I really long for someone special....and I feel they aren't allowing me to live normally.
2007-10-03 10:30:23 · 49 answers · asked by modern_elegance 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The heart is more treacherous than anything else and is desperate. Who can know it? Jeremiah 17:9 In addition to harboring wrong desires, the heart can deceive a youth into thinking that he knows better than his parents, even though they have much more experience. There are good reasons, however, for you to seek your parents’ help when navigating the difficult teenage years.
Apart from their God-given duty to guide you, your Christian parents are likely the most qualified to act as your advisers. That is primarily because they know you so well and have no doubt shown their selfless love for you over many years. They speak from experience. They themselves have experienced “the desires incidental to youth.” And as true Christians, they have personally seen the value of following Bible principles.—2 Timothy 2:22.
2007-10-03 10:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by babydoll 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why? I know it is maybe difficult to understand, your hormones or your body chemistry is dictating your choices. And that is not to say, you should not do what you feel. Till you understand yourself more. You will be on "automatic", which most people are doing. "I feel they aren't allowing me to live normally" is exactly what I am saying. Just because you feel it is true. Does not mean it is true. Not every lady your age has a boyfriend.
Find a guy or guys, who can be your "special" friend. Talk to him and share with him. It will be good for both you and the guys. I think this is what your parents meant by not allowing you.
Good luck and have some fun with life.
2007-10-03 10:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by gbdelta1954 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 16 and I'm not allowed to have a bf. It's mainly because of a cultural difference. Where my parents grew up, people didn't have bfs and gfs, they were just arranged to get married. But I definetly have had a bf or two in the past, without my parents knowing. I'm not saying that's the right thing to do though. My advice for you is to have a chat session with your parents. Tell them what's up and maybe you could come to an agreement. I DIDN'T have a bf when I was 13 though, I think that age is a bit young. But good luck anyways!
2007-10-03 10:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by niners1800 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do find someone special at 13, by the time you're 15, they will no longer be so special. You will have changed that much. If you have a good friend, male or female, that's special enough. A good friend is hard to find, that's why so many people prefer dogs. A dog will not betray your secrets, only your snack stash. Besides, a dog will know if a boyfriend can be trusted or not. A dog can safe you a lot of heartbreak.
2007-10-03 10:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by Aunt Karen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not rebel against them. They aren't doing this to be mean. They are trying to look out for you. You will grow up too fast, enjoy being young and free to do the things in life you really want to do. If you have a boyfriend, you will be doing what he wants to do all the time. Once you start dating and having relations with someone, your life will never be the same. Please talk to your parents and try to understand what and why they are doing what they are.
2007-10-03 10:36:58 · answer #5 · answered by sammi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know the feeling!!! i wont go into cheesy stuff about being a good girl and stuff but i found it is better to just wait. what i did was just flirt at school and stuff all you want and when ur parents are there, ease it down a bit. if your parents ask, admit that u have a crush (though it might be more than that) and slowly expose more of your real self to them. i think that eventually they will understand and u and ur guyfriend will get to the first kiss stage!
one thing: if you want more time with your boyfriend, suggest a group date or something of the kind. invite your best friends and their crushes and go to a movie (great excuse to get out of your parents' house ;D)
2007-10-03 10:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by Eight Belles forever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't rebel. Getting a boyfriend means that you are looking to get married with that person. And 13 is way to young. They only want what's best for you. Besides, you can enjoy his company and the company of your other friends. I'm 13 too and I don't have a boyfriend because I know I'm not ready for marriage.
2007-10-03 10:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by Popcorn 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
At 13 you are not going to find someone "special". That being said, have you talked to them about the reasons that you are not allowed to date. Are you responsible and get good grades? If you have proven your self to be responsible, try for group dates. That is less pressure for you and your parents. Also advise them that they can chaperone on the group dates, maybe they can drive everyone to the movies or dances and to the pizza parlor and sit away from you. This allows you both to benefit.
2007-10-03 10:34:06 · answer #8 · answered by shellybellycocoapuff 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, they know what they are talking about, 13 year olds cannot maintain relationships, they almost always go down the tubes, plus what you think is "special" will be totally different in 5 years, you dont want to make any mistakes you will regret.
2007-10-03 10:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by Seargent Gork 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would not rebel. It is only going to make your life a whole lot worse. Why are you in such a rush? I mean you are only 13, and I know that it feels like everyone is dating, but they aren't. Maybe you can talk to your parents about allowing you to hang out in groups. This helped with my mom, just don't lose their trust.
2007-10-03 10:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋