ok i have a couple of questions, im 19 :) does it really hurt for the first time? since i have NO experience what so ever, im not sure if im going to be good. what should i do, i mean to not feel so shy. please no silly answers! thanks!
2007-10-03 17:12:27 · 8 answers · asked by brens 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, it will hurt a bit at first in most cases. As for being good, I will be honest with you. Your first time will rarely be mind blowing for anyone. If it is with a guy who is experienced, and he takes control of things, then that is a different story. You will not have a great talent for it right off the bat, and it isn't something you can study. That being said, from a physiological standpoint, you will most likely never be "better" than your first time. My point is, don't get this overly romantic idea in your head. Your first time should be many things, it should be romantic, passionate, expressive, loving, and a myriad of other wondrous things. It will not, most likely, be great from a carnal standpoint however.
I hope I haven't been a downer, I truly don't mean to be. The first time is a magical thing, infinitely special, and if done right will be every bit as happy as you imagine it. Just don't worry about it, go with the flow, do what feels good and right, and remember what sex, particularly the first time, should be about.
2007-10-03 17:21:15 · answer #1 · answered by Exosus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah it ususally hurts the girl on the first time bc of the breaking of her hymen. However if you were ever in gymnastics, ballet, chearleading or anything like that you could have tore you hymen already that way, or you could have broke it with a tampon. If this is the case it might not hurt the first time but may be jsut a little uncomflrtable. It also will depend on how big the guys penis is. The bigger around the more it will hurt going in, and if its really long and youre doing it really fast, your cervix will take a pounding. (hopefully since its your first time the guy would be gentle tho). And since you have no experience, just let the guy be on top and you can do it in the missionary position, its usually more intament anyway. you probably wont have an orgasm the fist time and it might even suck. and as for being shy, if you are comfortable enough to have intercouse with a guy, you shouldnt be shy! just let him no you are a virgin so he'll be gentle! i hope this help.. but i know so make sure that the guy is THE guy you want to give it to. whether you marry him or what, make sure a couple years from now you wont regret your descison! best of luck! =)
2007-10-04 00:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Maxwell 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if your hymen (a thin bit of skin inside your vagina) isn't broken yet then it might hurt and bleed some. you might have already broken it though through use of a tampon, playing an intensive sport, etc. Just be aware that those things will probably come into play. I know it might sound weird, but just make sure that you won't regret it when you do lose your virginity cause it's something that you can't get back no matter what. if it's the right time with the right person, sex can be really powerful and amazing. anyway, enough of the info so have fun!
2007-10-04 00:25:22 · answer #3 · answered by Nick B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes sex can be very unpleasant your first time. The best thing to do is go very slow and use lots of lubricant. The more lubricant the better. Dont worry about not being good. Just go with the flow and do what feels right. If he really loves you he will enjoy it because he is happy to be with you and dont worry if its not great the first time. Things will get better with time with your partner.
2007-10-04 00:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm 19 too but i'm married and my first time with my wife i almost took her to the hospital like i didn't know anything about it, i barely knew where things went and it really scarry. when we started i guess it hurt alot because she started to cry and blood came out it was very scary, but after we calmed down she was fine and it didn't hurt for too long. if your not in if for love like marrage or somthing like that i wouldn't recomend it. its not a recreation it really means somthing, and it doesnt' matter if you no good its all about loving other the person.
2007-10-04 00:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by flounder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will hurt some. Do not worry about being good. Relax and enjoy the experience. If you are just nice and relaxed, you will be as good as you can be. It is not a skill. You are sweet.
2007-10-04 00:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are planning on losing your virginity to the right one...apply KY Jelly on your boyfriend ***** :) Also dont forget to use lubricated condoms. Foreplay helps too.
2007-10-04 00:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by vnj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
use oil.. to lessen the pain..
2007-10-04 00:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋