We found out he is addicted to pain pills and he has gone crazy, he threatened my daughters life and my grandaughters lives, then he tried to hang himself. At the moment he is in the mental hospital, and they will be sending him to the detox place pretty soon. My problem is that my daughter is now left trying to take care of the house and kids and make all the payments on everything. Not to mention the mental hospital is wanting big bucks from them since they do not have insurance. My question is - Is there any government agencies that will give her money to help with the bills while her husband is away?
I know this is probably not the right category to post this in, but maybe someone can help anyway.
2007-10-03 11:46:59 · 7 answers · asked by SisterCF 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry to hear about your troubles.
She may want to talk to the financial person at the hospital, they usually know about most programs at least to help with the medical bills.
I would think that her husband could sign up for disability if he is unable to work at present. She may be able to get food stamps while he is not working, which would help put that money towards other bills.
Most creditors will allow you sometime if you let them know the situation.
If she's not working, she may have to get a job.
Whatever she decides, she needs to do it quick, because it can take time for things to kick in.
2007-10-04 03:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's probably no gov help out there for her as long as she owns things. She will have to have leins put against her home or vehicles. Depends on her income. Does she work and how old are the children. If she isn't working, there is probably money or programs locally to help her with schooling to get a job while paying for her day care if she is ambitious. I would tell her that if he doesn't get better and stay off the drugs after the detox she should file for divorce and bankruptcy. These are her children's lives at stake not just financials.
2007-10-03 12:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by funn_gal107 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off I respect women that can raise a child on their own. Your giving up your life to give your kid a better life. All a parent can do is give directions, its the child responsibility to learn the rights and wrongs. A lot of people dont understand how hard it is to raise a child, the time it requires, the commitment, the long hours and the constant stress on your mind. And after all that hard work to see your child going in the wrong direction is heartbreaking. What your son needs is a good role model, someone that can show him what the other side of life has to offer. There are a lot of comminuty programs where kids can enroll for free and even be connected with a mentor. I would also not let him move back in the house with me. There comes a time when a kid needs to grow up, especially when they demand things. Let him learn lifes lessons and figure out how to make some money to support himself. I come from a Indian background and in our tradition we always stay with the family, even after marriage. But I can tell you when I was younger, the more my mother spoiled me the lazier I become. I moved in and out of the house, becasue I knew my mom would never say no. In the back of my head I always had this safety net (my mom). This ruined a lot of opportunities for me. Not until my father passed that I finally realized what life is about. I went from being lazy, smoking pot, drinking, hainging out with the wrong crowd....to realizing that life has more to offer. But this realization had a huge price tag (My father). Give him a chance at life and let him go out on his own for a little bit. Its a hard step to take, but in this situation it might be the best one. He needs to learn respect, honor, and hard work. That wont happen until you remove your safety net and let him fall ones in a while. I wish you all the best and understand your frustration and pain fully. I'm sorry that mothers have to go through such pain. And you are 100% right when you said that every mother deserves flowers and cards. I think every mother deserves anything she wants. A mother brought me into this life, so I owe it all to her.
2016-04-07 02:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all Sister, I'd like to say how sorry I am to hear what's happened. Thanks to Jehovah that all is well with your daughter and her children. That must have been a traumatic experience for them.
so many people are on medications these days, and it's easy to become addicted to them. Why is he taking pain pills? Is it for an injury or a disability? Not trying to be nosy or anything.....just wondering.
Have your daughter look in the yellow pages under MENTAL HEALTH AGENCIES and see what they offer as far as funding. Also, she might be able to apply for emergency food stamps for the children.....considering what's happened.
Much love to you and your family. I will keep you in my prayers.
Agape love
2007-10-03 12:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by sugarbee 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your daughter's domestic problems.
Talk to hospital billing. They have numbers you can call. They are very helpful. After all, they want their money, no matter where it comes from.
If they can't help that way, you can still work out a payment plan that best suits your daughter's ability to pay.
2007-10-03 12:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by LineDancer 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
They will telll you there is and hand your a big circle of numbers without any conclusions.........
2007-10-03 11:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should think about a divorce. Make him pay for it himself.
2007-10-03 11:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 6⤋