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Children below pre-adolescence (including infancy) don't understand the concepts. They go to church, go out to eat, go to the movies, go to airports, go on the subway, go to the zoo, aquarium, shopping, anywhere else. They will have the intention to get emotionally cranky or whatever. Can't parents look around them as well to understand the effects of their children on other people? Can't they leave them with a sitter or grandparents or whatever?

2007-10-03 04:10:05 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Parenting

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Perhaps these people just can't find sitters, or have a hard time being away from their little bundle of joy.

2007-10-03 04:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by ddawwnnwwrri 4 · 2 0

I'm guessing you don't have kids, or it's been a while since you've had a young child around? Even if children don't understand things like this, it's a new environment for them, a new experience, for the most part. Movies, concerts, events like that, I don't think children should go until they're old enough to comprehend the rules and what's going on. However, going to the aquarium or the zoo is a learning experience for children (yes, even infants; it helps them developementally). And people with children travel, thus they sometimes have to use the subway or go to the airport with little children.
I take my 6 month old daughter with me almost everywhere. For one, we can't afford a sitter, and both my parents and my husband's parents work. I find no logical reason to leave my daughter with a sitter for a half an hour to an hour when I'm running errands. I know my daughter's signals; when she's hungry, when she's tired, when she's cranky, and I try to get my errands done before those signals come up.
Sometimes parents can leave their children with a sitter or a grandparents, but more often than not, what the parents are doing is a learning experience for children. Parents are doing what they think is the best for their child, and no stranger can or should tell them otherwise.

2007-10-03 11:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by hockey_gal9 *Biggest Stars fan!* 7 · 1 0

I assume you have no children! And I hope you don't w/ that attitude! Not all little children get cranky and act up in public. I go w/ the saying "kids will be kids". If a kid does act up then it should be their parents responsibility to handle the matter appropriately. By taking them out of the place or area until they calm down.
Kids have the right to enjoy things like the zoo and aquarium. It is a fun learning experience for the family.

2007-10-03 14:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by Squiggly 2 · 2 0

You know, sometimes, a lot of times actually, it's impossible to find a sitter, whether it be a neighbor, teenager, grandparent or whatever. And so you have to bring your kids along with you. There is nothing wrong with bringing your children to church (that is an awsome thing actually), and as far as going out to eat, kids have to eat too. As far as to the movies, if it's a kid's movie, why not? As far as to airports and on the subway, that's just a retartded thing to even bring up - parents and their kids need to get from point A to point B just like you buster. As far as the Zoo and Aquarium goes, that's mainly for the kids anyways - little kids are amazed by seeing lions, monkeys, fish, they get so excited and it's amazing to see the amazement in their eyes as the animals that they see on the pages of their story books come to life in front of them. As far as shopping goes - oh my garsh you've got to be kidding here - are you telling me that you think parents need to find babysitters when they need to go to the grocery store at the last minute to buy groceries? That's what having kids is all about - it's called responsibility. Where you go, your children go. You can't just drop them at a sitters everytime you need to run to Walmart. If it's at the mall that you have an issue, well did you ever stop to think that maybe the parents are taking their kids clothes shopping or shoe shopping and need the kid there to get an exact fit. Or, maybe mom just needed a day out of the house, and so decided to pack up the kids and the stroller and walk through the mall and window shop and let her kids play at the play center there. Kids get cranky, yeah, but how are they supposed to learn to behave in public if you never take them out in public? Whenever my kids act up in public, they get scolded and they usually quit what they were doing. If they're hungry or thirsty, I always come prepared with sippy cups and crackers. Generally, the only people who are irritated by it is people who don't have kids (like you I'm assuming) and who have no clue to what the word "responsiblity" means. Dropping your kid at a sitter every time you need to go somewhere is not the answer. If children don't understand the concepts of something, what better way to teach them than by exposing them to it and teaching them along the way. I never completely understood either until I had kids of my own, then I had a really rude awakening when my daughter was born. HOpe this helps to brighten your scope on things.

2007-10-03 15:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Mrs. GM2*~ 5 · 1 0

How do you think children learn how to behave in every possible social situation? Practice... duh. Parents take their children places because (1) like it or not they are allowed in public (2) to teach them proper behavior (3) to treat/reward them, ETC.

It annoys me when parents take their children places and don't watch them, or don't correct behavior, and (if need be) leave if they are really misbehaving. Parents also need to time outings better and work around when children would be more susceptible to being cranky (naptimes, late at night, very early mornings, etc)

Children LOVE to go places and do new things, why shouldnt they be allowed to go out? My husband and I get a sitter when we want to be alone, or the place we are going is not child-friendly, or more an adult setting. Other than that, our kids tag along and learn by correction and watching us what is proper behavior and what is not.

We recently did a charity golf tournament and left our children with a sitter. We were SHOCKED when we got there that people brought along their children, and I was told that some paid for the extra meals (lunch and dinner) and some didn't and expected the kids to be 'included' Next years registration forms will include 'adults only'!!!

I take it that you have no children? Hiring all those sitters would get expensive. ;)

2007-10-03 11:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 2 · 9 0

Not everyone is fortunate enough to be able to get a sitter all the time. I myself have an 8 month old daughter and she goes with me EVERYWHERE. If I can get someone to watch her I do but the people that I trust to watch my daughter aren't always available. They do have lives of their own so they can't just drop what they are doing to babysit. I don't take my daughter to church because she gets too fussy and I think it is rude to let her fuss while the preacher is preaching but when she gets a little bit older I definitely will take her. I want her to grow up in church and hopefully when she is able to make her own decision of whether or not she wants to go to church, she will decide that she does want to go. Of course most parents understand the effects of their children on other people and MOST other people are understanding of why children cry or act the way they do. There are certain circumstances when a child is just out of control and it is mostly the parents fault. Those kind of parents aren't concerned with people around them. They are not considerate and only think of themselves.

2007-10-03 11:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by jade 1 · 4 0

William, part of raising children is to expose them to many things. Parents have to live too. this question was very closeminded and immature. Children are not pets that should be kept inside with a sitter until they learn the concepts. yes, in some instances you are correct, babies do not belong in bars, and movie theaters. Are you saying the zoo and the aquarium are not for kids?!!! CHurch?!!! get real, man!

2007-10-03 15:28:54 · answer #7 · answered by noitall 4 · 3 0

How do you suppose that children learn how to behave places if they never go anywhere?

My son goes to an age appropriate Sunday School class while I attend my church service. It is important to me that he learn about God in a way that is geared toward his age group.

My family eats out occasionally and that means my entire family. I do not go to a restaurant that doesn't have a children's menu, nor do I allow my child to act inappropriately and disturb the other people. But I am certainly not going to leave my 4 year old with a sitter when I go eat with my 10 year old and my husband. I'm not going to leave my infant with a sitter when I go out to eat with my husband and older children. We are a family.

I did not take my children to the movies before they were able to sit through a movie and it was to age appropriate films.

The airport is used for travel. Do you really mean to suggest that a person should leave their child with someone else while they go on a family vacation? The subway is also used for travel. People need to go from one place to another - and they will travel with their children.

The zoo and aquarium are FAMILY friendly places. I like that my child can learn about animals in a more hands on way by visiting a zoo and seeing them in real life instead of on TV or in a book.

I don't think you have any concept of what it means to be a parent, certainly not a good parent. Part of being a parent means teaching your child to behave appropriately in any enviornment. It doesn't mean that you should take your beyond exhausted toddler to a 5 star restaurant or out to the movies, but I'm certainly not going to chain my child in the house or leave them with a sitter every time I need to step foot outside.

Not everyone has a regular trusted sitter or family nearby - you have no idea what the circumstances might be. In my case, my husband has been deployed overseas for 6 months and my parents live half the continent away. I am certainly NOT going to get a babysitter to go grocery shopping.

I think perhaps instead of feeling that parents aren't thinking of you and youre needs, you should think about what your parents did to raise you. How did they teach you the right way to behave in a restaurant our out at the movies? Did they leave you at home every time they went to the store or out to eat? If they did, then I'm really sorry and that explains why you would feel so offended to see someone's children out in public.

2007-10-03 11:36:35 · answer #8 · answered by Proud Navy Wife 4 · 7 0

Do you have children? Because you sound like you do not.
I take my children most everywhere I go(like many of the places you listed) because:
1) Making them stay with a sitter when I do things like go shopping or go to church is ridiculous. It is my child, they belong with me! Those other people need to get over themselves and understand that children are a part of life!
2) I am not going to stay locked in my house forever! I have just as much of a right to go into the outside world as anyone else, even with my children.
3) My children want to be with me, not a sitter. Especially my youngest, he does not like to be away from me. They are well behaved and do not cause problems, so I really do not see the issue.

2007-10-03 11:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by iamhis0 6 · 6 0

My kids go everywhere with me. Obviously you don't have kids. It doesn't matter how young they are, they do understand concepts. That's how they grow and learn. I do see the effects my kids have on other people too. I've seen the smiles they can bring to a persons face when they are having a bad day. I've seen the joy expressed from elderly people as they are reminded of their own grand kids and it gives them a chance to brag about them. Kids also give many soon to be mom's & dad's the greater desire to be able to hold their own baby.

If kids in public upset you that much, then maybe you should just stay home. Have you ever considered what kind of effect your bad attitude towards kids is doing to other people? It goes both ways. Infants & kids are very amazing at picking up on peoples bad vibes. How would you of felt if your parents left you everytime they went somewhere?

2007-10-03 12:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

LMAO. So, are we all supposed to stay indoors untill our children are out of the house? I guess so.

My child goes to church because I go to church. If he didn't go I couldn't go.

My child goes out to eat because he likes to eat and I like to eat. He is very well behaved.

We go to airports because when my husband gets deployed we go visit family and friends. Again, very well behaved.

We would go on the subway if we need to because that might be our only transportation.

My son loves the zoo and aqarium because he loves to see the animals.

We go shopping together because if he doesn't come I don't shop.

There are parents who allow their kids to misbehave. I am not one of those parents. Kids are going to misbehave at some point or another. I'm sure you did too. If we didn't bring our kids along they would never learn how to behave in public so we'd have eighteen year olds throwing fits in WalMart.

My parents and in-laws lived many miles away. I cannot just leave them at their house. If I did--I'd have to dare to use the airport. Ohh, gotta there, huh? We are military. Leaving a child with a sitter doesn't sit right with us. That's fine.

I'll continue to bring my [well-behaved] son every where with me and continue to annoy people like you. Why? Because you were the same darn way as my son when you were his age.

2007-10-03 14:32:29 · answer #11 · answered by .vato. 6 · 3 0

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