how to cope with the loss of a loved one?

Question

im 16 and just lost my grandmother on monday afternoon. thing is, i just can't get her out of my mind, ive gotten no sleep at all these past few nights because of it and im having a hard time in school. thing is, is that i never met my grandfather, he died at aged 57 because of lung cancer. but like i saw my grandma a lot and stuff but lately in the past few months shes been having a few life threatning problems and was put in the hospital and i was mad b/c she took up our own familys time. she was in the hospital for 1 month, the last time i saw her like conscious was a month ago, last time i talked and said goodby to her conscious was a month and 1 week, on sunday night i saw her in her hospital bed. she couldnt talk or see, only hear. i said goodbye to her around 10pm that night and on monday 3pm she passed away. i couldnt believe it. i mean my dads parents are nice and i would mourn for them if they died. but my moms mom did so much. i didnt even have a chance to say goodbye to her

please dont flame me either b/c i was mad at her. i feel so bad.

Answer 1

sorry to hear about your loss. Death is a hard thing for anyone to deal and cope with. You did tell he good bye when you thought that she didn't know you were there she probably heard every word you said. Sometimes in the last stages of death doctors will give patients medicine to ease their pain they do not arouse when you speak to them but they do hear you.
You are lucky because you have all the wonderful memories of her that will last a life time. Find a friend or someone that you can cry on their shoulder and relieve yourself of your pain that is part of the healing process.
My prayers are with you

Answer 2

I know it's hard for you to understand what I am about to type, but your grandmother did not leave you. She is with you as long as you remember her. She only left you in the physical sense. Your grandmother is with you right now. She was only here to help you become the caring and loving young man, whom you are right now and she did her job wonderfully. Be thankful her suffering is over and she is in a better place. She is happy and watching over you while by her husband's side. If you believe this in your heart, you will find the strength to gradually get over your loss. I am sure your grandmother would want you to get back to living because you still have to fulfill all the wonderful dreams of your future which she invisioned for you.

Answer 3

I just lost my dad last week to a long illness, and I think all of your feelings are really common and "natural." Don't blame yourself for being angry or not saying goodbye. It sounds like you were pretty close. I'm sure she knew you loved her, and she's at peace now. It's those of us left behind who still struggle. There's no easy way to get over a death like this; just be good to yourself and take as much time as you need to mourn. It might help a little to write or create something for her, to hang a photo in your room, or even "talk" to her when no one's around. I believe they still hang out, even when they're gone, and that they can hear us when we want them to.

Answer 4

Please, quit feeling bad!! Your granma surely wouldn't want that! And you did get to tell her good-bye @ 3pm. Time has a way of healing all wounds, keep the good thoughts of your granma, write them down, make a small photo album of her/&your thoughts, and save them!! Your kids will be impressed!! MGB

Answer 5

only prayers and time will heal you sweatie.
just hang in there and try to talk about it with friends and such.
you are in mourning, and it's very difficult to handle but everyone goe's through it and you'll be just fine soon enough god bless!
dana-

Answer 6

There is no one to blame. Do you really think she wanted to waste your time?

Answer 7

its ok...