Ok, living in southern Ontario (and being a of a European descent) I heard the average monetary contribution was $200 per couple. This is my brothers' 2nd wedding (so I've already shelled out $250 - 4 yrs ago) and also we're in the wedding party again (so we've already paid for the suit/dresses) we will also add in a child and 2 elderly parents as part of the invite, so I was thinking that after pooling our $ together a total of $350 is not too unreasonable....for those that are curious as to why money and not gifts, they have a house with everything they need so they don't have a need for 12 toasters and 25 mixers...most people appreciate cash...I forgot to mention this wedding has dinner provided for ALL guests but has a cash bar....
2007-10-03 04:17:13 · 12 answers · asked by Jackie Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
$350 is good. Thats how much I gave at my cousins wedding for 4 adults. I usually go bu no less than $50 per person invited, and you are above that. Enjoy the wedding.
2007-10-03 04:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by Stiffler 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Etiquette manuals might sometimes say that, but most of the people invited to the wedding will most likely find it tacky, because that's just the general opinion. When it comes right down to it, no manual you come upon will matter if most of your friends and family are miffed, annoyed or offended because of this. Remember, the most important rule in etiquette is to NOT offend others, so defending yourself by citing etiquette manuals, without considering the cultural norms, is a breech of etiquette in itself. Don't register for gifts. Let your parents and the wedding party know what your preference is. Many guests, family and friends will probably ask them for suggestions of what you need/want, and they can say you have all you need for the house and suggest money as a gift. It's not appropriate in the eyes of most people for you to bring it up, but someone else can.
2016-05-19 22:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thst sounds fine since it is a second wedding but I might break up the gift so that your parents give their own gift and you give yours. It can still total 300 or 350.
Don't listen to all of the cheapskates on here who would give someone a $25 toaster and indulge on a 100 meal. I'm not rich and neither are my friends but it is customary here (NY) to give that much (at least 100pp as a gift). We also don't give "gifts" It's all money. The "gifts" are for the bridal shower.
2007-10-03 21:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by JM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are generous indeed!
There's no "correct" amount of money to give as a wedding gift (or to spend on a wedding gift, for that matter!). If $350 is what you are comfortable with giving, and you're financially able to do so, then by all means it's an appropriate gift!
2007-10-03 04:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by sylvia 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gifts are really not mandatory for a second wedding, so I think the amount of cash you proposed ($350) is really generous.
Also, given that "they have a house with everything they need", I think your gift becomes even more generous.
Stick that check in an envelope (or not), forget about it, and have a good time!
2007-10-03 04:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by tecualajuggernauts 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That may be the custom where you are, and if it is, fine. I can tell you that there would be no way I would spend that much money on my brother's 2nd wedding gift. I'd be stretching it to spend that much on a first wedding gift.
I also HATE giving cash as a wedding gift. I'd rather give a piece of artwork, gift certificate to a favorite restaurant, theater tickets, ANYTHING other than cash. But that's me. If you're comfortable spending that much money on a wedding gift, then by all means do so. Gifts are voluntary, they are not mandatory. And the amount to spend on them is entirely up to the giver--at least where I live it is.
2007-10-03 04:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hey he's been married once, you doled out money once, you don't make the second gift nearly as big! and this attitude some people have about your gift being as expensive as your dinner at the reception? bull-spit!
no one asked the 'happy couple' to spend all their money on a fancy wedding, and if they did thats their problem! and then for them to assume guests will fork over enough money to cover the bride and grooms wedding is even more bull-spit!!
i don't think giving a gift in relationship to what you can afford to give is being a cheapskate! you give what you can afford, not one penny more. and no one, no one ever has the right to say give me money instead of a gift! how ignorant are people getting! sheesh!
2007-10-06 20:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by itsjustyouandmebabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does living in southern ontario have to do with anything?
the average monetary gift would not be $200.00! come on! maybe for the rich folk but not for average joe, average town, anywhere.
and if this is a second marriage, and they have a house with everything they need? not a chance. if they have a house full of everything they need then why not make a donation to your favourite charity in honor of their marriage? the charity will send them a card telling them a donation was made and by who, but not how much money it was.
and by the way the snide comment about twelve toasters and 25 mixers? tacky!
2007-10-03 14:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is NO minimum (or maximum) requirement of what to give at a wedding. People gift based on their own finances and based on their affection for the couple. That's it.
For that matter, gifting AT ALL is not required, ever.
You are not PAYING your way into the reception, or "covering your plate" any other such mythical nonsense as that.
2007-10-03 08:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the combined gift of $350 is perfectly fine.
2007-10-03 05:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋