A month ago today my daughter passed away at age 14. It was out of no where she suffered a seizure that killed off all brain stem function (though for 4yrs she was on the waiting list for a lung transplant and had no history of seizures). Last night and early this morning as I sat checking my email I could hear her breathing! Her urn is in the same room as my computer and I could hear her breathing. I am not making this up. When my mom passed it was also unexpected and I never experianced this. I accept my daughter is gone and I am at peace with her being gone as she fought for most of her life and beat all odds. When I say I hear her breathing its more of the Vent she was on during her last days the "exhail" of the machine. I remember it so clearly as I sat next to her bed or laid in bed with her when she was pronounced brain dead as we waited on the transplant team to come take her to donate her organs to other children.
2007-10-03 07:19:07 · 12 answers · asked by texas_angel_wattitude 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I have a degree in clinical psychology and can not for the life of me recall ever going over this in any books or classes I took. Do not say "because you want to hear her" no I do NOT want to hear her I love her and will always love her and I believe her spirit is with us and her body is gone and she was tired of fighting which is why she stopped fighting and was given her wings. Have other ppl experianced hearing loved ones breathing, coughin and so forth?
2007-10-03 07:21:00 · update #1
No offense Phone but go to hell. You have no idea what my daughter life or religious upbringing was.
2007-10-03 08:04:03 · update #2
I think that is very beautiful and please appreciate it for as long as it is there. She will eventually move on but has remained to let you know you are still in here thoughts. Her thoughts apparently heard that machine also, and long enought that she associated it with her own breathing.
When I was a kid I woke up to see the silhouette of a man standing over my oldest sister's bed. I did not know this man and it clearly was not my dad.
Years later I asked her about it and she explained that it was the Grandfather I never met. Thus why I didn't recognize him. He used to visit her after his death. She also explained something else he used to do, that I had never told anybody.
So, in conclusion, its a little weird at first but welcome. Now you get to know there is another side to life. It is scarry for some people when they are first exposed. Not nearly as scarry when you know who's spirit is doing it and they mean it for your good.
Peace and love.
2007-10-03 07:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by blaqcat2nv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the interactions we have with our loved ones, especially if we are really close with them get imprinted in our minds, how they look, what they smell like, how they sound and as well things surrounding them like vent machine you spoke of and the mind recalls them sometimes even when we don't set out to remember.
As long as it is a comfort and harmless, then I think there is nothing wrong with 'reliving' the experience of the loved one if it comes. It may be a spritual thing for some too. I believe the spirit lives on and we can sense them sometimes. You are not crazy; I know people who have had similar experiences.
2007-10-03 07:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss...I, too, have a degree in clinical psychology, and when my mom passed 13 years ago, at age 46, I could hear her breathing so calmly, and then I started to hear her singing. I was so upset that I went to see a Psychiatrist! She told me that she had heard of many, many instances like yours and mine. The only thing she could tell me was that I was still 'connected' to her in some way, and that she was trying to get through to me for some reason. I know it sounds completely absurd! She also told me to listen more carefully, and to look carefully at things that just seem to happen, because there could be a 'message' in them. She is a very well-known/respected Psychiatrist, so take this for what you want, just wanted to let you know that you are not alone!!
Good Luck
May Angels Walk Beside You
2007-10-03 07:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by Momma P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a clinical therapist and, believe it or not, it is not uncommon to experience hallucinatory reactions after losing a loved one. The most common is actually seeing the deceased person or hearing the person speak to them. You're not crazy and I am sorry to hear about your daughter's death.
Edit. These episodes are actually illusions instead of hallucinations. (Have you ever heard someone call your name right before you nodded off to sleep? They have a name also. Hypnopompic illusions. Psychology has a name for everything.) Basically, your unconscious mind is working through this time of bereavement.
2007-10-03 07:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by Max 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother still "sees" my grandfather sometimes at night, and he's been dead a while....I'm a firm believer that the spirit lives even after death, and it's not impossible for loved ones who have passed to pay us "visits" from time to time to remind us that they are always with us. It can be in many ways, as well, such as pictures being out of place or the sound of your daughter's vent, or my pops paying granny a nightly visit...I would definitely not say you are crazy, I would say your daughter is letting you know she's fine now and that she loves you always as well....don't feel bad, feel comforted, for I am sure that is all she is trying to do.
2007-10-03 07:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by squishy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
initiate by using making an appointment with your college practise counselor. In maximum places, they're experienced that may assist you with this kind of difficulty. A psychiatrist prescribes drugs, on an identical time as a counselor, therapist, or psychologist tries to artwork with you in looking new procedures of fixing your issues. the subsequent time your mom calls you loopy, perhaps say some thing like, "It hurts me once you tell people who, and that i do no longer decide to be with you at the instant," and then walk away for an hour or 2.
2016-10-10 05:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The machine? Well, you have a disorder that needs psychiatric care. You are hearing something that isn't there.
Lucifer will force people to hear, schizophrenia. He may have you hear breathing. He is trading bodies. Lucifer is defined by going after bodies. This includes seeing with eyes closed and hearing people that aren't there. Usually not dead and that would be Lucifer.
Lucifer also trades brain stems. It is a trade for other organs. The idea would be to use Lucifer's 'force' to trade flesh, which is how Luciferians cause disease( a disease is a definition of Lucifer - he has done so much that it has become a disease, like dreaming).
Siezures can come from a time trade. Lucifer wants time. He settles for the 'eye,' but really wants Satan's device because it is the true form of time travel. Since he wants bodies, and especially those bodies that have time travelled, he is denied Satan's time travel device. So, assuming no one time travellled, the seizure may have been a trade for a time traveller who used Lucifer's eye and traded out for whatever he could drive, not that he could using the device.
Waiting on a transplant might cause Luciferians to take exception. Lucifer goes after bodies and, like the cloning debates that relgions have(Lucifer cloned too), organ transplants he would consider his thing. So, the brain stem would be a simple thing for a Luciferian to justify(they really are disgusting things).
Destroying the body is generally something that is needed. Luciferians will place living people into dead bodies (it's how he jokes around) and there may be disease transferred there too, so it's not really nice). Most religions are for cremation.
Psychiatry can help alot, but they know Satan, which Lucifer is suppoed to be controlled by, but, wanting bodies, he will probably try to destroy the psychiatrsit, so make sure you mention your religous beliefs and maybe the Luciferians will die a horrbile death and go to their hell, which is no longer existing; they really are for heaven and hell as long as they continue to exist and even do some trading to get here and have a life of wealth and fame. The existence of all things is what you trade with Luciferians. Everything ceases to exist and they will do anything but this.
2007-10-03 08:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by Phone E 3 · 0⤊ 5⤋
You are not going crazy. That's just her coming through to you, letting you know she's around you and is ok. My dad has been dead for 20+ yrs. He died when I was a child and he stills comes around, I can smell his cologne or he whistles (he had a distinctive whistle). I was a daddy's girl.
I'm a believer because till this day, i've seen, heard, smelled, and have even felt people who are no longer alive and living among us.
So embrace her presence... :-)
2007-10-03 07:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by AlS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry.
You can hear the exhale of the machine because unfortunately that is one of the very last memories you had when she was with you. It is not a pleasant memory.
I am thinking when this happens somehow try to fill it in with a happy memory. Remember the sound of her laughing. Remember her voice when she was excited.
I feel so sad for you. What a major struggle.
Best Wishes XOX
2007-10-03 07:41:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh sorry for your lose. Your ok it's more of a spiritual thing rather than a scientific thing. I believe in spirts and angels and the unexplainable. I sure she come around you and watches over you. I think see was just trying to tell you she's ok. :-)
God Bless
2007-10-03 07:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by Talk Talk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋