I've been seeing this guy for a few months now. We began our "journey" as an agreed "friends with benefits". We see each other 1-2 times per week and IM or text on most days.
I really enjoy spending time with him and we really have alot in common. We make each other laugh, we have the same goals in life, and we are both dedicated to our careers. Most of the time we get together it is for the "benefits", however, there are times that we also go out to dinner, driving, that sort of thing.
I am starting to feel more than friends with him and I don't know how to tell him without scarring him off. I don't feel like I "love" him because he hasn't earned that emotion yet, but I do know that I like him alot and that I can see myself with him and don't want to see anyone else. Neither one of us is currently dating anyone else. He's never been married, but I am divorced with a 17 year old.
I hope this is enough information, but if you have questions, please ask!!
2007-10-03 07:58:36 · 8 answers · asked by Julie H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Been there on his end..you know, to be honest...he probably really digs you too and just isn't in the know that you want more. Just let it roll like it is and eventually when you guys see each other 4-6 days a week and start doing more and more things before and after the "benies", it will just evolve, that's what happened with me..seriously. Go for it though, you never know when it will come along again!!
2007-10-03 08:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she does not decide to draw close around with then you locate some new pals, if she ditches you, that's exhibiting adequate that she isn't a genuine chum, and does not delight in you lots.
2016-10-10 05:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Julie, while in the benefit position, tell him he's earning a feeling from you!
2007-10-03 08:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by david 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my advice prob ont help cuz im 14 and no one really listens to me...but i mean hun your first mistake was agreeing to be friends with benefits..i mean hes probably thinking oh yes ill get to have sex with her or make out with her for as long as i want..the best you can do is tell him how you feel..i mean if he really cares for you..it make exspress how he really feels..but again he may act like a jerk..but idk cuz i dont know what type of guy he is..but my best guess is to go for it..i mean atleast youll have your feelings out there and he`ll know where you stand you know?. its the best thing. plus dont stress yourself out about it..take your time to tell him..make sure its what you truly feel before saying it. good luck
2007-10-03 08:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's why friends with benefits doesn't work out, usually it's the woman who gets emotionally involved, find a real boyfriend, don't you think you deserve better than to be used for sex (that's what you're doing right now)
2007-10-03 08:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for it
2007-10-03 08:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by pogieboy316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a relationship based. on sex. What if you get tried of the sex?
2007-10-03 08:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
*Sings* "Another one bites the dust...hey, hey..."
Seriously, you can confront him about it. But, be prepared to not have your feelings reciprocated. This is why....again...FWBs don't work...women always get attached.
2007-10-03 08:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋