My neighbor past this morning it is now 8:00 pm. The showing is tomorrow which I plan on attendind. I see the daughter and best friend setting on the front porch. We would always smile, wave and talk when we were on our porches, or when I would take my son for a walk. Should I go over?, or let them be?
2007-10-03 14:19:15 · 11 answers · asked by Momof1 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You should go over and let them know that you are truly sorry for their loss and that you are available if they need anything. I have been told by many people that they felt abandoned by people who were afraid to "bother" them after such a loss.
You may also want to leave a card with this poem printed in it. I often give it to people who are grieving and they always tell me how much it meant to them.
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there. I do not die.
2007-10-03 14:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by Pangloss (Ancora Imparo) AFA 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with baserunner. Keep it brief, but let them know how sorry you are for their loss, and perhaps something about how special (or friendly or lovely or whatever compliment would be the truth) the neighbor who passed was to you. Offer your services for anything you can do or help with. I think if they truly needed to be by themselves, they would be in the house and not on the front porch.
2007-10-03 14:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by Dose of Reality 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they are out on their front porch, I don't think it would be a problem for you to go and offer your condolences. If they had a problem with it, they probably wouldn't be out there right now. Also, I am very sorry to hear about your neighbor.
2007-10-03 15:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would bake something and go over and say
"I'm sorry about your loss. Here are some (insert food here). Let me know if there is anything i can do for you."
from then on, smile and wave as normal, maybe ask how they are doing after they've had some time.
2007-10-03 14:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by scoop 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is something that the living pass on to each other in regards to the deceased. It is something that edifies a life lived. It is called worth. It belonged to the deceased. Now the living show it through condolence, caring fellowship, and life reflection.
2007-10-03 14:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by guitarrman45 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For tonight let them be...They will need you so much more in the coming days...If you want to do something nice you could bring them over a snack or some cocoa and go..that would be kind.
2007-10-03 14:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by CherryCheri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go over and be honest. Let them know you don't want to be a burden but that you are sorry for their loss and to let you know if there is anything you can do.
2007-10-03 14:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go over there for a short visit.not too early or late.they will have other visitors and things to take care of,so you may offer to watch the house while they are gone if you want.
2007-10-03 14:27:14 · answer #8 · answered by Mike E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to them but keep it brief. let them know you love them and will be there if they need anything but you don't want to impose, and that they can talk to you any time if they need it. it's important to show respect, concern and also respect the griever's feelings and privacy as well. if they invite you to hang with them go for it, they might need to be with friends, just show sympathy and courtesy. PEACE.
2007-10-03 14:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Either go over now or go for the showing/wake.
2007-10-03 15:26:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋