Ok so Here It Is I am getting married in june of 2008 I have a lot done all ready but i still need to get my dresses for my girls I have the dress pick out but when i try to set up a time for them to come and get fitted they all say that they can't make or that they can't do it on that day i have tryed to set it up to were i go one at a time with them too and they still won't make a date to go and i need them to get sized really soon. I don't want to sound like a Bridezilla To them and keep asking but i need this to get done asap plus people tell me that it takes a long time to order them and get them back. I also Want to let you know that I do have two people out of state standing in my wedding and i call them and tell them to go get sized and still they won't go. So How do I go about this to tell them to get this done with out sounding like a Bridezilla. Please Help Me !!!! : (
PS I don't want to sound like a brideszilla cause thats not like me at all !!!
2007-10-03 14:11:47 · 8 answers · asked by Heather D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have asked them to go by theirs selfs but still they won't go and i just don't know what to do please help also i do not call them all the time i call mabey about once a month some times twice in a month.
2007-10-03 14:25:28 · update #1
Girl, don't stress over that yet. Your wedding is 8 months away. It doesn't take that long to ship dresses. I'd chill out and then start griping at them that they need to get working closer to time. Plus, they could gain or lose weight before then and you don't want to have the dresses altered to much.
2007-10-03 14:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by tainted_obsession 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would call them individually and let them know that the dresses you have chosen take at least 6 months to order (or longer so that they feel like they need to hurry and get it done). If the girls out of state don't have the same shop in their area, tell them to go to a bridal shop or alterations shop and get their measurements done and to either call you with them or email it to you so that you can get it ordered still. Let the people know that if they can't get fitted, then you maybe you won't be able to have them in the wedding because you want everyone to look their best on that day. I'm sure they will understand the urgency then, just be sure to say it in a nice tone so that aren't resentful of you! Best of luck!
2007-10-03 14:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by ~Katie~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them about setting a date to go get fitted. You could still wait another month or so. Let them know by which date the fittings NEED to be done by. Send out reminders (or call ) but don't harass them too much about it. If they don't get it done then have them be invited to the wedding but not be a part of the bridal party. If they can't simply go and get fitted they aren't likely to help you out with the wedding anyway so there's no point in having them as bridesmaids. It's harsh but very true.
2007-10-03 14:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick a dress that YOU like, then tell them they need to try it on and order their size by a specific date. If they don't hey will need to shell out the extra expense for express shipping. And that is it!
It is nice if some or all of the bridesmaids can g with you and try things on so you can choose the best one, but obviously they are not able to coordinate their schedules so just pick one and give them a deadline!!!
2007-10-03 14:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by Reba 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I'd ask them up front if they still plan/want to be in your wedding at all?! They may have changed their mind for whatever reasons, including the fact that they have to put a deposit on the dress when it's ordered and may not have the money to do it. I think asking them what reasons they have would be better than us trying to guess for you.
Good Luck!
2007-10-03 16:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by Cory C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Set up a time when
at least 2 of them say
yes. Then tell others
they must go by Oct. 20, 2008
to assure delivery on time.
2007-10-03 14:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by Cher 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why do you all have to go to together just to get measured?!?! That makes you a bridezilla. I've never heard of that before. Usually the girls go to the shop on their own time, by themselves, whenever it is good for them.
2007-10-03 14:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK then, tell them to tell you their size, and get however much is needed to order them, and go and do it yourself.
Your situation sucks, but you either need to get a cattle prod or start doing the legwork.
What excuses are they giving?
Are they always like this?
2007-10-04 04:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋