It's time for me to apply to college, and I was probably thinking Cornell, or Brown or another university somewhere along those lines. But all the great universities are very far from where I live, and my mom insists that I go to a community college because it's pretty much right near where I live. Or, she wants me to go to a university that's very close to where I live, but is not prestigious at all. And she's pretty much forcing me too. Which makes me VERY mad because I worked very hard these four years of high school to attain a perfect GPA and SAT score and great extracurriculars. My counselor said I have a great chance at getting into an Ivy league and she wants me to attend a community college or un-prestigious university just because she doesn't want to let me go. How lame? Is there anything I can do to convince her? So far, I've been arguing. It sucks.
2007-10-03 14:00:46 · 8 answers · asked by head in the clouds 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's pretty interesting. You'd think it be the other way around. Maybe try telling her that even if you do move away, you're going to a great future and job from it. Also assure her that you'll visit every holiday that you can - and mean it.
Also, it's not a bad idea going to a community college first for a year or so, to find out what you want to be in life. If you already know, you don't have to unless you want to.
If all else fails, either listen and stay or tell her you're packing your bags and becoming the next Einstein!
2007-10-03 14:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a financial concern? Cornell, Brown and of the Ivy League schools are clearly very expensive. Being accepted is great but if you have to take on a mountain of debt to get through it may or may not be worth it. Particulalry if you don't know what to study.
For instance if go to Brown and then Harvard Medical School, great no problem paying off those student loans. If however you graduate from Brown with a degree in social work or education. You'll be paying those loans and probably living with mom for a long time
2007-10-03 21:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by Librarian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have put a lot effort in your high school to achieve a perfect GPA and SAT score, just to attend a small junior or community college. It will take you longer for you to succeed in the skill you chose. It sound like you have done almost everything you can to convince your mom.
What you can do is have your counselor and the dean of the school you chosen to meet with your mom. Maybe they can reach your mom, and convince her to change her mind. I am sure it will work. Whatever you can avoid arguing with her, because you will only cause more frustration for you and your mom, and you don't won't to disrupt the relationship with her....God bless.
2007-10-03 21:25:54 · answer #3 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't explain why it's HER decision, not yours, but the point of college is to get an education.
You don't rencessarily get a better one at a "prestigious" school; in fact, you're less like to. Why don't save those for when you're ready for grad school?
Or go to the nearer one for the first 2 years, then transfer where you want?
The first 2 years, you're taking "intro to" classes -- which are huge, and taught by students, not professors.
You're better off in a less "big deal" school.
2007-10-03 22:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are 18 and graduate high school, you can go anywhere you can afford to go.
Did you ask your mom WHY? Is this strictly a financial issue, or does she not think you have the common sense and survival sense to stay safe away from home?
I would suggest putting in for as many scholarships as possible, and seeing what else you can do to help defray expenses. Do as complete a budget as you can and see what it takes to get where you want to go... with or without your mom's help.
2007-10-03 23:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. Speak to a teacher about making the school your return adress so your mum can't get your mail( or maybe a fiend or trusted family member) then apply for other uni's any way. She will come round to it. Just let her know that it's a good school, how it fits in with your career plans, its security and that you will always return home and call her.
2007-10-03 21:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by Danna H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she doesn't want to let you go, then there's probably no convincing her... you'll either have to give in to her & stay near home, or decide you're gonna reach for your dreams, give your mom all your reasons, ending with that it's your life & your decision to make, & tho you still love her you have to do what you feel is best for your future! good luck with that! i know, arguing just get you nowhere!
2007-10-03 21:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting in is one thing, paying for it is another. Can she afford to pay for a high brow university. This may be the real reason that she is trying to get you to stay closer to home.
2007-10-03 21:51:29 · answer #8 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋