around my birthday july22,07 i don't know if i sould leave him or not and this was about 4 months ago and i love him an have a baby by him.help me.
2007-10-03 04:39:09 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's done it once, he'll do it again.
2007-10-03 04:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by Celtic-Candy 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is something that needs a lot more consideration than I think most people here are giving. Firstly, how did he cheat on you? Was it a one off drunken kiss? That is easily forgiveable, and in your case, I would. If however, it was a full blown web of deceit and lies and a lenghty affair, then I may be tempted to think otherwise. However you need to ask yourself if you still love him and if you still trust him. Love is strong enough to get over these things sometimes, and while trust is easily broken it can be rebuilt if earnt. Since you have a child with him, then you might be better of staying with him for the child's sake. While being a single parent is manageable and not unusual these days, having both a mother and a father in the same home is a right a child has. So unless he is unbearable or likely to cheat again, perhaps try and get over this hurdle, if you can't then you will have to break up with him. Staying together for the kids is a nice ideal but not if it hinders you as a person too much.
2007-10-03 04:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by tom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a difficult decision when there is a baby involved...
I wish I could make everything okay for you and tell you that he won't do it again... but I and you know its hard to say. Trust is important and now it's gone.
We can't generalize and say that he doesn't have the capacity to change...he can if he wants to and if there is genuine remorse.
Open up communication.... is there any chance this can work? Is he open for counselling? I'm an optimist... there is always hope...don't jump to end it without giving a chance to your relationship. If it doesn't work...then at least you have done your best.
In the meantime... do use contraception!
2007-10-03 04:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by Say 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two having a child together doesn't mean he has the right to cheat on you, and you hold on to the relationship. He obviously didn't care because he cheated. I too was cheated on by my daughters father and I left him as soon as I found out... It's disrespectful to both you and your child for him to do that to the family, and if you keep holding on to this relationship you're only giving him the ok to keep doing what he's doing.
How can you be with someone that cheated on you? You deserve better than that. You don't want your child growing up to think that its ok to cheat on your partner... Unless you think that you can give him a second chance and go from there, but you shouldnt. Not only did he cheat, but he did it around your BDAY!
2007-10-03 04:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by N3N@ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You not only have to do what is right for you, but your baby too. Why did he cheat? Was it for the sex or was he being neglected and wandered off. Commitment is difficult enough, especially when you are not married and there is a child involved. Sit down, sort it out, it is a terrible thing to go thru, but it is not the end of the world.
2007-10-03 04:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by ZackAttack1992 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats why I always keep telling, sex - after marriage only.
See, now you are in a very critical and difficult situation. You know he is a cheater but you're afraid to leave him because you're pregnant for his baby.
Sorry lady, but you've got to live with it now. So, what you can do is, let him know that you're preg and ask him to marry you. If he do not agree, well, dump him and find yourself another option. but remember DO NOT go for an abortion, cuz the baby is not responsible for what you guys have done.
Good Luck!
2007-10-03 04:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by Dus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well babes you cant just stay together because you have a baby with him its your life and wouldnt it be better to have a happy environment instead of arguements.. because no matter what people say it will never be the same (it could go bad or it could go better maybe hel appreciate you more or maybe hel just treat you like crap) so i would just talk to him ask him why he done it (but dnt make out as though your the one thats desperate)
good luck sweety
2007-10-03 04:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its his first time cheating then give him another chance, but always keep your eyes open because if he did it once he'll do it again. I say give him another chance because when u love someone its hard to let go...been there, done that. Plus u have a child 2gether and I'm sure u want to stay in it for the sake of your child.
2007-10-03 04:44:07 · answer #8 · answered by suitt05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's up to you. Do you think he's trustworthy? Or do you think he's going to be messing around on you behind your back forever? You don't have to keep the baby's father. I kept the baby, but not the father, because he came home one night with hickies all over and told me "But you're the one I come home to!" Well, not anymore, buddy. You do what's right for you and your child. And sometimes that means cutting the jerk out of the picture.
2007-10-03 04:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a biggy smalls in action.
Looks like what we have heere is a jerk that goes bazookas.
He has chikld already and is trying to make another one....wow that is absurd.
Maybe, you should drop this guy quickly before he hurts you anymore. Your a good Mother and have the child so take of your child and hit him up for child support and asta la vista boyfriend.
2007-10-03 04:43:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what you can do. i know that seeing you have a baby with him, you cant break up with him, the baby would be fatherless. it wouldnt be fair to the baby. however, cheating on you would make it unfair to you as well. i guess you have to figure it out, whether or not he is that right one for you. if not, give it up and move on. being that he did it once, he can do it again. no girl deserves that. but if you truly love him, then you have to figure things out. maybe talk to him or something, let him know how you feel, but keep your options open.
2007-10-03 04:45:54 · answer #11 · answered by AutumnFlames 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋