How long should you wait before you meet someone from the net? Should it be on neutral turf?

Answer 1

5 years


I'm already right Dr Zipper2yu: says exchange dates of birth, why the h**l should you do that?

Rio the ballroom dog: meet at your place, i hope you score a touchdown????

these 2 hunks of manhood prove my point for me. Ta Duh. (while I add a gesture , sweeping my hand)

Answer 2

This is a pretty good article for dating on-line. Choose Date-Safe from the articles.
Here is a small excerpt:
You have decided to meet each other and your running the gamete of emotions. This is actually a good thing. Our mind and body react to changes and stimulations, just keep in mind most first dates are absolutely safe, but it never hurts to follow some basic safety rules.
Always meet in a public place, preferably during daylight hours. Choose a location approximately half way and something that can help to stimulate conversation or you both enjoy.
Make sure a friend has all the information, about who you are dating, where you will be and when you are expected to return.
Once they arrive, if possible give your friend a call and tell them the color, make and license plate number of the person you are meeting's car.
Don't leave your drink or food unattended and never consume anything that could possibly impair your judgement.
If you have to go to the bathroom, ensure you take your phone, purse or any other belonging that might contain personal information.
When the time comes to end the date, allow your date to leave first. If it is dark outside, see if you can get an escort from a local hotel or business to your car

Answer 3

It depends on what you're meeting them for?
If its, hopefully, for a long term relationship then personally I think you should wait at least a month, with chats online and phone calls. By the end of the month you should have a good idea whether you really want to meet.
A romantic encounter... okay, going to bed together... it depends where you met. If you met on an adult site, and both know what you're doing, what are you waiting for?
And neutral turf? Again, what are you meeting for? If you're just wanting to be friends, then whats wrong with a mutually arranged cafe or bar?
And how far apart from each other are you? The same town, neutral can be easy, but having to stay over somewhere do you meet at your hotel?

Answer 4

Hey great Avatar and good question. I did the internet dating thing back in my early 20's and had a lot of fun. Mostly booty never did find anyone for a serious relationship.

This answer will only apply if you are a dude. When I did the internet dating I always had the girl come to my place. To calm their nerves I had all the lights on and the curtains wide open so when they approched they could see inside and see that I was alone and it was safe.

My place had several advantages. Number one was I knew the sheets were clean on my bed. Number two I knew where my phone was incase I did need help.

The disadvantage is lets say you get a psyco chic. She now knows where you live. Most girls will not meet you at a hotel, because that just screams its time to ruffle the covers.

If you were a girl or if any girls read this never have a dude come to your place. Men are simply larger and usually stronger than females and can do more damage physically.

You could meet at a restaurant or movie theater but then there is the awkward waiting for that girl in the blue dress to show up and you have already talked to 3 in blue dresses who said it wasn't them and your concerned that one of them was and did not like you and you head is going to explode and AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH!!!!!!!

Fortunately at that time I lived in a gated community and could keep people out if I wanted to. Now I live in a house and would be more vunerable to vandalism. But still for a guy always have her meet at your place but tell her you will turn on all the lights and windows for her.

I hope you score a touchdown.

Answer 5

That all depends on your judgement. Yes, neutral, public turf is the best idea.

I met a few people offline. Some I waited a few years to meet, others not that long at all. Infact, I was talking to a guy for about 2 weeks before we agreed to go out to dinner.....we are married now.

Answer 6

There is no set time. It's dependent on your comfort level but you should always meet in a neutral place.
I've heard of a girl meeting a guy with a friend outside waiting to dial 911. I think this is ridiculous. She obviously was not comfortable with him.
Talk on the phone so you get a better feel for them before you meet also.

Answer 7

Definitely in a neutral, public place..... you never know how things will go and it's better to be able to cut it short graciously, which you cannot do if you invited that person to your place ("you mind if you leave now?? I'm too sleepy and gotta work tomorrow"..... eeeek).

How long before...?? Only for the 2 of you to decide, depending on the level of communication that has been going on between the 2 of you, the frequency, schedules, whether you feel comfortable with that person or not, etc..... I wouldn't do it too quickly though (1-2 weeks..... that'd be too soon, but to each their own)

Answer 8

Always neutral turf. I also would have the person to describe what they are going to be wearing so I could get a look from a distance before going to meet them. If you do not like what you see, leave. Get their cell number before you meet the person so you can call, and tell them you had a car wreck and won't make it.

Answer 9

I think it is a good good idea to meet on neutral turf so both people are comfortable.

As far as time, I dont think there is really any time set. They should meet when both feel comfortable meeting.

Good Luck

Answer 10

I've tried the internet dating scene. Just like anything else, you have to weed out the good from the bad. Anybody can tell you what you want to hear online but until you meet the person and really get a feel from them, you won't really know if you want to continue. I would say after a week of communicating online then exchange numbers. If they don't want to exchange numbers or meet in public and all they want to do is communicate online then BEWARE....THIS USUALLY MEANS THEY ARE MARRIED OR UNAVAILABLE OR UNATTRACTIVE! If you see a connection then meet in a public and a nuetral place where you feel safe. Don't meet in private for your on safety reasons until you get to know the person and you feel secure enough to do so.

Answer 11

Women that you meet in person usually feel like they get a sense of who you are right then. Over the internet, though, is a little riskier because it is impossible to know right away if ANYTHING is true, so they need more time. Months does seem excessive, but then I have to wonder, if you can meet a woman at a store, get her number, and start dating her right away, what are you doing there that makes it necessary to return to the dating sites over and over? Maybe the women you are meeting online are picking up on some of whatever that is........