Would you consider this to be a snarky response?

Question

I'm throwing a party, but I'm growing concerned about the attendees, or the lack of them. I've been kicking around the idea of canning the party idea, and go out to a nice dinner with the definite party goers (a whopping five people). I mentioned this idea to one of the guest of honors good friends (I kind of drafted her as my accomplice and I don't think she is too thrilled about her new "job") and she told me "I'm not in the mood for that. I want to sleep and some R&R this weekend". What in the...so does this mean you don't want to attend the party either? I tend to get bent out of shape rather easily (I can admit it!). Was this comment a little snappy? Does this need smoothing over or should I just leave it and commence to planning solo?

Answer 1

Of course this good friend might just not want to deal w. it. But it is a bit snarky to not just say that. It is her freind as well and she should appreciate what you are trying to do. This is the person you enlisted?

Here is the bit. So you have a party at home. You buy the liquor and other beverages. How much to have if you don't know who is showing. You spend some time making some snacks. Again how much to have? You clean the house and make things nice.

There are two ways to do it. You do it yourself, have it at home and only invite they main 5. Tell this friend that she is either in or not. Make it really nice for 5 (like a dinner party) and that's that. Last minute people will show but they need to show later as you have planned a special evening.

Or bag it and do the dinner out. The guest of honor? You make arrangements so that they do not get a check for whatever they have. This will show class. If you can afford it and depending on your crowd..... pick it all up. I bet others will want to contribute anyway. Those who just show.... they are on their own. You have already made arrangements, gotten there early and instructed the staff on the bills.

I vote dinner and hit a pub later. Cut out this other person regardless of what you do when making plans. Bet you she will later be the first one to want to attend.

Answer 2

Well, it doesn't sound like she's a "definite party goer", but more of an "I'll come if I feel like it" guest.

What is the party for? What would the guest of honor prefer? Is he/she more of a stay at home with a few close friends or a go out and party kind of person? Maybe you should just ask the guest of honor which they would prefer. I would definitely not count on the help of the "R&R" chick!!!

Answer 3

I wouldn't worry so much about her comment, she probably didn't mean anything by it. Though, I don't understand her comment. How is going to a restaurant any less relaxing than a dinner party? However, if she isn't too happy helping you, she'll probably be more of a hindrance in the planning. It might be best to go solo. Is she the kind of person you can be direct with? Do you know her well enough to ask her outright? If she is, I'm always in favor of tactful honesty.

Answer 4

I think I'd just announce to the people present that you think it would be a great idea to go out for dinner and maybe a movie, then take votes or ask what they all think. Wouldn't worry about your draftee, sounds like she was not in a party mood anyway.

Answer 5

Sounds like she just needs a brain dead weekend of bumming, junk fooding and slobbing out. If she was a guy I'd say and College Football starting at noon Satruday through midnight Saturday night.
Then NFL Football and NASCAR starting at noon Sunday through eleven Sunday night.

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Answer 7

As one easy-bender to another, I wouldnt worry too much about what she said. People don't always choose their words as we would have chosen them - though of course, they should! :)

Whatever you do, have a good time.