messenger. On the other hand, some things are simply better done by T-mail (traditional, postal service mail). Formal invitations, such as those to weddings, are one of them.
Informal invitations I'm not so sure about; changing technologies, changing customs. However, I don't think it be very gracious to compose a single general invite and then spam it to dozens of people in your e-address book, not even if you have the technical know-how to 'mail merge' the recipient's name into the greeting. The hosts should take the trouble to add a personal note to each message; to do less and you have the electronic of a flyer, not an invitation.
(I'm not suggesting that you mention of this to your old friend. Unless people ASK for advice, the most we can do is set a good example.)
2007-10-04 02:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No that is way tacky. Ask for a proper invite for the wedding or don't go at all if she only thinks enough of you to send you an email. Some people now are just slack, lazy and tacky. Even on a budget you can make nice invitations.
2007-10-03 17:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would ask to see if you are actually invited. She may just be rude and talking about the events, but not really inviting you.
This is most definately not the norm, and not anywhere near becoming the norm.
2007-10-03 17:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not normal.
It's bad form for her to be inviting people that way, but you can't really criticize her directly, because that would be impolite.
2007-10-04 03:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds kinda tacky to me, i thought most brides liked sending out fancey invites
2007-10-03 17:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by knocked up again 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to me this isnt rite. if your gonna get married u do it with the whole shabang!! emails r so impersonal... its a wedding!!! not coffee or lunch!
2007-10-03 18:30:53 · answer #7 · answered by golden_baybe 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I sure hope this is not the norm. I don't like it at all.
2007-10-03 17:53:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i personally wouldnt do it. maybe she is on a budget and is saving money on invites??
2007-10-03 17:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by marlie07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that's just really sad.
2007-10-04 04:30:33 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋