im soo sad :'[ am i going crazy or is it i love my dog too much?

Question

ok i took him to the vet cuz they had to do some ear cleaning and had to sedation on him.im like ok only 2 hours without him.wenn i came home, i was all sad and stuff, i was all blank and plain. i was like -_-
so i wen to go pick him up cuz they said to pick him up at 6 so i went and they had closed it was 5:45.i was so mad, and i called their emergency number and said then i will have too pick him up tomorow at 8 am.the same time the bell rings for school .so i cant even live without my dog.once i went on a 1 day vacation to arizona,had to leav him home with my older brother.i was crying all on the way to arizona,the whole time i wasnt eating and stuff.soo wat do u think im crazy or just care about my dog soo much.i cant even slleep witout him

i also have another doggie too,but ive had him sinse jullyy 11.my dads bday :]but its my sisters.but buddy,hes the one i miss and love!!ive had him since he was 7 weeks old!now hes a grown dog!3 years old!

omg.if he died,wich people have asked me before i said i would die cry,cry,cry,cry and practicly kill myself and probly turn emo.seriously.id be supper sad,and do horrible in school :[ you guys are making me sadder now saying hes gunna die :'[ see now a tear fell down.:'[

5th person??i didnt get u.its alot of big words sryy.!!lol im not in harvord YET!!im only 13 :/

BUT I HAD HIM SINSE I WAS IN 4TH GRADE. and ever sinse ive been atached to him soooooooo much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
also iv never cried when any family member dies.and my life is awsome!!!!

Answer 1

While it's great that you are an affectionate, loving dog mom, your frequent crying suggests that your attachment to him affects your ability to enjoy life. You should be able to go on vacation and have fun without feeling sad most of the time. I'm sure he'd want you to be happy. Instead of feeling sorrowful that you're away from him, try to feel happy and appreciative because you get to spend most of your time with the one you love. Not everyone has that luxury.

Your description of your feelings for him indicates that he's your primary attachment figure. In particular, I noticed that you said you felt blank and sad without him. This sounds like something that a person would say when separated from their partner or child. Perhaps you don't have meaningful human companionship and the dog fills the role that a good friend or loved one would normally occupy. Try to branch out so that you can have more friends and people to care about. It is never good to love only one individual (even if it's a pet), because you may lose them or have time apart. If you have this much love for one dog, imagine how much you could offer to others if you let more people into your life. I'm sure you'd make a wonderful, caring friend or significant other.

Also, take time to develop yourself. If you explore other interests, maybe you won't feel so empty when you're away from him. This emptiness implies that you may not have much to occupy your time. Next time you feel that emptiness, listen to music. Draw a picture, even if it's of your beloved pet. Do something that will exercise your talents. You could consider volunteering (i.e. at a local SPCA) because you seem to have a caring, open heart. Once you develop your personality and find things you love to do, you won't feel such a void when you're alone. You can do it, sweetie!

Answer 2

Love is a very strong thing. It is good to care about your pet. I am just wondering if maybe you have a rough home life or have lost a person in your life that you care about. You are a bit more attached then most people are. I mean, I have moved into a home I hated and paid more money then I had in vet bills for a cat, and I missed him alot, but I didnt cry alot. And going on vacation knowing that your dog is safe with someone you know and love should be fine. MISSING IS OK but this is something more. Perhaps you can chalk it up to teenage hormones. We all get a bit odd at that age and we all have to go through it. I think those people who talk about your puppy dying are just really concerned you WILL hurt yourself if something happens to your dog. They are concerned about YOU. Just do a reality check and realise that death is part of life. And we wouldnt value life as much as we do without death.

Answer 3

A great way to remember a beloved pet is to plant a tree in his memory. Get a beautiful tree that is pleasant to look at and put it in your backyard. Make sure you can see it from a special room that you spend your time in. whenever you see that tree, you can always think of Harley and how great of a dog he was. Perhaps you could also get a plaque engraved, saying who the tree is dedicated to, and 1995-2007. Put it under the tree. When you're feeling sad about him, you can go out to the tree and know that he's with you. This new tree will represent Harley's long life with his best friends--you and your family. I'm very sorry for your loss and I wish you the best.

Answer 4

I don't fully understand the pidgin english you're speaking, but I from what I can understand....
I too love my dog dearly and I just had to leave him at the boarder's last weekend when I went out of town. He's a pomeranian and everywhere I went and everything I watched on tv had pomeranians!
I missed him a lot, but if you change your focus to enjoy what you're doing at the time, it won't be so hard. It's the same for people with kids. A vacation away is nice, but you always spend a good part of it missing your kids.
However, I think your age is playing into the extreme degree you're feeling things. Teenage girls are emotional to the nth degree about everything (I know, I was one). Just keep your emotions somewhat in check so that you don't miss out on fun opportunities that don't include your dog.

Answer 5

There is no such thing as loving an animal too much or being crazy for it. Your dog is blessed to have someone who cares so much about him, I hope you give the other puppy just as much love as your other dog gets. Don't think about him passing away, my dog Sky, just passed away July 21, 2007 (She was 11, my dad brought her home when I was 5 years old) and I love her soooooooo much and miss her terribly. I've been battling depression for 2 years and losing her made my life worse. She's my best friend, I lost my other 2 dogs as well, I've cried more for them than I have when I've lost any other family member, I still cry all the time and think about them constantly. When they left, they took apart of me with them :( It's a horrible thing, don't think them passing away. Love all your pets and be there for them. I wish you and your pets all the best.

Answer 6

you have a fixation problem. What are you going to do when that dog dies? And they do die, the average life span for a dog is only 10 to 15 years. While it is good to have a pet, and love it, it is not good to let your happiness be dependant upon the presence of the pet. Suggest you would do well to get some mental health therapy.

Answer 7

I understand how important your dog is to you. I too, have a wonderful little dog whom I love very much. I am so used to her, and she is a member of the family. I could not live without her now, she is such a part of my life.

It is difficult to be separated from a loved pet.

Loving your dog just means you are a TERRIFIC pet owner! WE need more people like you in the world, where so many animals are abused and neglected!

Kiss your little doggie for me, and for Chewy (my doggie).

Answer 8

The only solorose is right. It doesn't do your dog ANY GOOD AT ALL for you to suffer this way. So there is no point and you should address your obsessive tendency because it is a weakness and opens you to the possibility of a lot of extra suffering in your life.

Answer 9

Work on your spelling a little. You need coping skills. You need to relax, and think of England or something.

Answer 10

You have separation anxiety. Find some friends with dogs and talk about it.