Do men know what women want?

Question

Recently I decided to speak more positively about my choice of men, but the positive affect on my life hasn't happened yet. I have been with one jerk after another. I am bored- not just that, but wondering what it takes to find a nice guy. After all I have had an ****** detector on my forehead for too long- I want it off! It seems I meet a nice one- but then the truth comes out and "ANOTHER ONE" in my life- ugh! I just feel that i want a man in my life that partially has it together- at the very least. A man that knows the SECRET of a woman- that we love to be adored- not watch men adore themselves- hahaha. From a woman who is tired of seeing men look at themselves more.

Answer 1

Theoretically it is possible for you to find a guy who meets your criteria, but the odds are probably going to be against you because he will have his own set of requirements, which in all probability will be very different to yours. I think a lot of men, for the most part, have an idea what women want. The problem for women is many men do not feel they get enough out of relationships to invest the time giving women what they want. Another factor is women tend to be more demanding than men and require more maintenance and attention, so quite often men simply don't have the energy or inclination to give women what they want, despite knowing exactly what that is. I would imagine if a woman gives a man more of what he wants, she is more likely to get what she wants. This might be the best place to start. Find out what men want. Not what you want them to want or the fantasies Hollywood movies tell you they want, but what they truly want, and don't judge them for it. Quite often with relationships, greater emphasis is placed on what the woman wants. This seems to be the general template. Here's a long quote from some Chris Rock stand-up, with link. Although he jokes, many a true word has been said in jest.

"See, relationships are hard man, but in order for any relationship to work, both people have to be on the same page. Both people have to have the same focus..that's right..and we all know what that page is, we all know what that focus is, in order for the relationship to work, both people have to have the same focus, and what's that focus? The focus is all about HER! It's all about HER. She's already there fellas, she's waiting for you to come aboard. Fellas, when you wake up in the morning, you should look yourself in the mirror and say, F*CK YOU! F*ck your hopes, f*ck your dreams, f*ck your plans, f*ck everything you thought this life was gonna bring you. Now let's go out there and try to make this b*tch happy!"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6OaRcsfnY4


There is a lot of uniqueness in the world, but there is quite a lot of homogeneity as well. Women tend to be emotional and romantic, men, logical and horny. Both sexes are capable of all of these, but the emphasis tends to slant in a preferred direction. For whatever reasons, being emotional and romantic does not come easily to many men and does not feel natural. Similarly, I imagine being logical and horny, without romance, presents a greater challenge to many women. So there has to be compromise. The standard has to change. If a woman wants a more emotional and romantic response from her man than she is currently getting, she will in all likelihood have to bring out a more logical and horny response in her own behaviour. Learn about men and give him what he wants and you have a greater chance of receiving what you want. The irony of your question is that you are telling men to focus less on themselves and pay more attention to women, while assuming women behave totally altruistically. This is exactly what Chris Rock is talking about in that clip. You need to look in the mirror before you start pointing the finger at men.

Disclaimer:

There is one way around a woman having to compromise however and that is finding a man who can be p*ssy whipped. If you want someone with a backbone however, you are going to have to give him some of what he wants in order to get what you want. Love and affection in romantic relationships are rarely unconditional. What you sow, so you shall reap.

Answer 2

the reason why you will never find a nice man is that you said the secret is for men to understand that women want to be adored. Any woman that wants to be adored is a trophy gf or wife. To me that isnt a real woman. A real woman wants to be loved and is capable of giving that love back( and here is the keyword girl, learn to know it, spell it and understand it) EQUALLYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY. If you want to be adored you will keep getting teh same ******* that will give you the vain adoration that you are seeking but it wont last long, cause as soon as that butt kisser finds another woman, he will be off to adorn her in the low, depthless selfish way she wants to be adored and you will end up an old lady with 8 cats that u start to get special feelings for.

Do yourself a favor and step off that royaL throne that you have created for urself before u end up alone forever.
When i mean alone, i mean alone inside the heart, not physically alone. When you can finally humble urself maybe u can find a nice guy that will treat u right.

Randy, not only do most women dont know what men want, most women dont even know what they themselves want lol.

I just saw the posts by all these women on this forums, and its a joke. They speak as if they are perfect women, when in all likelihood they are filled with imperfections. Their problem is
they wouldnt know the defination of a good man , and for that fact what a good woman is about.

Thank god for virginity lol

Answer 3

Don't men like to be adored also? I think EVERYONE wants to. I have a guy who "partialy has it together" but he's no good either. *sigh* maybe all non-masochist women like us should just become lesbian or assexual...

It's so easy for guys, isn't it? You give them sex and they're happy puppies. Yet they fail to realize that we would like some respect.


I don't know what it takes to find a nice guy. I've always had male friends since I was a kid, and NOW I hate them all because they tell me their thoughts about stuff and they are SUCH jerks!

I always dated men that don't drink or smoke, and are dedicated to getting what they want from life -- you can notice it in grades, or their job, or whatever -- that tends to cut down the **** by A LOT, but you'll still have a lot of crap to deal with.

I really, really, wish I could become a lesbian lol

Answer 4

What secret? What the fizzle, are you a tranny or something?
A women's secret, come one.You are a manipulator, is that how you trap guys? Man, this is what you need to know...

1 Corinthians 10:13
No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

Answer 5

Men have no idea!! And never will!! Not sure whether men are changing and we arn't liking it or are our expectations what real love should be just been put sky high from all the romance movies around. There is no perfect man you just have to find one that makes you happy and one that you can see him for all his flaws but accept them and be prepared to live with them for ever rather then try to change them.

Good Luck you will find someone eventually!!

Answer 6

Why would men know what women want? Women have no clue what men want or need, so why should men have some magic sixth sense about the opposite sex that you don't have?

You choose to date jerks, and you choose to ignore the nice guys because they are boring. So it is you own fault that you cannot find anyone to satisfy you.

Answer 7

They want a man who is confident, so never ask what they want,but don't be arrogant.

I still don't know but try your best and she'll tell you in riddles and throat clearing if you're doing right. Unless you find a good one then everything falls into place.

GOOD LUCK WITH THAT

Answer 8

How can a man ever know what a woman want's if she does'nt know what she want's herself. My Gosh I have yet to meet a man that have that answer. Woman change from day to day and we just can't keep up with it.

LOVE THEM AND TOLLARATE ALL THEIR MOODS.

Answer 9

Unfortunately I dont think men have a clue about what we want. I feel your pain. Somewhere out there, there must be men who have at least an idea. Heres to them!! Good luck with your search.

Answer 10

The only thing is are you ready to settle ?
I think not.

I think you'd find the guy you're looking for totally boring.
So don't be so serious about it for now.
Just have some fun.

Trust me.