I'M sooooooooo scared to have a boyfriend?

Question

im 18 and have never had a boyfriend. i've never been on a date, kissed a boy, held hands or anything. i really want a boyfriend but im scared and nervous. the thought of having someone that loves me and thinks of me when im not there makes me feel nervous and uncomfortable. like when i find out a boy that i like, likes me back i'll avoid him.

uhhhhhhhhhh...am i weird and immature and how do i get over this. also, boys seem to have no interest in me so what can i do to change this

Answer 1

iM SOORRYY BUT THATS JUST TOO MUCH TOO HANDLE
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Answer 2

I'm a little confused. You said that when you find a boy that you like and he likes you, you then avoid him but then you later say that boys don't normally like you. ???

You must be doing something right, no?

You have to relax. It's not a big deal. You could try going on a group date until you feel more comfortable. I think you are overthinking things. Just chill. Take care of yourself. Dress nice. Fix your hair and put on a little makeup. Focus on other things. Know what you want. It will change a bit when you start dating as you get to know boys/men. But there is a lot you don't know so you have to be more open. If you overthink it then you will be continually stuck where you are and that's not healthy. It's not enjoyable. So.. get out there. You aren't alone. Everything will be fine. Just avoid the jerks. Don't settle for what you don't want. Be in control. Accept how you feel. It's ok.

Answer 3

Don't be scared. But you probably feel weird when you find out that someone out of no where all of a sudden likes you, get to know some of these guys to help you feel comfortable. Overall you find a boyfriend when you're ready and right now it seems like you're not. It's not werid or immature.

Answer 4

I was just like you. Except I was 19.
It very scary to have an obligation, isn't it?
You want it, but you're scared of it at the same time.
I know how you feel.
It's normal. Everybody's different and you just haven't found the right one.
I was too aggressive towards boys and every boy I liked avoided me.
But, then, a prince showed up and everything was just right. :)
Don't worry, this will happen to you too.
You will still be a little scared in the beginning, but everything will come to it's place. Trust me.

Answer 5

dear you you you,

if you break down the word "boyfriend", you'll find that it means a friend who happens to be a boy. Not much scary about that, is there?

There's no requirement or special skills necessary to have a friend who's a boy. And if you make friends with a boy, you can usually always let the friendship move in any direction you want it to, at the speed you want it to.

If there's someone you like who seems to like you, don't be shy about asking if he likes you. Let him know you like him, and would like to be friends with him.

Friendships aren't all about dating, or kissing, or even holding hands with someone, although all of those things can be special, when you want them to be. Friendships are about talking together, sharing thoughts, doing fun things together and the company you each have with each other.

If boys seem to have no interest in you, maybe it's because you haven't seemed to be interested in them. Boyfriends, like girlfriends to boys, don't just arrive out of the blue. If you reach out, maybe a boy will overcome his shyness and be a friend to you.

Answer 6

hun, you are not werid. i know what your saying. i personally havnt had a bf in a while and i personally feel good about myself..sure at times im like..dang will i eve find someone? but then i think i already have good people in my life so theres no reason to be complaining and freaking out that im gonna be lonely my whole life but i mean ur not immature..i know cominment scares people..its like eh i dont even kno how to be in a relationship right?..i kno cuz i feel the same way..but people (guys two) are gonna care and have feelings for you..nomater what you say..you gotta let people in..dont shut them out..i found this out..i mean thats why ur having probs with guys having interest with you..you have to be confident..you wnt someone go for them..dont be so done on yourself. youll find someone..dont speed up the process..youll find someone when the time is right..i mean everything is meant to happen for a reason..and youll find someone when the feeling is right..thats the best advice i can give hun..good luck

Answer 7

Your attitude about yourself leads you to believe nobody's interested. I'd say it's natural to be scared about going on a date or kissing or whatever if you haven't before.. you're just nervous and want everything to be good... which is good. But.. I don't see why your scared or nervous that someone might think about you.. I think about my girlfriend all the time, because I love her, not because I'm a weirdo..

Answer 8

I am your age and I have just got my first and hopefully only girlfriend and I haven't kissed her yet either I plan on waiting until marriage
I think you are more immature then those who go out and have sex and zillion relationships before they marry and then they divorce and do it again most of the time
wait for the right person don't rush it
If you want a boyfriend show yourself friendly.

Answer 9

There ar emany issues here and the best person to help you is either a psycholigist or a school counselor. It seems that you have a relationship problem, a self esteem problem and are afraid of many other things. Go to a psychologist, you'll see that your problem is quite common and this person will help you solve many issues affecting you and eventually, with no pressure, you'll handle a boy friend.

Answer 10

I don't know what you are so nervous about. You are going to have to get out and start dating sooner or later, why would avoid someone who likes you? If you keep avoiding guys they will have no interest in you, they may think you don't like guys at all. So face your fears...you can do it!

Answer 11

It sounds like someone has hurt you in the past and you have some issues with trusting. I'd recommend you find someone you share a common interest in, like cycling, or a book club (don't know what you like) and just get to know someone as a friend. Don't rush the other part. If he likes you and you like him as friends, it can develop much easier from there.
Have you tried www.dearpatty.blogspot.com?