i have a crush on this guy who I can tell really likes me atleast as a friend. we're not just friends, we're close friends because he calls me at night and has told me he really cares about being close to me and talking to me. the thing is, he has a girlfriend. and he still calls me. its like he doesn't like talking to his gf. they've only been going out for 2 1/2 weeks and the whole relationship was totally set up by his gf's friends. i dont know if i should feel guilty about liking him. when he calls me, I always forget he even has a gf and i flirt with him until i realize, oh sh*t, he has a gf.
2007-10-03 17:20:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Evidentally he enjoys talking with you. He has only been in his relationship for a short period of time. Give it a shot. If he does not make a move in the next week or so, then I would give up on the possible bf thing and just be his friend until he becomes available again.
2007-10-03 17:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with that. Try talking to him about his gf and see how he acts or what he even things about the whole thing if it was just a set up anyways. Just continue being close friends with him. As long as you aren't like kissing him or anything you are fine.
There is a site out there called Dating Training. its free and everything and has info about tips on how to tell if a guy likes you as more than a friend, etc. This stuff greatly has helped me and my friends so if you are interested I put the link in the source box for ya.
Good luck with your friend !
2007-10-04 00:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That kind of reminds me of a situation I have.
There's this guy I work with. He was sending major signals to me that he liked me. Eventually I liked him back, but I'm shy so I kind of hid that fact.
There was this other girl who started working about two weeks before I started, and I thought she had a major crush on him. I was thinking to myself that I felt a little sorry for her, he liked me, not her.
Later I realized they were dating! I was like, oh crap!!!
I was crushing bad on him, but knowing he had a girlfriend made me hide my feelings even more.
Even though I still kind of like him... I "show" no interest in him, though I still have some. The girl is nice, and I'm friendly with her. The guy told her he doesn't love her -she loves him- but they're still going out.
You don't want to be the other woman, do you? Remember she probably likes him as much as you do.
Find someone else -or wait until he's available -which may take a LONG LONG time.
Good luck.
2007-10-04 00:34:11 · answer #3 · answered by SnowLight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously likes you because he is calling you. But be careful. If he's willing to cheat on his girlfriend with you, he will definently do it to you too!! Believe me I am speaking from experience! Let him know that you like him but you don't think it's right to keep talking since he has a gf. If he breaks up with her and you two talk then so be it. But if he doesn't, consider yourself a lucky girl. Good luck.
2007-10-04 00:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by Courtney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes still with her he obviously has not so great of motive talking to you and yet staying with her for whatever reason. If its his friendship with those girls,popularity, it doesnt matter obviously if he cared about you that much he would drop her and be with you. Bring it up to him. Thats the only way to go. And either way it makes you look better for even considering this as a bit of a problem.
2007-10-04 00:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guy friend and I are superclose. He doesn't have a girlfriend but we just can't seem to make a real relationship out of it. We've had too many bad ones in the past.
You can't help liking the guy, but be respectful of his new relationship. If it doesn't work out with her, tell him how you feel. Good luck to ya!
2007-10-04 00:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by *I'm the Best...I Deed It!* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to like him. I just wouldn't let it go any further than that. If he was a decent person he wouldn't be with her if he didn't like her and he wouldn't call you, and lead you on. If you like having him as your friend I would just keep it as that. I am going through a situation with my man at home and I am between determining if I am willing to put up with it or not. I would just avoid that situation all together. If he does it to her he would do it to you to.
2007-10-04 00:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by persephone_lyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good thing. If he'll cheat on her...he'll cheat on you. Stick with the just friends part. I know that's not what you want to hear, but it is the truth.
Be honest with him. That is rule number 1.
2007-10-04 00:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by James D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to break up with his current squeeze before you even think about taking it further. Remember if he cheats on her what will stop him from cheating on you?
2007-10-04 00:24:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt feel guilty at all, if his gf friends set them up, then it shouldnt really be a relationship! so keep on flirting w/ him is my advice!
2007-10-04 00:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by XCHottie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋