i am thinking whether keeping your virginity is of much important ?

Question

I am 22.i am a virgin.people always see me as exagerating.i am resolving myself.my boyfriend says that i am wasting the nice time of my age.what do u think?

Answer 1

I think that you have to do what you're comfortable with. You made the decision to remain a virgin for this long for a reason. If that reason is religious, then I would suggest that you follow your spiritual path and stick with it. If there is some other reason, then you need to evaluate what that reason means to you. Under what circumstances are you willing to give that part of you to someone else? Do this alone, do not bounce thoughts off your b/f. He has ulterior motives. Be glad that he wants you, but know that if he didn't, someone else would. Someone who will allow you the freedom to choose the timing of your own sexuality. I hope for your sake that your current b/f does :)
Be strong in yourself... it will be a much better and more amazing experience if it's done on your timing!

Answer 2

There is certainly a lot of peer pressure out there to have premarital sex. I watched how negatively premarital sex influenced three of my close college friends. I think a lot of the time people just want you to join them in their misery, so they're not so lonely.

I had a boyfriend in college who pressured me into doing more than I was comfortable with & I still regret it even though I didn't lose my virginity with him (we had a rule that no clothing would be removed or penetrated by hands & kept it). They always say or imply, "if you love me you would...", but I can guarantee once they've gotten what they want at that moment, they'll look at you as used merchandise & then will move on to the next virgin. I watched this happen to my roommate several times. It was horrible to watch.

Someone else said that men want virgins when they marry. It's true. If you keep your virginity you will have the most precious gift to offer your husband--pre-fidelity--whether it's this guy or someone else, you will be glad you saved yourself for him. And guess what?! There are single men out there who are virgins too. My husband was when we were married & it was the greatest gift he gave me too!

I later learned that his mother prayed for his future wife before she even met me. I am so thankful for that prayer! I am convinced that it kept me safe through a lot of circumstances.

We were 23 when we got engaged, 26 when we married. We didn't kiss until 6 months after our engagement. If we can do that you can do it too.

P.S. If your boyfriend is pressuring you (especially if requests change to wanting more & different from you), & won't stop, you should consider that he isn't being honest with you about his commitment to you. I found out that my college boyfriend was fooling around with other girls when he was pestering me for more & different things.

Answer 3

Your boyfriend sees virginity as a physical thing. True virginity encompasses all aspects of a person. The physical, mental, emotional, and most important the spiritual part of ourselves.
Virginity teaches us discipline, self restraint, self love and to save all of ourselves for our soulmate on the wedding nite. Your problem is your with someone who 1: doesnt understand or care about virginity and how special and unique it is and 2. doesnt have the same morals as u do.

The fact that u are with him shows u care more about ur morals and less about his. This is an incompatibility that will always come into play, whether it is u losing your virginity to him or later on in life when u wanna pass down your morals to ur children. What will happen when ur kids want to talk to u both about sex? You will say that waiting till marriage shows true love, while he will say just do it, and it doesnt matter much and it isnt special.

For me i think one day i will meet a virgin girl because i cant compromise my morals for no woman

Answer 4

Well when I fall in love or start to have feelings its always a barrier when I ask how many bf's they had...when the answer is 3 maybe it were allot more,doubting everytime who are you for them. But all that matters is the present not the past some say...(I don't think thats true) But anyways if you have feelings for someone you should not ask this silly question...it means you are doubting ..than don't do it. ITS all actually kinda overrated it will be very bad the first time. But one thing is sure your age is a beautiful age...

Answer 5

That is one of the most precious and valuable gifts you can give to the man you will marry.

Others would like to see you falter in that area. Don't do it and you will be so glad you did wait. It won't be long before you are married. Every man I know wants to marry a virgin...

Keep yourself from aids, stds, and every kind of sexually transmitted disease. I know a girl that had sex one time and now she has aids. That is a death sentence.
Some men have genital warts, and sores. You deserve the best....and you will have it because you have waited. You are clean. Condoms do not always keep you safe. They break and you could get pregnant.

Its well worth the wait....I know!! When you walk down that isle in white it will mean something. Hang in there.

Answer 6

Your b/f has one thing right. You don't get to keep the body of a 22 year old very long. As you approach thirty, gravity has already begun to take its toll. Two things to avoid, disease and pregnancy. Other than that have a good time.

Answer 7

If it's an important part of your faith, and it would make you feel bad or guilty, then stay a virgin. But if you don't have a real reason, something deep, you are missing out on a wonderful, magical, experience.

Answer 8

I think whatever is important to you is most important.

You should not be bullied or pressured into starting your sex life by anybody. Nor should you be precluded from doing so by anybody or any lame theology. It is your sex life, and you get to decide.

However, on a personal note, I think you boyfriend may have a point....at least hear him out. :)

Answer 9

life is more than sex. i was a virgin until i got married at the age of 25. sex is something only my wife and i can share, as she was a virgin too. so worth the wait. the world is so caught up in instant gratification.. stick to your guns. its worth the wait

Answer 10

It is quite a sacred gift, that you are honoring yourself, and the "one" for you, in saving. Anyone can give it to everyone or anyone, but you carry on a long and sacred lineage with you!