I dumped a girl saturday before last. It was a hard decision to make, because I really care for her. She always told me she loved me, and I thought she meant it. But I don't think I was in love with her, which is why I ended it. I've never been so attached to a girl before, and we were together since January.
We're talking and (trying) to act like everythings cool between us. I have to see her every day, because we get the same train to school. She messaged me on bebo, and when I messaged her back I saw that she had been chatting to some new guy.... flirting. This was only a week after we broke up. Then on Monday morning she saw this guy (i dunno who he is) and walked away from me to him and kissed him. Then she got annoyed at me for being irritated... I mean c'mon... I thought our relationship would take more than a week to get over.
I don't think it would be a good idea for me to get back with her, cos we would probably have the same problems again. How can I make this easier?
2007-10-03 07:33:30 · 12 answers · asked by NONAME 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not some looser who's obsessed with the girl. I'm just hurt that I was only worth 1 week to her. Oh well, I guess. Plenty more fish in the sea and all that, but I still get frustrated whenever I think of her being with someone else already.
2007-10-03 07:34:52 · update #1
Some of you lot criticising me, trying to say I didn't care for her. You're wrong. I looked after her through some really hard times... I put her before everything else. Don't tell me I didn't care for her.
2007-10-03 07:47:58 · update #2
I'm in sixth form. She's in last year of compulsory school.
2007-10-03 09:05:17 · update #3
It sounds like your ego can't take it. You dumped her, what is she supposed to do cry and beg you to take her back? Even if she's doing this to make you jealous, what do you care? Leave the girl alone let her find someone else who'll really care for her.
Edit: If you care for her Chris, you'd want her to be happy. Right now it sounds like you're being selfish, I'm not trying to criticize. Think about it.
2007-10-03 07:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by icu 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In the first place I feel you broke up with her without giving the relationship time to grow. Could it be you only broke up as a way to see how she would reacte, was this a way for her to show you just how much she loves you? If so, you can see it never pays to play games with someone elses emotions. You say you thought the relationship would take more than a week to get over, yet you broke up with her after only a short time into the relationship. I feel you need to stop playing games and seriously ask yourself what it is you really want. If it is still your decision to break up then with it comes the fact of her possibly moving on whether it be a week or 4 months from the time you broke up. It should no longer be your concern. Best of luck to you!
2007-10-03 14:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She might just be acting like she is over you and flirting with other boys in front of you to try and make you jealous. Maybe she thinks if she gets you jealous enough, you'll take her back. A lot of girls play these games. It is best for you to just move on and find someone else who you will be more compatable with. Good luck!
2007-10-03 14:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone you just don't dump them, if you want her go get her. She may be wanting to make you jeoulous with someone eles, but if you are to late, just move on and count your blessings. Next time before you dump someone put a little more thought into it.
2007-10-03 15:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by bigjuggies79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably mad that you dumped her and is trying to get back at you. Try not to take it personally, she's probably just hurting and trying to make you hurt as much as she is. Sounds like its best that you are no longer together.
2007-10-03 14:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was in love with you, YOU DIDNT LOVE HER, you DUMPED her because you didnt love herr, she moved on and YOU are hurting?
She is doing whatever she needs to do to move on. Likelihood is, she realises that you werent worthy of her affection. If she is anything like me, she will barely give you a second thought because she realises that the relationship wasnt working out, and she has moved onto greener pastures.
WHy would you want someone that YOU dumped because you dont love her, to be suffering? Be happy for her!
2007-10-03 14:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
u dumped her & u expect her not to move on? i feel that is a bit ridiculous.u made the decision, not her...dont say u're assuming u're worth only a week....u to left her after 8 months...n how much is she worth to u when u were together? its unfair to judge her that way.
2007-10-03 14:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by kristy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you dumped her. She might be hurting INSIDE. She might have used him to MAKE you jealous. YOU don't know what's going on with her. I think she got over it. It will take longer to get over it. You might get over it before you know! I know you will be okay. =) xx
Email me if you need to talk xx
2007-10-03 14:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your still in school.... what makes you think that your both mature enough to have these feelings? It s just your hormones running riot.
2007-10-03 15:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by cheek_of_it_all 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you broke up with her you should not be jealous!!!!
you are stupid!!! she is not going to sit there and cry over a guy that didnt want her. maybe she is just trying to get over u and that is her way of doing it!!!
2007-10-03 14:39:23 · answer #10 · answered by beanner 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋