I will get married soon but i don't know any thing about sex
i never had any friend who helped me with this and i never ask anyone.I am a girl i don't know ...how i should react at that time and what i have to do.And that too how i should tell my husband that i am not ready for kids now.Should i ask him about sex before marriage or it will look stupid to ask like that
thanks.
2007-10-03 16:51:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Communication is key in a successful marriage. If you can't talk to your fiance openly about this, then how will you be able to talk to him about other things? It will not look stupid. You do need to come out and tell him that you don't want to have kids for a while. There are a lot of things that should be discussed before marriage, and kids are a big deal! What are you wanting to ask him though? Be careful if you search around the internet for information on sex because that can turn up some shocking things! Also, you say you don't have a friend who has helped you, but is there anyone you can ask? Try talking to a friend or family. And definitely, just be honest with him. Tell him you are scared if you are. Tell him you are worried you won't do it "right" if that is what you are concerned about. If he loves you enough to marry you, he should respect you enough to consider your inexperience in this time.
2007-10-03 17:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should absolutely discuss kids BEFORE you get married. If one of you wants kids and the other doesn't... that's a deal breaker.
As for sex.. he probably knows you're a virgin. If not, tell him.
I think you know what to do. If there are details that are unclear you should ask your mom or some other trusted married woman.
You can ask him, it won't look stupid. Just be careful, I don't know how he might react if he thinks you're afraid. It depends on who he is. Although I guess he'll find out sooner or later.
Sex in marriage is an awesome thing. EVERYONE, even guys are nervous their first time. Don't worry about it. I guess it is good to talk with him so he knows that you're nervous and he may be more senstive to that.
You'll be fine.
2007-10-04 00:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by SolaFide 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ima you most certainly would not look stupid at all if you enquired about sex from your husband to be. But before marrying you should be honest with him also about not wanting to have children for a while and make sure that you are both on the same page. Best of luck.
2007-10-03 23:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you're a girl...how old are you anyway? The internet is full of information. You'll be surprised with the amount of information is out there.
2007-10-03 23:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is such a thing as protected sex. you probably wont have children
2007-10-03 23:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by The Giver 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋