would you allow your daughter...?

Question

...would u allow ur 18 year old daughter to go clubbing for the first time even when she still lives in your house? why or why not?

Answer 1

Absolutely. She's legally responsible now. Don't shelter your children forever, have a little faith that you taught her well and she won't go crazy (partying, drinking, drugs) when she's finally out from under your roof. Sure, men are going to hit on her, but you have nothing to worry about if you have an open relationship with her, and have talked about respect and responsibility. If you really must give a late curfew and if she think's shes going to miss it, tell her just to call you and let you know.

Answer 2

She's 18, so it's getting to the point where you really don't have the right to stop her. But that doesn't mean you have to just let go. Tell her she can go, but make sure she understands, no drinking if she's underage where you are, she has to be home by a certain time, and she can't go out if she's working or has school the next morning. As for the time to be home, try to be realistic. Don't tell her to be home at eleven, because you know she won't be. But if you say one o'clock and explain you want her to avoid the after closing traffic and crowds she might cooperate a bit easier.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Yeah, she's 18, she should be responsible enough to know what she should and should not do, and if she does do things she shouldn't be doing she should suffer whatever consequences there may be.

My parents were really strict and I was never allowed to do anything like that... heck when I'm home from college I'm not allowed to be out past midnight, and I'm 21, which is why I only see my parents 2 times a year.

Answer 4

well considering the fact that she is 18, which makes her legally an adult, there really is nothing you can do or say about it. she is an adult who can do whatever she wants. once she turned 18, you basically lost any authority over her as a parent. but, if you raised her right, and she respects you, then while she is living in your house she will obey your rules. if you don't want her partying while she lives in your home, tell her so, and if she wants to disobey your rules, then tell her she's got 30 days to move out.

Answer 5

Well, she is 18, but I understand she lives under your roof, so it's your rules. It would depend on the friends she was going with and what her curfew would be. I would also make sure I had a very frank talk with her about men, drinking, and peer pressure. Make sure she has her cell phone on her at all times. You can even have her check in with you at some point.

Another option is that you go with her.

Also, did I mention the gps unit strapped to her body? :-)

Answer 6

since she's 18 she has a right but as a parent when mine turned 18 we dealt with the same issues and it's a fine line to make the decisions fortuneally my son is very u nderstanding and has a good head on his shoulders if your daughter is mature for her age she should make the right decisions.it's hard to trust in those circumstances but it is a matter of trust also.

Answer 7

You should allow her to, as long as she doesn't stay out to late...I mean, there are clubs in my state for teenagers (13-19) and my mother lets me go...She can't drink anyway, so don't worry about that, most clubs hand out wristbands that tell bartenders the age of the people in the club.

Answer 8

As long as you set very clear guidelines around how you expect her to behave, what time you expect her to be home and that she must be there with friends that she knows and not be alone at any time, then you need to start showing some trust in her and allowing her to start earning trust.

Answer 9

yes because she is 18 and no longer a minor. so shes gonna do it whether u want her to or not.
but it is ur house so it is ur right to set rules and boundries. but shes 18, let the gurl have some fun.

Answer 10

No, no, no. I can still remember what clubbing is like, and I would not want my daughter at a club. Men prey on the young girls anyway, because they are stupid and will give out their number, follow men off to an after party, get in mens cars for a ride they think is to their home... It is exciting for young girls to suddenly get all the attention they get at a club, and statistically they make bad decisions in such senarios.