Ladies, when a random guy starts a conversation with you do you automatically think...?

Question

...that they are trying to get to know you in a romantic way. In America when I try to make chit chat it seems like a lot of women think that I'm coming on to them. But most of the time I'm not and usually just trying to talk about everyday things. Then I feel like they think I'm strange. Maybe I'm just imagining or doing something wrong.

I find women in America a little harder to approach in everyday settings than in Europe. Do you think this is true or is it just my experience? Maybe people in my area like to keep to themselves.

Answer 1

I KNOW he wants in my pants.

Kidding, no men are certainly okay to be friends with. Only, my boyfriend will never believe this neither are the men I talk to.

Answer 2

because of all the creeps out there some woman just constantly have their guard up. Try approaching them when they're with a group of friends so they feel more comfortable, and don't come on too strong especially during the first conversation.

When a random guy starts talking to me at the bank in line, or in an elevator, or somewhere where I'm "on the go" I don't think anything of it. I don't automatically think "they're attracted to me" but if a guy is moving close to me while talking to me I get a little creeped out.

Answer 3

OK it is America and I apologize for the other guys here that talk to girls just to get in their pants, it's just a stereotype thing and eventually you'll find someone who doesn't go by it....depending on where you live but most likely if you don't whore yourself out like a lot of guys do girls will see that, you might not be looking to date anyone but more than likely it's going to happen.

Answer 4

nicely... you may not be obtrusive. Act such as you in straightforward terms without warning met him sometime and ask him how he likes his job. purely commence with the small talk, yet make him do many of the speaking. you do no longer prefer to tell him your life tale throughout your first communique. perhaps sometime you may "by probability" run into him throughout a ruin or some thing and have a effective chat. Oh and because you artwork at a park, you may continually be great sneaky and ask "so, I wager your infants think of your job is impressive, or do you have any?"... or some thing alongside those lines. Use what you have lady :D.

Answer 5

No, I have a habit of talking to complete strangers as well.
I do it, because my late hubby,
never met a stranger
and when he passed away, it fell to me,
to keep up that tradition.
Both of my oldest sons do it,
out of respect for him.
My oldest daughter does it,
for shock value.
My two youngest daughters
learned it from their father
and they speak to people,
where ever they go.
So, no,
I never think that someone is hitting on me,
it's a different approach.
Women pick up on body language,
probably,
more than men do.
We've all had to learn the hard way.

Answer 6

honestly it really depends on the situation but most of the time i am going to say yes, girls think you are coming on to them. american women are harder to approach, in europe everything seems more relaxed and everyone is friendlier/more approachable. people can seem to have relaxed conversations easily without automatically thinking this may turn into something moree

Answer 7

No I don't. I am from the south where people are just friendly to everyone. When I moved up north, I soon realized that a woman who says "hi" and smiles to a guy is considered flirting... Go figure.

God bless!

Answer 8

i think its true. thts usually the first thing that comes to my mind when a guy starts to talk to me. there are a LOT of creeps here and i just keep a guard up.

Answer 9

depends on the setting your in. At a bar most may ignore you due to the fact they are probably get hit on constantly.

Answer 10

No, I don't automatically think that romance is on their minds. But I did when I was younger - because that was what most of they guys were after.