My life is crap these days. I'm 22 and I don't have any direction. My relationships really suffer because of my on and off behavior. Sometimes I just can't stand anyone and I don't want to do anything. I feel like I'm constantly giving (emotionally) when I'm around others and it just wears me out after awhile. I never get what I want in return from others, whether it's friendship relationships or serious guy relationships I try to have. I'm extremely lonely inside because of this. I always feel like i'm on the outside, looking in. I'm tired of it. I never used to be like this. I think I have an addictive personality. I hate being by myself, even if it's hanging out with people I don't even really like, it's better than being alone. And, I'm usually bored out of my mind unless i'm drinking, doing coke, drinking tons of caffiene, or having sex. Those are the only things that make me feel ALIVE in life. I can't explain it. What is wrong with me? What can I do to stop the way I am? Thanks.
2007-10-03 17:05:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
GO SEE A DOCTOR. Plain and simple. Realize that if you are indeed suffering from depression, that it's a disease. It's not something you should expect to be to handle by yourself.
Ain't it strange though? You convince yourself that everything is wrong in your life, but really all it is is some "faulty connections" in your brain. Head over to the doctors, and get it fixed.
2007-10-03 17:12:26 · answer #1 · answered by Phil P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are realizing that your life is not going the way you want, so that´s a very important first step. Don´t take this step for granted. Now, you´re 22 and you say you don´t have any direction. I say I´m 30 and I just found my direction in life (what I really want to do). I´m not saying you will take so long, but something I can tell you, what´s in between your goal and the point where you´re standing now, is what really counts. Sounds like a cliché, but it´s true.
I suggest you spend sometime by yourself, you need to like yourself before liking others. What do you want to do today with yourself? Go to a movie, a museum, jump from a parachute, whatever you want, but by yourself. You´ll learn to like being alone. I´m not saying you´ll be a loner, but you´ll enjoy being with others as well as being by yourself.
Try to do some new things, like taking a yoga class, I don´t know, something you would never do. Little by little you will start feeling alive, promise because I´ve been there.
Now, stay away from the coke and the drink, that will only make things even more complicated.
Good luck, and don´t give up!!:o)
2007-10-04 00:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by zarabanda77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're suffering from depression, and you should get some psychological help as soon as possible. There are a lot of medications that can make you feel much better and make life worth living again. This, along with counseling, will give you a new lease on life. If you've heard the commercial on TV for Cymbalta, depression hurts -- not only yourself, but your loved ones and people around you. Get help, dear. You'll find that it's not the end of the world, but a new beginning. Good luck!
2007-10-04 00:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to make yourself and your life steady. If you don't know yourself or have a plan in life then relationships won't pay off, they'll just be really empty.
And if you feel your friendships and relationships aren't working out then you should try and find new friends and not have a relationship until you know it's a serious one.
And those habits don't sound too great. One thing you should really do is see a psychologist and see if any of these issues stem from childhood experiences.
Best of luck.
2007-10-04 00:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, why not find a good counselor or therapist who can help you sort this thing out, get to the root of it all, and find some positive direction and joy in your life? You deserve a great life, and you don't have to do this healing work alone. Peace to you.
2007-10-04 00:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by Indi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your doctor about a therapist, counselor or a psychologist. These are professionals who are trained to help guide you towards the answers/solutions/help that you seek. Another thing to consider is your drinking and drug use as these are self destructive behaviors. Good luck
2007-10-04 00:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by MHnurseC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said it lady, the problem is you don't love or accept yourself. that is the core of your problem. admit this to yourself. then Learn to love yourself first. Learn to fall in love with you. Improve on your weaknesses and emphasize your strengths. Love and let go of ALL expectations so you won't get hurt. Learn to "LET GO". Check out Christy Whitman on google to show you how. Also, do not over analyze your life.
2007-10-04 03:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by nini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my.. ur really depressed.. confused.. and practice self-pity... thats not a good sign though... this will lead u to mental imbalance and manic disorders... is it that u have some problems related to ur upbringing??? ur parents??? u better assess ur life now or else it ill be too late... try taking to a guidance councelor or a psychiatrist...
2007-10-04 00:19:34 · answer #8 · answered by zykoe1208 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋