Do you think its ok for a mother to do this?????!?

Question

To reject her 5 year old son and 11 year old daughter when he/she needs her. To call him/her names like stupid, *****, animal..etc for no reason only because he wants to show the mom that the kid did something and is proud,To say kids are better then him/her and say she doesn't love him not to say something nice like I love you.To lower there self esteem to make her kids bad about them self. To not encourage them to not say ''you can do it''. To make them feel like there not important and make them feel shy now........

Do you think this is right.
Answer plz.

Answer 1

Absolutely not right at all. What a selfish lil b! She should have never had children in the first place. She clearly needs some counseling.

Answer 2

NO! That is not right. Anyone with any sense knows that. That Mom needs to be slapped right in her face and her children should be taken from her. She is no good and she obviously feels that way. That's why she puts them down. That is so wrong. Even if your child did something that you thought wasn't that great you still give them praise. Maybe if she helped them also it would be all the better. They are neglected and abused. That is just horrible. Why even ask such a question really?? The answer is obvious

Answer 3

This falls into the category of emotional abuse. It is one form of domestic violence. The 11 year old could talk to her teacher, if she has a good teacher...who could then refer the family for help. The 5 year old is clearly trapped, and so....do you want to intervene? It is okay to speak up and talk to kids, to say something like, "You know, your mother has issues of her own and she says things that sound mean but they really don't have anything to do with the fact you are a sweetheart." Depending upon your relationship to this family, you can approach the mother and tell her you are concerned that the kids feelings are being hurt from excessively harsh remarks. If you call your local mental health department, they can share some resources for her in the community that you can tell her about, like support groups......or you can befriend the kids and take them out for ice cream once in awhile and be nice to them, because they need to know not everyone is like their mother.
If you really wanted to get involved, you could call their pediatricians office and tell them your concern and next visit they may do some probing and advising.

BTW, this parenting behavior occurs in trailer parks and mansions....it is not related to income or class status, but to mental health.

Answer 4

No this is not right or OK. Children learn how to respect and love others by being loved and respected. This type of treatment is deplorable and Child Protective Services should be involved and the children should be taken away. A mother who would treat their child like this was probably abused herself or is mentally unstable.

It sad that people like that are allowed to have children, their should be a license requirement to be a parent!

Answer 5

This is absolutely the very worst thing a parent can do to a child and it will have a lasting effect on the child his whole life.

all his/her future relationships will be based on how his parental relationships were.
and it will take alot of time and counseling to undo the damage that this mother is causing.
the kids will probaly not realize until thery are grown, how bad this is.

she needs to be stopped or slapped in the face and told to GROW UP and do her parental duties, even if she feels bad or doesnt like it.Get her some prozac or something to improve her mood. Seriously. and she needs some counseling too, and then she needs to apologize to them.

Answer 6

No it is not OK for a "mother" to do this, it sounds like she has some very serious issues.


What I'd like to know is who is giving the thumbs down to every person that sees this "Mother" as a bad person.

Do you have the guts to tell us who you are so we might be able to figure out how in the world you could say that this obviously warped person (mother) and what we have said concerning her deserves a thumbs down? or are you just clicking on the button because you can?

Answer 7

I think she is being unbelievably hateful to her children. Sounds like verbal abuse. Perhaps she doesn't love herself therefore can't show love to others or her children. You have to be able to love yourself before you can love others. I think it is shameful not to encourage your children or say I love you to them or give them a big hug. These are formal ital years and they need her love and encouragement and understanding. Even when the children grow up they still need those loving and kind deeds from their parents.

This question made me sad thinking about those poor children and what they are enduring.

I will say many prayers for this situation to change and for the children to get some relief and most importantly ...love.

Answer 8

Oh my goodness that is awefull, No that is not right. This is one of the reasons why so many young kids end up doing drugs and get put into jail. It's because of parents like this who make them feel useless and that no one loves them so they end up going out of thier way to get attention what ever way they can. I wish child services would take thoes children away from her, for the kids sake.

Answer 9

belittling a child is stupid,they grow up with low self esteem and are made to think very little of themselves.my ex sister in law did this constantly to her three kids when they were children,she used to pick on the eldest boy like crazy,shed call him all kinds of curse words,all these kids new was your a piece of s**t youll never amount to anything and the F word flowed like water! thank god my niece and nephews grew up strong and very responsible.

Answer 10

Not only no but Hell no! I don't know who is doing this to her children but it is called mental, and emotional abuse. I feel for whomever you are talking about. If you can do something about this you should as it will in the long run effect them later in life.