my oldest child is starting grade school what do i do?

Question

My little boy is 5 and starting kindergarden how do i handle this and what do i do?

its half a day for now because hes in kindergarden,...hes usually good when hes away from me..but he keeps telling me hes scared and does not want to go....i dont know why he would be scared he was not this scared in preschool.

hes my oldest...and its going to be a rough time for both of us..any parenting tips for me??

i still have 3 other kids that will start grade school 1 is starting preschool this year and the twins are not born yet...

Answer 1

I cried like a baby when my youngest started kindergarten last year but not as bad as I did when her older sister started a few years before that. Whatever you do, DO NOT let him see you upset (crying, etc.). Do like I did and hide your tears until you're back in your car or at home. Tell him how proud of him you are and how many friends he is going to make - things like that. Honey, my heart goes out to you and I'm not trying to scare you, but things don't get any easier the older they get. Good luck!

Answer 2

He's just got anxiety about all the new things happening in his new environment. Point out the good things, over and over. Help him think of some cool things. Celebrate his first week of school, his second, whatever with a treat at weeks end. Ask the teacher for her advice and how he does in class after settling in in the mornings. Most of the boys take the seperation of kindergarten really hard, but they adjust and learn beautifully.

Kindergarten is a magical year and you'll love it when it gets going. He goes in knowing very little; by years end he can write, he can count to 100, he can spell, he can READ!! Get ready for some great learning and growing! Be excited with him and for him until he's happy too. This will pass, I promise.

Answer 3

don't let him go!!! j/k

is it all day or half a day?

has he been with you every day up until now or has he been at day care and pre-school?

is he ok being seperated from you or does he freak out?

depending on how you answer these questions will depend on how you should prepare him.

Let him know that everything is going to be ok. That you are just a phone call away if he really needs you. That the other kids are starting out just like him. Walk through the classroom with him, I think they usually have an open house. Try to answer all his questions. By the end of the first week, it will be like he has always attended school.

Answer 4

prepare him for it by talking about it a little bit. go to open house before the first day of school so he can see what the school is like and meet his teacher. make sure you get a supplies list and make sure you have the supplies ready for his 1st day. on the first day of school take him into the classroom. don't act like it's a huge deal, and if he seems anxious or cries do not give him too much attention. otherwise it will reinforce this clingy behavior. when it's time for you to leave, tell him you will see him later and walk out. resist the urge to dramatize his first day and it will help him ease into it. then when he gets out of school don't be late picking him up, be there waiting for him.

one other idea, you might want to take a camera so you can get a picture of him on his first day of school ; 0 ) he will do fine, and you will too.

Answer 5

He is scared and doesn't want to go because this is a new environment for him. What YOU need to do is not enable his neediness, take him to school (or put him on the bus) and tell him he is going to school. Eventually he will get used to things and there won't be anymore "I don't want to go"

Answer 6

Encourage him to have fun at school. Be supportive of the new challenges he will have and take an interest in his work.