Hi everyone, i haven't posted on here for a while but i need your help. I had a miscarriage back in april and my due date should of been 31st october. I really want to do something to remember there brief life but don't know what? Does any one have any nice ideas?
Thank you for any help
2007-10-03 05:38:54 · 24 answers · asked by hazel 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Wow thank you all so very much, some great ideas, i like the idea of planting a tree, also a piece of jewellry with the birthstone it really special, thank you everyone xx
2007-10-03 07:38:44 · update #1
Firstly I am so sorry for your loss. When I lost my 2nd child a 27 weeks I was devastated. My husband named a star in her honor so whenever I want to "talk" or be close to her all I need to do is look up at the stars.
2007-10-03 05:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by mummyuk999 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am sorry for your loss. I also had a miscarriage and know what your are going through. I have heard of many things poeple so to remember their baby. Here's some ideas..
1) plant a tree or flower
2) ring or necklace with a birthstone or a teardrop
3) make a webpage
4) step stone with your child's name, initials or bithdate.
Hope this helps.
2007-10-03 06:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by mik11 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear about your loss. I've been there & done that myself.
I always think that a tree, or flowering bush of some kind is nice for this type of thing. Every time that you look at the bush or tree growing you will remember your baby. Also, a donation to March of Dimes, or a SIDS organization would be a nice way to remember. You can make the donation in the baby's name (if you don't have a name, maybe use something like "Baby Smith-in loving memory).
Besides that, keep yourself busy on that day. It will be a tough one. Good luck!
2007-10-03 05:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Hazel. So sorry for your loss.
Yes, I agree with the planting...that is always a nice, rather permanent reminder. Another thing would be to take a walk and think of all that took place. This is more of a healing method-to relive the events and then kind of pack them up in a little mental box. Writing a journal page helps with this, too.
2007-10-03 05:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by Dalice Nelson 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry sweetie. It is horrible to have a miscarriage. You will always mourn the loss. My miscarriage was 27 years ago, I've had other children and yet the loss hurts.
I would either donate a book to your local library about miscarriage, (a resource for women like us who have gone through it and are grieving) they will put a bookplate indicating your donation and you can even add your own words OR perhaps a donation to the March of Dimes?
Hugs ~joni
2007-10-03 05:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by jersey girl in exile 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. Yes, planting something you really like would be a great idea. This might be the last thing you want to do, but why not have a party. A first birthday party. Show him/her, even although you've never met him/her you love him/her.
2007-10-03 05:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My bestfriend had to have an abortion 8 years ago or she would have had a still birth, her mom had a mothers ring with the birthstone made for her, she didnt take it off untill she had another kid 3 years ago. and now only wears it on special occasions.
October is an Opal by the way =)
2007-10-03 05:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. My neighbor had several miscarriages between her two children. She planted some type of flower or tree in her garden/yard in remembrance of her children (and also one in remembrance of my mom, who she was very close to). What an excellent idea!
2007-10-03 05:43:35 · answer #8 · answered by Answer Annie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think of you will desire to plant any tree that bears flower or fruit. Tree is the terrific as a results of fact it is going to advance like your toddler. Gulmohar tree is likewise a reliable theory because it blooms in only one season as despite if that's its birthday. Or that is any tree that bears fruit or flower for the period of the month of your toddler's birthday or so.
2016-10-10 05:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about sending a balloon with a lovely note up into the sky. I am very sorry for your loss and have been there myself. Take care x
2007-10-06 05:01:00 · answer #10 · answered by LOUISE P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋