my child has always gotten along with all his teachers and been a "favorite". this year (new school) has been a nightmare. he's been bullied, not allowed to use the restroom... it just goes on and on. i have him seeing a counselor and she says that the school hasn't handled some situations well at all. they keep blaming me for his behavior. when i finally asked that he be placed at a table away from the kid that is bullying him, his behavior dramatically improved. he's gotten all A's and does all his classwork. before that, they wanted to know what was going on at home on the weekends that would make him act the way he did on mondays. the counselor confirmed that he REALLY HATES his "friend" the bully. yesterday the teacher wouldn't let him go #2 until he finished the classwork. he left for the bathroom anyway. we saw the counselor yesterday afternoon and she said they should have let him go to the bathroom. he ended up in a big scuffle with the teacher. what do i do?
2007-10-03 10:08:44 · 11 answers · asked by (!)listen 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
what makes u think he goes to the bathroom alot? this is the first time it's come up. he didn't want to cr@p in his pants.
2007-10-03 10:47:55 · update #1
Make an appointment to see the teacher after school. Try and resolve things amicably. Dont be angry with the teacher but that does not mean you cannot be firm about your expectations. Sometimes you need to join the dots for people - your child acted out on Monday's because of anxiety of having to go back to school into a battleground. The poor baby.
Ask the counsellor to write a letter to the school confirming that he has been bullied even have the counsellor thank them for accommodating the move to a different seat. A letter from the counsellor will just confirm to the teacher and school how serious the bullying issue was and request that the school be understanding on the issue.
In respect to the bathroom issue. Get the teachers side of the story. They deserve the opportunity to give their side. Why would she not allow your son to go to the bathroom when he was so desperate. Then make a decision. If you feel the teacher has behaved inappropriately then go to the Prinicpal.
2007-10-03 11:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like the teacher needs to change some of her tactics. Keep advocating for your child as a parent and going thru the counselor to settle disputes. Not all teachers are good teachers which is why some dont get their contracts renewed. If this begins to affect his grades or he becomes extremely stressed, insist that he be transferred to another class. Your child has the right to get an education free of harassment from the bully and the teacher.
2007-10-03 10:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by Diane M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at it from the teacher's standpoint. It sounds like he does ask to use the bathroom A LOT. I teach kindergarden. The same 5 kids ask to use the bathroom on the hour, every hour. I usually say yes; however, I sometimes say NO.
These kids just want to get out of the room. More then half the time, they are goofing off with other kids in the hallway or playing in the drinking fountain. Perhaps the teacher is thinking your child is just trying to escape and doesn't really have to go at all.
I wouldn't get angry at the teacher. Trust me, no teacher wants a kid to have an accident on the floor or anything.
I would have a small conference with her after school. Let him know, your child really needed to go. Maybe they can have a code word for when he really, really needs to use the bathroom.
However, you have to make sure your son understand that he can't "cry wolf" so to speak with the bathroom.
Unless, the child has a medical condition or drinks a gallon of water a day..........they shouldn't have to use the bathroom 5 or 6 times in a 6 hour school day. Maybe 2-3 times tops.
EDIT: I assumed he needed to use the bathroom a lot b/c you mentioned it in context with the bully. Kids who are frequently picked on, tend to try to escape the situation. For example, they may always get a stomach ache before going out to recess b/c they get picked on during that time. Or, they don't like to ride the bus b/c of the bully, so they "accidently" forget to get on.
In your context, you talked about how your son use to sit next to the bully. So, I assumed he asked to go to the bathroom alot, since you talked about that too. Especially, since you said this was not the first time he was denied.
2007-10-03 10:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by Je Adore 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
switch teachers, or schools.
but I would do this after going to the principle and if the principle doesn't listen to what you have to say then I would go to the school board. I would try to talk to the teacher but that might not work.
keep on keepin' on. Don't let the kid or the school get the best of you. Maybe you should ask the school what is going on in the bullies life that he has to treat your son the way he does.
2007-10-03 10:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by treppab 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find this all a bit hard to believe, IF your son WERE seeing a counselor then they would not only be working with your son and you they would also be working with the school. You've made no mention of how the counselor and school are dealing with things as partners you only discuss what his counselor "says" and what the school "does". I don't buy it.
2007-10-03 14:24:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you can change the school he is going to. or you can put a recorder in his pocket and have him leave it on all day so you can hear what is going on. you can also go to the school district. i remember a teacher not letting me go to the bathroom,#2 and i became constipated.
2007-10-03 10:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by emily s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would talk to the principle and say that if the problems continue or they dont put him in a different class then just switch schools! that sounds so terrible...
2007-10-03 10:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats a really harsh school if you could tell us the age of your kid it might help if you dont fell comftable divolging that I understand I would not umm I would see if you could get him in a different class
2007-10-03 10:13:31 · answer #8 · answered by redbeluga 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would talk to the principal and also see if you can get him in a different classroom if that is possible. Poor baby!
2007-10-03 10:13:31 · answer #9 · answered by Summer Days 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the younger boy more commonly does not recognize what he would have, like a mom who needs him and loves him. i believe you will have to name baby protecting offerings. but when you do not then whilst he grows up he'll gain knowledge of and stroll away himself
2016-09-05 16:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by pogue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋