Neeed help to stop crying?

Question

Ok, my dad is always stressed since my brother is always screwing up and his job stinks so he always takes it out on me. He always yells at me if i do one little thing wrong like dont put something back in the right place and he always tells me to f**k off. I always end up going somewhere else and crying. Is there anything I can do to make this stop!?

Answer 1

when ever he is angry stay away

Answer 2

Parents are the ones that bought you into this world. But not all parents are the nicest people. Here are some tips to help.

Steps

1. Respect them as much as you can. Take a deep breath, then walk away to cool off.

2. Do your best not to antagonize them. If you offend them, tell them you are sorry and that you regret your actions towards them.

3. Reason with them. If they are not letting you do a few things such as going out with friends, school dances etc, ask them why you cannot attend and explain why you think you should. If they agree, willingly tell them what you will be doing, what you would need, and the time you'll return by. Decide a curfew.

4. Try to earn their respect by doing well at school.


Warnings

* Make sure you know how to keep your cool to avoid large consequences.

* There's a difference between being grumpy, stressed, and downright abusive. If you feel you are in an abusive situation, tell a trusted friend or adult and seek help and a safe place. Seek counseling if possible.

Answer 3

I'm not sure what you want to stop, his cruelty or your crying. His cruelty is something that will be very hard for you to change. You should certainly tell your dad the way he makes you feel, that he makes you cry all the time and you wish he would be kinder to you. This is important to do, but it will probably not fix the problem immediately. He probably wants to be a good father but has trouble controlling himself. If he changes, it will probably be slowly over time.

Something you have more control over is your crying. If you're old enough that you have some independence, I would say try to be around your dad as little as possible when you can tell he's in a bad mood. If it's hard to tell, I'd say just avoid him so that he will have as little an impact on you as possible. Go to the park or something. If someone asks you why you're being avoidant, explain how you feel. Try to foster good relationships in your life that can be an antidote to your father's treatment of you. He can have a lasting psychological effect on you if you let him.

If your father is an OK guy at other times, and you think he sincerely wants to be better, you can try spending positive time with him. This will help you to see that he's not a monster, just a regular guy who can't control his anger, which is really kind of sad since he has to push away the people he loves. Spending positive time with him, if possible, will help you emotionally. In a way, it can counteract the nasty stuff.

The most important thing is for you to remember that this is *his problem*. He is just a guy with a problem, and unfortunately he has a daughter who is not protected from his problem. Just remember that and try to love him anyway. It's important to have a sense of humor and be able to laugh it off when you're dad is losing it (just not to his face).

Also, as you grow up, don't think that all guys will be like your dad. Lots of guys are really kind and gentle and can be mistreated just like you have been. Don't get in the habit of thinking of yourself as a victim.

Finally, remember that him yelling at you and telling you to f*** off isn't your fault. You sound like a sweet girl, and it's not your fault.

Answer 4

First off, I just want to say...I love cats too! Ok, sorry, back to your question. What you need to make stop is your father's childish behavior. He needs to learn to channel his stress in other ways then taking it out on his daughter. My father was similar in that he yelled at almost everything I did, and as a result I was alway nervous around him. The only difference is that it wasn't a indirect attact based on his other issues. He truly hated it when I didn't put things back in the right place...And he never told me to ***k off. That's not normal and those words shouldn't be taken lightly. If your mother is present in your life, I would consult her since she may have some leverage with your father. If not then, I'd try to tell your brother what's going on as a result of his problems.
Finally, there's no need to stop crying. Crying is a wonderful thing and is a natural way for humans to heal. What would you think if someone told you to not laugh at something you thought was funny. I think it'd be emotionally strenuous. Be true to your feels and cry when you want to cry. Just focus on the real problem here. It's your Dad not your tears.

Answer 5

Have you talked to your mom about it? You could also talk to your dad when he is a little more calmer. Tell him Hey dad, I love you very much and I know you are under a lot of pressure, but I feel that I am getting the brunt of it too. I am very sorry for what upsets you. All I can do is try to do better, but could you please take it out on a tree or somewhere else? It really hurts me.
It sounds like your dad could use some counciling on parenting. This is very abusive and damaging. You could also talk to your teacher, pastor or councilor at school if you can't talk to your mom or dad. Someone will listen. You need to be treated with respect and so should he, but it looks like alot of steps need to be taken.

Answer 6

Sweetie, are there any relatives who live close by that you trust to talk to? If so, you need to talk to them. They can offer suggestions on how best to cope with the situation at home. It doesn't sound like your dad is mad at you, just taking his frustrations out on you. This doesn't make what he's saying right, but with the stress he's under, it would explain why you are sometimes the target of his anger. When you go somewhere else and cry, try praying to Jesus that He would help you, your brother and your dad.

Answer 7

You need to go to your dad and tell him that you realize that your brother is screwing up, but you are not your brother. Tell him that it really hurts you when he talks to you the way he does.

Depending on his mood and personality, he may yell at first, but it will also give him something to think about and he may stop. If not, talk to your mom or another close adult.

Answer 8

hi there,
it sounds like a terrible situation for you to be in.
i feel really bad for you dear.is there any way you can talk to your dad about it? although it sounds like he is part of the problem. sounds like they are using you as a scape goat for their anger, which is very wrong. you do not deserve any of that. maybe you could say that to both of them next time they get after you like that again. or maybe you can say; wow, everyone's grouchy around here, anyone wanna talk about it? it's not your job to be the strong one, but i bet you currently are right now,so maybe just be a little patient and they'll realize that your a very sensitive, yet terrific part of the family they shouldn't have been mean and hateful to. good luck sweetie you'll be fine.
dana-

Answer 9

how old are you?? ...if youre 16 or more, ...go to an adult you like at school, ...find a best friend, and talk to her mom, ask her to take you in for awhile, until your dad gets the help he sounds like he needs psychologically that is. Definitely find somewhere else to go though. what your dad is doing is emotional abuse and neglect, so talk to a teacher, or any other adult you trust.

Answer 10

Maybe stay over at a friends house when you need comfort, or you could see a school counsler. But, if it is more than verbal and emotional abuse..TELL SOMEONE!! Like social Services or something. Hope you feel better! Harold

Answer 11

i'm sorry mami.

maybe sit down with him and tell him how it all is making you feel.

if that doesn't work...

kill him and sink him in a river. 55lbs of weights tied to his ankles should do the trick. but first cut his scrotums clean the fook off (with a razor) and make a nice hat ot of it. make sure to stretch them over the hat while they are still moist. nut skins are hard to handle once they have dried. dry the testes (aka NUTS) and paint them orange and hang them on the front door and slap them everytime you get a chance.