I recieved a Wedding gift Thank You note One year later?

Question

I could not attend my cousins wedding over a year ago. I got them a nice gift even though i did not attend. One year later, I just recieved a Thank You note for the gift. I find this tacky and rude, what do you think?

Answer 1

I don't think it's rude. At least they sent you a thank you...they could've forgot to do that and then that would've been rude.

Answer 2

According to the old fashioned rule, you have a year to send your thank yous although I personally think this is ridiculous. Yes i agree, it is tacky and rude, they have probably been very slack in not sending them much sooner. God a whole year after the wedding! If I didn't get a thank you within maximum of 3 months after the wedding, I would just assume they weren't sending them. While it shows how slack and lazy they are, better you got one than not at all I suppose.

I am so sick of hearing about 'Miss Manners'. I don't know why people just can't think for themselves and decide what is right which shouldn't be too hard to do, instead of finding a crappy answer from some old-fashioned woman.

Answer 3

Etiquette wise, people can get them gifts up to a year later, so why can't they send the notes like that? Yes I know, when following etiquette, you are supposed to the thank you no later than like 2 weeks after you get the gift. But at least, they thanked you. A lot has been going on with them. (In my case, I had a lot of people tell me they didn't want a thank you note. So I was confused on who to send them to sometimes. Maybe that was the case.) If it's not a huge deal, I would let it go. They meant well.

Answer 4

Planning weddings take a lot of time and the first year of marriage is difficult. This is especially true if they went on a long honeymoon, were changing their living or working situation. While, it would have been nice to have recieved the note earlier, At keaste she sent one. It is rare now a days for people to send real thank you notes at al, and much of the standard etiquette with that sort of thing is lost too.

Answer 5

It used to be considered proper etiquette to send a thank you for up to a year after the wedding. Now the proper time length is three months. Maybe your cousin didn't know the rules had changed since the days of the pony express. In the grand scheme of things, is it really such a big deal? Just let it go. At least she sent one!

Answer 6

Better to send one now than never. At least you know that she thought about you enough to send it. Perhaps she didn't have the card you sent with it and she couldn't remember who gave it to her until she found the card or something. Maybe ... she sent the cards and the post office lost them and just found them and mailed them out ... Let it ride ... don't say anything or make a big deal of it. THAT would be rude and tacky. :-)

Answer 7

Guests have up to a year to properly send wedding gifts out -- they probably thought that thank you cards could take the same amount of time. At least they didn't forget you entirely.

Answer 8

I know it's disappointing but from my own experience get married and settling down is stressful. I sent mine out really late and felt terrible but my MIL was out of control after we got married. She had a hard time letting go and made my wedding really difficult that I didn't want to think of the wedding for months. Things happen...

Answer 9

Get over it.

I think it is incredibly ridiculous to gripe about getting a thank you card a year later.

Did you give a gift to get a thank you card or did you give it out of the goodness of your heart and the RELATIONSHIP you have with your cousin?!?!??!?!?!

Really, I feel that people who piss and moan about a STUPID thank you card, that gets opened read and tossed out in the same movement, are being absolutely pathetic.

At least they sent you one!

Answer 10

Possibly they lost the list and it just turned up. However, any thanks, even a late one, is nice and should be appreciated graciously. I'm sorry, but is the only reason you sent a gift was for the thanks? If so, i suggest you forgo any more weddings. Frankly, I find feel that you finding the late thank you note "rude and tacky" is rude and tacky. .. unless, of course, you've never forgotten a birthday or anniversary.

Answer 11

I definately think Thank You's need to be sent out within two months of getting the gift. I mean, when you get a birthday gift do you call up the person months later and say thanks? No you do it right then!

However some people (for who knows what reason) still say you have a year to send them, mostly because they are lazy IMO and don't want to spend the time required to complete them.

I suppose better late than never.....I spent a few hundred on my best friend when i was a poor college student and still to this day have never even got a verbal thank you, only bitching because someone else got her some of the same things and she had to return......now that's rude!