I'm told I'm beautiful and sexy and my colleagues wives hate me so muchhhhhhhhhh Arghhh?

Question

I work in an office with mostly men in their thirties and fourties, Im the receptionist in a car dealer yet some wives are SO rude with me when they call the office and ask to speak to their husbands, they met me once or twice and never even spoke to me. It's not like I flirt with their husbands, sometimes we go to lunch together or have a drink after work but it stays professional, even one man told me his wife doesn't like me just by looking at me, so I wore a mini skirt and low cut blouse at the christmas party!! So what anyway, What's wrong and how can I fix this issue? thanks all!!!

I agree that wasnt the best outfit to wear to a party with my colleagues yet you guys blame ME instead of the men there who were buying me drinks!! Bleh!! You women are jealous of hotties join a GYM!! I work hard for my body I wont hide it duhhhhhhhh

tgarza76 thank you for such a nice and SMART LEVEL-HEADED answer ;o)

green eyes join a GYM.

Answer 1

Trying talking to them. Just because they don't talk to you first doesn't mean you can't make the first move. Also, I'd suggest no more mini skirts.

Answer 2

Get over yourself... and here is a idea, dont wear a mini skirt and low cut blouse to a WORK RELATED christmas party with married men. I mean come on, if you were in the wives place what would you think? Be a little more professional. You must be doing something flirty and teasing the men. People arent going to hate you by seeing you one time unless you gave them some reason. If you were covered up and professional I dont think it should matter how attractive you are.

I DONT NEED TO JOIN A GYM I AM 5'4 AND 120 LBS! I JUST HAVE CLASS AND KNOW HOW TO BEHAVE IN A WORK ENVIRONMENT. YOU ARE LONLEY AND LOOKING FOR ATTENTION IN THE WRONG PLACES!

Answer 3

It's not proper for a single female to go out with a group of married men. Drinks after working at a car dealership is not "professional". Drinks after work is only professional if you would have issues that you need to discuss outside of the office.

Bad move to wear a mini and low cut blouse to a work related function! Show some class!!

They are probably insecure because their husbands talk about you to them. Nothing you can do about that. Just keep your relationship with the men limited to WORK (not drinks!) and don't dress provocatively, dress professionally.

Answer 4

Females are always going to get jealous of other women's beauty. It is a natural reaction. If you know that other women don't like you because of your beauty, don't make it worse by wearing a miniskirt and a low cut blouse when you meet the wives at parties. You can still be beautiful dressing conservatively, without dressing promiscuous. Also, don't go out with married men and go for drinks and dinner, stop doing that, you don't want to send the wrong message to their wives, when they find out.

Answer 5

I would say that it's not uncommon for women to be catty with other women, especially younger, hotter women that are around their husbands a lot. I think it stems from a fear that the men will look at you and not them, and all women value their physical/sexual attractiveness to men. So, they are jealous of a woman who is more physically attractive than them.

That's not your problem, of course. You don't have to ugly yourself up. You should always dress professionally, even at an office function. But even if you don't, that's still something between you and your employer.

Now, you asked "how can I fix this issue?" The only way you can is to somehow become friendly with these women. Instead of trying to show them up at a Christmas party, talk to them on an equal and friendly level. Introduce yourself. "Hi, I'm so and so, and I'm the receptionist. So glad to meet you! Your husband has said so many nice things about you...." That kind of thing.

Answer 6

I'm sure the blouse and mini skirt move really improved their opinion of you. Try dressing more conservatively, you're at work, dress like you're at work. And don't piss off the wives anymore, that will only get you fired, a guy can only listen to his wife complain about the slutty receptionist for so long before it becomes a pain in the butt.

Answer 7

Honey, you'd better clean up your act before you get canned. And believe me a coworker who is rude, snotty and disruptive - WILL get canned - no matter how cute/sexy etc. he/she is. The bottom line doesn't refer to your mini-skirt. If you disrupt business and irritate enough wives, you'll find yourself out in the cold - low cut blouse and all.

Surely there are at least a few who don't despise you - or is it something else that they despise?

Do you use excellent phone manners?
Are you genuinely happy to greet everyone?
Are you respectful at all times? even when others are not?
Are you discrete in everything you say/do?
Are you modest in your dress?

Actually, from your post - you can't say "yes" to even one of these things. So no wonder those wives hate you.

Remember honey, one of these days you'll be 40 and tired of raising children and soccer games. And you'll think back to those days when you were so snotty to your coworkers wives and wish you could say how shallow you are.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I've seen this and think it stinks. Being a man I don't understand it. There were some cute girls I worked with...they were really nice ladies but the other women just didn't like them because they were good looking and maybe got more attention?

Just continue to be professional and business like at work. Same with the wives that call. just be miss nice. If you show it bothers you then they are going to keep doing it.

Answer 10

Drinks after work??? You're lucky that all you get is ignored.
You should NEVER go out with married men, ever. You are a RECEPTIONIST, you do not work with them, you are not a colleague. So, you going out with them just makes you look like a groupie looking to get laid.
Don't dress like a s.lut any more either.

Answer 11

This is not so abnormal. When a girl sees another girl, who is prettier that her, of course she is going to feel threatened. It does not matter that you keep your relationship with your collegues strictly professional. They are going to feel threatened anyways. You know how paranoid we girls tend to get. All I can say is, treat them nice, even if they are completely disgusting with you. Hopefully, they will see the real you.
Wearing a hot outfit (x-mas party) only makes the situation worse.