Do You Think It Is Possible To Be Too Nice Of A Person?

Answer 1

Yes....others have already mentioned that others will prey on those who are too kind for their own good, but I'd like to add one thing that might not be so obvious....

It's implicit in the bits about "taking better care of yourself" that other people mention. Basically, the idea is....being "nice" to people *can* become hard, bitter work beyond a certain point. Sure, it's easy to start, but if you find yourself making sacrifices, giving up your own life and friends and comforts piece by piece just to *maintain* your kindness, it can become a real problem....

And the problem can breed *real* anger and resentment. Nobody likes to be used, or exploited, or to be taken for all they have either. People with a *reputation* for being nice can end up in a double-bind over this, because their anger and resentment is as real and legitimate as it gets....but it is also to some degree self-inflicted. It is in the sense that the nice person *enabled* the others to take advantage of them.

Add to that mix the reputation thing, wherein people who are socially known to be nice are expected to stay that way and *not* lose their temper or patience....and you get a pressure cooker.

Nobody likes being in a pressure cooker, where anger and resentment build and build without any real release. It can, at minimum, ruin people on kindness for life. At worst, people can go postal and attack others.....or they can implode and devour themselves emotionally. I've seen both happen in my life and neither is good.

This is why the old saying is "Love your neighbor as you *love yourself*," if I recall correctly. ^_^ The idea is, if you take care of yourself and are strong, yes, you can and ought to care for others, but....not taking care of yourself means you aren't doing *anybody* any good. If you don't love yourself, you don't know what love *means* and so really can't *act from* love and compassion for other people, not without hurting yourself in the process.

This can be one of the hardest lessons in life to learn, remember and *apply* because the nature of human beings is that we want to *take* from people whenever we can. If they look like they are giving things away, why not? But if you flip that around, that also translates into a *world that takes and takes* from people and hardly ever gives back. This royally stinks if you aren't taking care of yourself, or if you expect people to have your back when *they clearly don't*.

You have to go against the grain, occasionally hurt other people's feelings, and have more than a few folks scratch their heads in confusion, in order to actually *be as kind to Yourself* as you want to be to others. People will accuse you of being selfish, while they are selfish themselves, and they will accuse you of being lazy and slacking while they are self-indulgent and decadent.

But what's the alternative? Give until you self-destruct and pray that there's a heaven for accidental martyrs? Isn't that the mother of all high-risk, low-reward endeavors?

I hope this makes sense. ^_^ Good question, have a star. And I do hope you can find it within you to love yourself too. Take care.

Answer 2

It is entirely possible to be too nice. But those are the ones you need to watch! When you are too nice, people tend to run over you. Eventually, it gets to you and you either have a nervous breakdown or you go crazy.

Trust me, I know. Whoever this person is, they need to learn to say no and get a little tougher!

Answer 3

*The nicer you are to people the more people take advantage of that niceness! Before long you have no time for yourself as you are so busy catering to everyone else's desires!
I am the one that gets called when anyone has a problem or a need! I always wonder how many of them would still be my friends if I wasn't the one that came to the rescue*

Answer 4

Somebody once said to me something that translates to "giving you mantle to the beggar means you are a good man. Giving him all you have means you are a fool."

I think you can be too nice if it means you forget about yourself. You are a person too and you should not just be nice to other but also to yourself.

I hope that's the type of reply you were asking for.

Answer 5

Yes, I do. Telling people what they want to hear and telling the truth are too different things. It can lable you as a nice person. Nice people always get walked on alot and let things go that bother them.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

yes, it is, definitely
being too nice doesnt mean being a push over anyway, once a person practice empathy and he is sensitive about the other peoples emotions, that will reflect on the way he deals with other people.

Answer 8

No

It is not that you are too nice, or they are too evil but that together you one of you may take agdvantage of the other one.

Some people are nice. Some people are not.

That is just the way it is.

Better to er on the side of niceness than the side of cruelty and deliberately cause someone harm.

Answer 9

Kindness is a sign of someone who is at peace with the world. One need not surrender strength nor sacrifice courage to be kind. Kindness is born of these traits. To be kind is not to say you must surrender your backbone or give your stuff away. It is to look upon others with compassion and understanding and if needed, to do those simple things that allows them to do for themselves. Kindness is a salve that should be used in liberal doses as it can offer comfort to everyone it touches. Kindness is contagious, share the infection.

Answer 10

Yes, it is possible to be overly nice to people. I am the same way and I just find that people take advantage of your bring nice to them and they just walk all over you .