How do I get my boyfriend to have more faith in me and believe that I can change for the better?

Question

WE HAVE SOME ISSUES IN OUR RELATIONSHIP, BUT I REALLY AM WORKING TO MAKE US WORK, BUT I JUST FEEL LIKE HE ISN'T PUTTING ANY EFFORT INTO IT..NEITHER ONE OF IS PERFECT, AND WE BOTH GOT SOME **** WITH US..BUT I TRY CAUSE I LOVE HIM, AND HE SAYS HE LOVES ME TOO..I THINK HE DOES BUT SOMETIMES HE HAS A WEIRD WAY OF SHOWING IT..OH YEAH WE'RE IN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP, TALK ABOUT HARD. I MISS HIM LIKE CRAZY! I'M SUPPOSE TO GO VISIT HIM THIS WEEKEND BUT I'M SCARED WE'RE GOING TO GET INTO A FIGHT ABOUT SOMETHING PETTY WHEN ALL I WANT TO DO IS ENJOY BEING WITH HIM, SEEING HIM AND TOUCHING HIM. WHAT I DO TO HELP HIM HAVE MORE FAITH IN US AND BELIEVE THAT I CAN CHANGE.. I'VE DONE SOME CRAZY THINGS IN PAST REALTIONSHIPS , BUT I REALLY STRIVE TO BE A BETTER PERSON FOR ME FOR HIM FOR US...I JUST DON'T THINK THAT HE SEES IT.WHEN DO I QUIT TRYING TO PROVE MYSELF TO HIM?

Answer 1

You don't know how to work on a relaitonship, stop fooling yourself..... geeze people think its all about the love.... my lord what a butch of immature lets not grow up and smell the flowers bs, crap... sorry I digress it just tis me off, and here I'm brow-beating you, sorry about that, its just the fact remains the only way to work on a relaitnship isn't by love, its by being honest, (see my name, theres a deeper reason for it) Which means, if he is slackin in the relatinship it is IMPORTANT that you be able to talk to him about it without it turning into a fight. Also the fact that you feel you need to prove yourself to him shows that you don't know that without trust THERE IS NO RELATIONSHIP TO SPECK OF!!! YOU CAN'T BE HONEST WITHOUT TRUST!!!!! So your inability to see that having a relationship were you have to prove something shows even more how you don't know how to work on a relaitonship. Puts you in a bad position because your the only one who truly cares to work on it..... but heck its your life, if you want to suffer for loves sake its your heck not my. The secert, if you can use it, is to find a purpose you both share outside the love, because love isn't enough, its how you love, and it doesn't know how, and apparently you don't by default because you don't know how to love yourself, you deserve better......