Ok so my fiance and I were planning on getting married on 08-08-08 .. But we just found out that we are going to have another baby ... Sometime In early June!! I was thinking as to kill 2 birds with one stone and do something that I haven't heard of .. Having a Wedding/Babyshower sometime in May!
My mom says that she thinks that its not a good idea .. But I really like the idea .. BUT people say twice the gifts .. but then again thats twice the money .. twice the food .. twice paying for the place .. twice the cakes ... its just alot more twices .. lol and 2 days so twice the parties and what not .. But then the way I see it is .. NO ONE I KNOW has done this so it would be diff.. So What do you think???
2007-10-03 13:41:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just wanting to let all the rude people out there know that it was JUST AN IDEA. Secondly How dare you say it's rude to have a babyshower for a Second baby? Doesn't every baby get to have that nice little photobook of their special day before they arrived? So go piss off .. Second Im not talking about having a WEDDING SHOWER and a BABY SHOWER on the same day ... IM TALKING GETTING MARRIED ON THAT DAY IN THE AM AND THE PROCEEDINGS WOULD BE A BABYSHOWER/AFTER PARTY FOR THE WEDDING. So get the facts straight! Thank you too everyone that had negative remarks but in a kind way and too everyone that thinks this idea is alright or good .. MY FIANCE AND OUR 2 YEAR OLD SON DO LIVE TOGETHER AND HAVE LIVED TOGETHER AS A FAMILY FOR ABOUT 8 YEARS. So don't give me the whole advertising my sons wedlock .. If common law was still around we would technically be married!
2007-10-04 00:08:35 · update #1
o0o and for our 1st babyshower it was co-op ... IDK what you people are talking about or where your from but who says it has to be all females? We have fun at our babyshowers .. The men and (non-pregnant) woman drink .. Theres plenty of food .. Dancing etc. and this is for basically all of our familes .. You'd be surprised how many guys like to go to these things .. Open your minds and maybe you won't be so crabby!
2007-10-04 00:10:38 · update #2
Also I would not be planning I would be helping and throwing around ideas .. But hey How many people actually follow EVERY DETAIL TO THE BOOK? Please .. Not many!
2007-10-04 00:12:00 · update #3
Oh I don't know bout that.. I am getting married next year also and I thought what would happen if I got pregnant.... I think you should have a more simple baby shower like maybe a cookout and then go all out for your wedding.. Maybe you should do yr bridal/baby shower together.. That would be cute..
2007-10-03 13:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Now, don't get all defensive. I don't particularly think it is a good idea either. Around here, people usually don't have a shower for the second baby unless the children are pretty far apart. The folks who are close enough to you will give a baby gift if they want, often after the new baby arrives when they visit for the first time. But if you have people who want to give you a shower, then count yourself fortunate to have good friends and go for it.
Usually for a shower, you would have a relatively small guest list. Were you already planning a small wedding? If so, it would be a money saving idea to go ahead and say vows while people are there On your invitations, you will have to have both events listed somehow, or just do the wedding as a surprise. (I have been to a surprise wedding once. The guests were invited to a BBQ, and the couple had their ceremony before they ate, it was actually pretty cool.) The problem with doing it that way is some folks won't make special plans to attend, not realizing that the shower event is also a wedding. Honestly, I think I would either postpone the wedding for a few weeks or move it up, but keep it a separate event. It just seems simpler that way in the long run.
If you'd like to move the wedding date up, then suit yourself. After 8 years of housekeeping together, it really shouldn't be a big deal to move the date, especially if you might go into labor during the ceremony! Best wishes to you and family.
2007-10-04 10:27:01 · answer #2 · answered by Ara57 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. Sometimes people attack questioners who are just throwing an idea out there to see what the general concensus is...
Here's what I think: you actually may be short-changing yourself. If you need stuff for the baby (that you would normally get at a baby shower) you may not get it because people may only want to buy you a wedding gift. Additionally, your guests may be confused as to which event they're supposed to be buying you a gift for. I think if I were a guest, I'd feel put out thinking that you want 2 seperate gifts on one occasion. At least, if they were a few weeks apart or more, it would help people who are financially strapped be able to afford two gifts.
Just because something has never been done before does not automatically make it a bad idea, but in this case, I wouldn't suggest it. Have two seperate days...twice the party! Just celebrate them a few months apart. Anyway, you don't want to make your wedding less special because there's another event to celebrate too!
Just my 2 cents, here.
Good luck! And congrats on the baby and the wedding!
2007-10-04 09:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs.10/18/08 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi. No...I agree with your mom....not a good idea. They are two separate things. Keep your wedding on 8/8 if you want and have a baby shower before that.
To be honest, unless your babies are very far apart in age, I have never gone to a baby shower for a second baby. It's usually just a first baby. If it is for a second baby, usually these showers are VERY small 8-10 ladies maybe.
What man wants to sit though a baby shower!! It will be different allright!
No, I would have your baby shower if that is what you want and keep your wedding a wedding. To combine the two really doesn't make sense.
2007-10-03 22:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are having another baby? Why are you having a baby shower if you already have a child? Did you not have a shower with the first child?
If you have already had one baby shower then absolutely do not have another shower for the second - it's just way too tacky. You will come across as greedy.
Do not combine a wedding and baby shower - listen to your mom - it's in poor taste and would be confusing for your guests because they won't know what in the world to bring as a gift. Baby gift or wedding shower gift? Too much to ask from people.
Skip the baby shower - since you already have a child - and just have the wedding shower.
Good luck
2007-10-03 21:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by Mirage 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No one has done this because it runs against proper etiquette. The idea of having a wedding/baby shower may turn people off from even attending (or purchasing two gifts). They may only purchase a gift for either the wedding or baby but not both. It makes you come across as too greedy.
2007-10-03 21:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No not a good idea at all. Do you think men would want to go to something like that? You should have a small baby shower. Like at a buffet that why you don't have to cook any food or have a big clean up. You may not have a lot of people show up just because they will have to have twice the gifts. I do wish you good luck with everything.
2007-10-03 21:14:50 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs E 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I totally agree with "JM" on this one. You haven't heard of this idea because it's not a good one. Why not throw in a graduation party too...to get yet another gift?
Also, as stated above, you shouldn't be planning your own wedding shower...and you shouldn't be having a baby shower for "another" baby.
2007-10-04 02:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by WorldTraveler 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nope. You don't have a shower for a second baby, period.
How about with this baby coming, you just get married soon and simply before he or she arrives?
2007-10-04 11:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a good idea practically speaking, but wedding etiquette states you and your mother should not be planning your shower. So talk to your maid of honor and see what she thinks and let her plan it for you.
2007-10-03 21:02:11 · answer #10 · answered by Reba 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋