A friend (we are not close, but friends) had a family member die. I do not know the family memeber, but they left behind a wife with 5 children. Should i put money in the card? I know when my father died, we really appreciated money and put it all towards a donation in his name. This persons brother died, and he doesn't live here in town, but i am wondering if i gave her money, if she would know to give it to her widowed sister in law?
2007-10-03 08:09:47 · 15 answers · asked by Amy J 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Maybe you could put the money in another envelope in the card and write "to assist with funeral expenses" on it.
2007-10-03 08:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by Lepke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people tell on the invitation for the viewing or in the paper under the Obit. if there is a place you can make donations to a college fund or something. Giving them a check or something might be misconstrued. I would contact a family member and find out before I did anything.
2007-10-03 08:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by KC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you do that, I would check with a close family member, the funeral home, or even the obituary. If they specifically need financial assistance, sometimes families will set up a fund at a bank where the money can be sent directly.
2007-10-03 08:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by kaz716 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send her a Sympathy Card and then make a donation to bonafide charity in his name for the illness he died from...
Heart attack, American Heart Association
Luekemia, The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society
Killed by a drunk driver, MADD
I'm sure you get the idea... Most of these organizations will take donations over the internet too...
2007-10-03 08:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send it to the funeral home or the widow. Not to say your friend isn't trustworthy, but in this hectic time with getting funeral arrangements done and stuff, the money might not get to the widow.
2007-10-03 08:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by J-Dawn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet would be to find out the name and address of the funeral home and send a check there and make sure it's made out for that person's memorial or family fund.
2007-10-03 08:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by Kiki 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to send money to help out you could always send a card directly to the widowed sil.
2007-10-03 08:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by R R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give a check in the sister-in-laws name.
2007-10-03 08:16:46 · answer #8 · answered by staymay 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dieing is a huge expense for family. I don't think it inappropriate to help defer costs.
2007-10-03 08:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by peezim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sympathy card with money is great support those indivdual that are grieving.
2007-10-03 08:30:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jewel E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋