Since there are different types of love would it be considered a lie to tell someone you love them because?

Question

they need to hear it even though it is not the kind of romantic love they are looking for. Would staying in a relationship based on trying to be kind and caring to the other person, because they need it be as unfulfilling for them as it is yourself and perhaps keep them from meeting someone who would have romantic feelings for them? Makes one wonder if they have been living a lie like forever huh. But then marriage because you don't want to hurt someones feelings...what is that? Mmm

Answer 1

I honestly believe there can be more than one form of death. My ex husband and I experienced that kind of death. He stayed a kid and when I had a kid I grew up. I had to leave and make a life for me and my child. I found my husband and soul mate. I am so blessed that my husband is in my life. We have been together 9 years this month and married 8 in Feb 08...and you know from my answers I adore my husband. He is like oxygen for me....with it and him I would cease to exist. Had my first husband and I stayed together and slugged it out we would have remained very unhappy people. He committed suicide several years ago and it hurt,but I was so grateful to be where I am now and with who I am with now. It was painful....but with the support of family, friends and church I made it...and it was for the better. I do pray for my ex's soul. He was not evil just pathetic. Yet, there was a part of him I did and still do love very much. He could be funny, charming and my goodness was he handsome....but it does not mean that what was there was enough to make for a healthy love, but it was love none the less.
Thank you for letting me ramble on...sometimes I can close my eyes and still see his face....Love takes many many forms Where it exist it should be acknowledged.
Peace be with you.

Answer 2

Just telling someone you love them doesn't automatically mean you are romantically in love with them. However, if you know the other party will misconstrue the meaning of what you say and you know it, it's a lie. Yes there are Grey areas in all relationships since we can't read minds and know exactly what the other person is thinking, but to take advantage of that is wrong. If you really care for a person, whether it be romantically or not, then you will make sure they understand the meaning of what you are saying.

There are three kinds of relationships, Child to Child, Adult to Adult, and Parent to Child. Staying in a relationship based on just trying to be kind and caring is an example of Parent to Child. As such it only works if the person remains in the role of child which means they never get to grow up and become an independent individual. A healthy, fulfilling marriage contains all three types of relationships at different times, not just one. A strictly Parent to Child relationship should grow towards separation if both parties are to be happy.

Answer 3

if you are misleading regarding the type of love you are expressing to this person then you are not showin any kind of love- real love, whatever the category of that love might be, is honest and puts the other persons truest and deepest needs above their own. By lying about the kind of lobve you have for them you think you are doing them a favor and sparing them but really you are creating an emotional mess.
Lying about the kind of love you possess for someone and then justifying it by convincing yourself and others that it is for their sake is the deepest lie- it is actually a very selfish thing- you are not so muc htrying to spare them from hard feelings but trying to spare yourself from having to deal with those hard feelings or feeling guilty for 'causing' those bad feelings (though you are not at fault for causing them if you are not misleading and are honest about your real feelings)

THe best thing to do is to let this person know that your feelings are not romantic, that you love them as a friend and always want to see the best for them, that you will be there for them but you cannot give that part of youreself to them because it would be a lie- it may hurt for a while but you have made this person free to be loved by someone who will love them in that way- right now you are depriving them of true romantic love by pretending that is what you are offering.

Answer 4

A relationship based on deliberate misunderstanding is ingenuine and will not last a lifetime.

Marriage because you don't want to hurt someone's feelings hurts both of you in the end. Don't you think it would hurt eight years later, when one of you has had enough and can't take it anymore, to find out it was all a lie?

Pain is one of the challenges of life. It is better to be honest and cause a little pain than to ruin both of your lives.

Answer 5

You MUST be truthful with this person ... to be anything but truthful could lead you to have the WRONG LIFE ... BOTH of you. Tell this person that you do 'love' him/her, but that it's not the kind of love that can lead to marriage. If you do it gently, and 'with love' you can both feel much better and remain friends, and then BOTH of you can be 'free' to continue looking for that 'special someone' ... and who knows ... you may be that special someone for that same person someday, BECAUSE you were truthful with that person now. If not, you'll still be friends, and can 'stand up' for your GOOD FRIEND when needed. THAT is what this 'love that isn't married love' is about ... and THAT is a WONDERFUL THING.

Answer 6

Living a lie is the same as telling one. Honesty is a best policy when it comes to commitment. Can you just imagine being married to someone for decades because you weren't honest with your true feelings? When we are not honest, we mislead away from ourselves, the very things which can add to our happiness in life.

Answer 7

very perplexing question, what's love, your concept and mine could be distinctive. the is categories of affection for each and each individual available, love does not seem static daily you may love somebody extra or much less, based a million distinctive factors. great question prefer I had the respond. I advise does romantic love final forever or after 30 years it is going to become friendship love, i do no longer understand i purely attempt to be happy and not injury human beings in the technique. cheers

Answer 8

I feel ya, sister!

I think love oughta be genuwyne; only then can you consummate it in marriage.

Don't get married if you don't like the guy. You doin no one any good by gettin into stuff you don't really wanna.

Trust me on that one.

Answer 9

there is no love between a man and a woman....at least none that has been given by God.

for the wisdom of sex given to man, is placed on many woman. God did not give us the desire for multiple lovers. How many dates, or mates have you had as you blindly search for the ONE.

Do you think God breeds us like animals?
or are you a animal breeding?

I know there is not one Guy that has been attracted to only one woman in there life. If all woman were naked, there eyes would not look at that one woman. That is why sex is a sin and is not aloud in heaven, Notice Christians I did not say here on earth. For you have to marry your sin, or you will be thrown into hell. So in a way it is like you are stealing from God, but letting God know you are stealing, and God says as long as you are married.

do you understand my wisdom? If you knew the power of God you could have been married in heaven, but you are ALL blind, and lost a treasure in heaven.

Answer 10

Yes.