My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time and engaged since March. His parents are very catholic and want him to finish school before getting married but this is something we both really want. Is there a way to get married without our parents finding out? and how will taxes work? because if thats on them it will be very obvious.
2007-10-03 14:55:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, it can be a private ceremony without their consent, but marriages are public record, so if they suspected something, they could find out for sure. You don't have to file joint taxes, I don't think. If his parents file his taxes for him, they may find out though. Best wishes!
2007-10-04 04:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by LoveWithNoBoundaries 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a terrible idea! You both need to finish school so that you'll be able to enjoy your life together and have everything you need. Parents will find out - marriages are public record. If you file your taxes as single, you'll be committing tax fraud - don't do that.
I'm sure you've heard this before, but the younger you are, the less likely your marriage is to last. If this is the person for you to spend your life with, he'll still be the right person in 4 - 5 years. Do yourselves a huge favor and wait.
2007-10-04 06:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by SE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Ummmm....yes, at 18 you are an adult. You can get married without anyone's consent. Are you both 18?
Now, if you were married, you would be living together as man and wife. And, NO, he would not be on his parents' income tax records anymore. You would need to file your OWN income tax as husband and wife.
Question: Why on earth would you want to be married and not have anyone know? Do you mean you have not finished high school yet? That would be a total mistake!!!
If you want to be married, wait until at least you are out of high school. You should both go to college and experience life!
So, in answer to your question.....NO, you cannot be married without your parents finding out. That is stupid.
2007-10-03 15:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to get married without either set of parents knowing? I think that you might be taking a serious mistake if you do that. If you love him now, and you're meant to be together, then you'll still love him in 4 years, or whenever he finishes school.
Having said that, you can legally get married at 18, and they can't do anything about it. But if you care about what they think(and you seem to) then you need to respect their wishes. Because you might regret it if you don't.
I know at 18 I was not ready to get married, and I don't know many people who are.
I would recommend waiting. Please don't end up on Engaged and Underage on MTV. I always feel so bad for the couples on that show because of all the controversy they have to face.
2007-10-03 15:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by Freke 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What is the rush? Finish school and then think about marriage when you both have jobs and can afford to support yourself. I got married at 19, I felt exactly like you did, I did not listen to the advise people gave me to wait a couple of years, and it was a HUGE mistake, you think you are right, but listen to people that have got experience of this. If you are meant to be together nothing will get in your way, and waiting another 2 years at least is not going to kill you.
2007-10-03 20:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
His parents are SMART
You both should wait until after school to get married.
You are not acting like adults if you feel you need to HIDE your marriage.
And, you can file taxes jointly, or married filing separately.
With that tax question, it sounds like you BOTH should wait till after school and look into things more before saying "I do". I've heard marriage before school is out affects loans/etc for school.
if you both are 18 you do not need parental permission, just go to the justice of the peace.
2007-10-04 04:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don´t want your parents to find out, there is surely something wrong with what you are intending to do.
It would be mature, to speak to your parents and explain you want to be married to each other, and are definitely serious about it.
Remember, your parents ONLY want the best for their children. They will do anything they can for you, if they feel you know what you are doing. But that depends on you making them feel that nothing wrong will happen later.
Otherwise, please listen to them. They have experience in life, that you do not have, and only want to avoid suffering for you and your boyfriend. And, specially, your children.
But this, you will only find out AFTER you have made the mistake.
Be sensible, be mature, ask for help from adults.
Don´t ask kids of your age. They pretend to know. They know only what they have been through, and that is only a very few years.
All the best.
2007-10-03 15:09:44 · answer #7 · answered by tango bailado 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried about taxes? You should be worried about mid-terms. Both of you need to finish school unless you want to learn to say "do you want fries with that?" in four different languages.
If you're meant to be together, it will happen. Don't rush it. Enjoy your youth and take advantage of what life offers.
If you do elope, your parents will find out when you move out. If you try to deceive them, they will get record change requests, mail in your new name coming to the house, etc. Generally, bad idea.
2007-10-03 18:00:39 · answer #8 · answered by Coach C 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know how taxes work you should not be getting married. Also there is the fact that you want to hide this from your parents. Very immature.
2007-10-04 01:16:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, listen to your parents. You may be 18, but you have NO IDEA what you are doing. Life will be very hard if you rush into this.
And marriages are public record, they are listed in the newspaper under vital statistics. And you WOULD have to file taxes as married. If you file as single, you are committing fraud.
He NEEDS to finish school first if you want to have a good life.
2007-10-03 15:00:38 · answer #10 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 10⤊ 0⤋
If you're too immature to marry in the open and in the face of opposition, then you are too immature to marry. Wait for him to finish school. In fact, you should continue in school as well. At 22, life might seem different than it does at 18.
2007-10-04 02:55:30 · answer #11 · answered by Ara57 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋