so i met this guy at work who i was was friends with first. i had a bf at the time but i broke up with him last week. well i strated to fall for this guy but i had a bf so we couldnt be together at the time but i told him i would leave my bf for him. he said he wasnt ready for a relationship yet bc he had to help his dad take care of his lil brother. well he strated treating me like his gf and i liekd it. he would kiss me all the time say how beautiful i was give me cute little nicknames, cal me all the time and dicth work to be with me all day. well then he strated acting weird every ohter week. he would barel;y talk to me at wokr or act like he didnt want anything to do wiht me. well last week i broke up with my bf to be withim now he is totally ignoring me i think he is also seeing another girl at work but not tellin gme. well today i havent said one word to him bc i always intiate conversations so i wanted to see if he would talk to me but he hasnt. im so heartbroken whats up him
2007-10-03 08:26:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He isn't ready for a relationship and when he started getting closer to you he had to pull away. Maybe he was hurt in the past. JUst give him some time to think things over but don't lose touch with him just yet.
2007-10-03 08:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by Smiley =] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you made a mistake by breaking up with your bf to be with him when he told you that he wasn't ready for a relationship, and I'm sure that's why he is avoiding you, because now you are available. He could be seeing someone else and that's likely the other reason for him not wanting to be in a relationship. So if he doesn't say anything, just forget about it and move on. There's someone out there who deserves you and will treat you better.
2007-10-03 08:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by goodgirlabout2gobad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it girls think "I'll ditch my boyfriend for you" is some kind of compliment. It's isn't. It only makes you look bad. Here's what it tells a guy - we can't trust you. How could we ever trust a girl who would ditch one guy for another. We certainly don't want to put ourselves in between those cross hairs.
You had a boyfriend but allowed him to treat you like a girlfriend. You had a boyfriend but allowed him to kiss you all the time, ditch work to spend time with you, and call you all the time.
Plus, he told you he didn't want a relationship.
Plus, the stress that comes with dating a co-worker.
Why would he want to get involved with you? I'm sorry that you now reap what you have sowed, but it was just a bad idea from the start.
2007-10-03 08:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the tough situation and I urge you to cool it off. I am sure he is seeing someone at work and he is in a bad situation. He does not know what to do and trying to get away by not saying. This is not right and you need to be bold asking him why. You do not need to be sad if things go wrong. He is not the right person for you and move on as fast as you can. It is a bad timing for you and do not think something wrong with you. He is not the one as well as your ex. It is about time to go fish in the sea. Good luck.
2007-10-03 08:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by ryladie99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he liked you before because you were someone elses gf. he also told you he is not ready to commit because he is taking care of his little brother. When you told him you will leave your bf for him and you actually did, it scared him because he doesnt want to commit and now in a way you are pressuring him to be your bf. He clearly didnt want that, he just wanted to have fun with you bc you were with someone else.
Guys are like that.
2007-10-03 08:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by BerryPink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't ready for a relationship, he's not ready for a relationship. I know that you may feel like you guys would be meant for each other but maybe he's not the type that wants to settle down in that way just yet. He probably just like harmless flirting and didn't think you'd actually take it that seriously.
2007-10-03 08:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he didn't want a relationship because he is playing with you. He likes to see girls fall for him because it boosts his ego. If you really don't think this is a possibility than you should try talking to him.
Ask him whats up? Why is he ignoring you, is his little brother ok? Is there somebody else? Anything that will give you closer. Hope this helped. Good luck.
2007-10-03 08:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by identicalsnowflake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said from the very beginning that he wasn't ready for a relationship. ALWAYS believe them when they say that and don't think you will change their mind! He wanted some fun and you having a boyfriend made you more irresistible. Forget him and move on.
2007-10-03 08:39:29 · answer #8 · answered by Paula D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never break up with someone for someone else. I strongly believe what goes around comes around. That guy just wanted you because he probably didn't want to commit to you now that your single he's scared and don't want talk to you because he know you're single now. Move on
2007-10-03 08:32:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it sounds like he wanted you to stay with your bf so he wouldn't have to make a commitment to you. He probably is seeing someone else. Best thing to do is act like you don't care, even if you do. Don't be rude, just indifferent.
2007-10-03 08:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by Craze E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋