My sister has lost a lot of weight and she keeps losing it. My mom and her went to the doctor and the doctor said she should go to a counselor. My dad is really nosy but he doesnt live with us and my sister never listens to him because he thinks he's just being a fake dad, so when he heard about it, he just gave her a lecture and that just made my sister more mad. My mom said something about her eating healthier and now she wont listen to my mom. She talks to me about it, but i dont want her to stop talking to me because then nobody will no whats going on. I have no idea what to say to her and I dont know if I should tell my parents because they will just say that i told them things to her and she wont want to talke to me. I know this sounds really bazarre, but if you have any advice, please answer because Im really confused. I know I should just tell my parents, but I dont know exactly how theyd handle it and I dont want to make it worse for my sister because she might get really sick
2007-10-03 10:14:41 · 10 answers · asked by l123l 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't rat out your sister- it will only cut her off from you and leave everyone confused. Instead, talk to her and explain how serious what she's doing is. Communicate with her so you know if something really serious happens, but make sure she knows that what she's doing is NOT okay.
2007-10-03 10:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are times when it's more important to break a confidence than to keep it and this may be one of them.
Unless you can help your sister with the mental stress and physical problems that are a part of anorexia then you need to get her some help. Talking to you is helping her a little bit but it's not going to help her deal with the deeper issues. The only way she's going to get that kind of help is if she's under the care of doctors and/or therapists.
As you don't have the resources to get her that help you need to tell the people who do. You need to tell your parents just how serious this is. If they can't or won't get her the help she needs then you need to go to the next level and talk to guidance counselors, teachers, coaches, other family, friends and/or religious personnel until you find someone who can help.
It may be that your sister will be mad at you and stop talking to you. But if you get her the help she desperately needs then at least she'll be alive to have the chance to forgive you in the future.
2007-10-03 13:49:26 · answer #2 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister was anorexic when I was growing up. I knew it and so did almost everyone else but no one did a thing about it. My mother was too busy working and taking care of everything else to really do anything and my daddy didn't concern himself with these things. So it went unmentioned and she almost died. The best advice I can give is to go on the net and find articles showing and telling about the adverse effects of anorexia. Give her facts to go on instead of other people's opinons and arguments. You are probably right that telling your parents wont do much good but they do need to know so they can get her help. Some parents prefer to be oblivious. If this is the case, then telling them may do more harm than good. I'm sorry that my advice isn't worth much but if my sister had known what she was doing to the inside of her body it might have helped her understand that it was more than just losing weight. It was killing her organs and she didnt even know it. Facts are worth more to a person dealing with things like this than everyone else's opinons, so help her by giving her facts.
2007-10-03 10:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your sis is rebelling from anyone who doesn't support her unhealthy eating habits. Anorexics usually have a big problem with control. Other people controlling them and their own ability to control themselves. Eating is one thing she has absolute control over. I'm willing to bet the source of her problems revolve around her relationship with mom and dad.
As far as to tell or not, your parents probably already suspect what's going on. Your right to be worried about her pushing you away as well. My advice would be to try and help her to see that your parents love her and want to be there for her. Maybe you shouldn't mention her eating issues and concentrate on her giving mom and dad a second chance. They can and will help her. If she resists your help or gets any worse then definitely tell your parents, but make sure your honest with her and let her know what your doing and why.
Good luck.
2007-10-03 10:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by kmarbone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone girl, it could save sisters life. As for her getting sick, if she does not get help she is going to get sick and could die. It is a lot of weight on you, but you are in the driver seat right now. And in a place were you can and should help her.
2007-10-03 10:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by zipper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 01:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by mcglothlen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
or she may aleady be really sick, you need to tell your parents. as a parent, it's hard to realize when a your child has a problem, but they will have to understand and get help for your sister. it's good she has you to talk to. she will thank you later. but please go to your parents.
2007-10-03 11:14:48 · answer #7 · answered by D T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
record it when she talks to you. hide the thing your recording it with and then when she is not around have your parents listen to it. tell her that it needs to stop. here are a few sites:
http://www.mamashealth.com/anorexia.asp
http://www.eating-disorder.com/Eating-Treatment/Eating-Disorders/anorexia-nervosa.htm
2007-10-03 10:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by emily s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should tell ur parents...
cuz it would really effect ur sister's life later on and u'd regret it if u didnt tell ur parentss now...
cuz she needs help ! FAST !
2007-10-03 10:30:38 · answer #9 · answered by Sidu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur parents,NOW!
2007-10-03 10:19:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋