how should you react if you feel people are demonizing and alienating you because you have borderline?

Question

personality disorder?

how are you supposed to go on when you just want to recover and be loved, liked and accepted?

ive had a long mental health history and i seriously worry theres people who will use that against me and ostracize me because i have borderline personality disorder..
i already live alone, dont have any friends, never been employed....had an exceptionally rough time...and now i feel ruined and hopeless.
im 30 now.
everytimes i talk about my goals and dreams in life its like no one supports me on it.......its like i walk alone with my ambitions in life...which are to emigrate from the uk, far away, to a hot climate and build a new life.....meet good christian friends...a fiance wholl love me for who iam....these are my dreams...and no matter how bad things get i dont want to give up on them..
i walk alone in life...in a cold, dark empty place....in my cold lonely heart its like the antarctic..isolated & alone thinking how i can reach these goals & find happines

im sat here in this one bedroom apartment......its dark now outside.....im filled with panic and anxiety.......all i have is my mum to ring and talk to......but even she only understands up unto a point and blames me for my past..........she says im not trying hard enough in life....she said '' you'll do so much, then you just stop''...............i feel she can be really hard on me..........i can here the hooligans that live in my area, shouting and making noise.......which is just aggrevating my anxiety even more

Answer 1

It begins with one step at a time. Nothing changes...if nothing changes. Decide what you are able to do to accomplish your goals. Do one small thing toward that goal every day. For example, Christian friends...Tomorrow morning when you get up, look up the names and phone numbers of church(es) you would be interested in going to. The next day...call one of them (two, if inclined) and find out when services are and verify their location. The next day...if transportation is a problem, figure out how to get there. Drive your car, take a cab, a bus, a friend drives you, whatever...
Be pro-active. I know that it can be really difficult, but try to be patient. Take on one task and break it down. Things will change gradually in your life. Just have a plan every day.

Answer 2

Keep the faith buddy but get out of the kitchen. The social rejection is real . Get a fast overnight campout at a resort. Then plan to travel and work as you go. Bipolar at thirty means low wages anywhere. You will have to keep notes about life and find one new friend who will tell you a few secrets of life. Don't call Mom before Thanksgiving. Depression is all about friends and family

Answer 3

I have to wonder if the alienation and demonizing are happening because of your mental issue or your attitude. People tend to steer clear of negative people because they don't want to be brought down.

In order to make your goals in life, an attitude adjustment is tantamount or you will not get very far. I understand there are mental issues you are struggling with. Be diligent with your meds, and try to see life in a lighter more positive way. People tend to gravitate toward those who make them feel good and you might be inadvertently bringing them down.

Answer 4

times that I have been In the hospital for depression I would have some boarder line try to manipulate me and play games and me having disthymiea ( a very rare type of depression) I very easily manipulated I mean these people would harm them self's If they didn't get their way the sad thing is that boarder lines can be cured all they half to do is change their behavior behavior modification does work but the sad thing is that they don't want to change Now you know why people don't want to be around boarder lines Its the manipulation tactics change your behavior and people will start accepting you as a friend because of my friendly nature you can Email me I would like to help ([e-mail])

Answer 5

Who are the people demonizing you and alienating you? Are they friends and family? If they are strangers or co-workers, they really shouldn't need to know the details of your psychiatric condition.

OTOH, your question alone does suggest (and even exhibit) some paranoia and other symptoms and signs that go along with BPD.

Are you in treatment for this? You might want to confer with your health professional. There are techniques and treatments that will help you live better (and coexist better with others) with this condition.

~Laura

Answer 6

honestly. i've only read the first two paragraphs, but here's what you should do. stop feeling sorry for yourself. everyone is alienated in society by some people but most of us understand that has a really simple solution. ignore them

Answer 7

get information on missionary work in the U.S and dedicate your life and good heart to something really worthwhile.
If you have no responsibilities where you are you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
look up the 700 club and organizations like that and you won't have to be a ghost in the desert anymore but an angel in someone elses life.
pray for guidance,it will happen for you.

Answer 8

Have you ever thought of getting help? There's plenty of organizations out there that are more than willing to help those of us with mental problems, or if you don't feel like talking to anyone, try email the Samaritans, they helped me out when I needed it.

Answer 9

Keep the faith, buddy. Don't dwell on dark things. And above all, take your meds! Good luck. You can get there!

Answer 10

chances are, you probably have hurt others and they may resent you. You need to be around people who forgive.