You receive the following announcement (and a photo) in the mail:
Jack and Jane Smith have the pleasure of
announcing their marriage
August 30, 2007
Cancun, Mexico
What's your honest reaction?
A) Aww, I'm so happy for them! What a nice picture!
B) That ***** didn't invite me to her wedding!?
C) They eloped- how tacky! And now they're sending an announcement because they expect gifts!!!!!
2007-10-03 17:07:17 · 41 answers · asked by Tres Leches 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if you like them you should just send a card
if you dont care at all, dont bother...
my fiance and i would love to have a big wedding and invite our family.
reality is we may have to wait a while for a big wedding/ceremony
and so we too will probably be getting married and announcing it.
without expecting a gift
a wedding is still a happy event
think of it as the birth of the marriage
you dont need to send a gift
if you care
being happy for them is a gift
also many elope whether for financial reasons or the timing and stress load
or priorities
its not that serious
2007-10-03 17:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by smittnlittlkitn 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
People are so jaded. The couple is probably proud and happy like most other couples, even if they didn't have a huge wedding with oodles of guests. They just want friends and family to know they are now married. Unless they sent a registry card inside with the announcement, don't read any more into it than what it is, just an announcement of their marriage. If you'd like to give a gift, then do so, if not, then don't. I would at least call and congratulate them or send a card.
2007-10-04 02:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by Ara57 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A. And think, "wow, how great for them."
They probably had a small destination wedding. They may not have invited you since they were keeping it small or thought maybe you couldn't make it.
People can be so funny sometimes. They get offended if they get an invitation and can't make it thinking the couple wants a gift, but then gripe if they don't get one.
The announcement is just that, announcing. You don't have to send a gift.
2007-10-03 18:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably A. You don't really expect them to call everyone do you? And how else should they spread the news? Word of mouth? A game of telephone?
For whatever reason, they chose to elope or have a very small wedding and they wanted to make sure that people in their lives (not just close best friends and immediate family) at least stay updated! Who wants to run into a couple a year after their wedding and ask when they're planning on getting married when they've been married already for a year?
I think that people who elope and/or do not invite you to their wedding sort of understand that they gave up the gifts (no you don't have to get anything). If I were you, I'd call him/her up and congratulate them, ask to hear a few details, and maybe AT THE MOST invite them to dinner (or a dinner party for couples) or something like that, if you feel upset that you've been out of touch or want to improve your friendship. No need for gifts.
Clearly it was a very intimate affair and you weren't close enough to the couple to hear about it before it happened, so you definitely weren't close enough to make it into the select SMALL group of people that were invited.
On the flipside, if you speak to one of the people like, every day-- that is definitley tacky if they managed to hide that for that long. If you're fairly far-removed, get over it. Weddings abroad are generally very small affairs. A phone call is enough.
2007-10-03 17:14:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Aww, I'm so happy for them! What a nice picture!
By the way, if you are or are not a guest, does not mean you are obligated to give a gift-that means, you could have had to fork out money to go to Cancun-just think of all the money you saved by not being invited!
2007-10-04 04:10:44 · answer #5 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Option A.
A wedding announcement comes with no gift expectation or requirement. At least according to Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette book. The couple is just annoucing their marriage. I would send a card of congradulations at least.
2007-10-03 17:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely choose option A. I would think it was just so nice that someone sent me the announcement. Clearly they knew they wouldn't have lots of people at a destination wedding, but wanted friends to know. Makes sense to me.
2007-10-04 05:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by Finally Mrs. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would choose A.
I also sent annoucements after we got married. We couldn't afford much, so we went to Jamaica for a week, and included in the package was a free wedding. There was no way I would have expected of any of my friends or family to fly to Jamaica to see me get married, so unrealistic. Wished I had Eva Longoria's money to pay for everyone to attend!
I had no expectation of gifts since we already lived together and didn't need anything for our home. I only wanted to share the news with my friends and family since it was a life changing event for us.
2007-10-03 17:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Depends on who the announcement is from.
If a fairly close friend or relative, I would think B.
If someone less close, I would think A and be pleased that they thought enough of me to send an announcement.
If from someone I didn't like very much, possibly C.
2007-10-03 18:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it depends on the couple.
:) if i new jane and john smith for a long time i would be pissed yet releived i didn't have to buy a gift but if i barely knew them then it an A. :) aww. how cute then throw it in the trash
2007-10-03 18:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by Branwen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋