This guy & I had a casual relationship for over a year until he moved back home for a job transfer. We stayed in contact but then stopped after he found a girl in his town, so I stopped calling all together. 4 months later he calls me & told me he broke up that girl, saying she wasn't as cool as me, etc. Then he said something to the effect "why you want me to marry you?" which struck me as odd, but it peaked my interest. Anyway, we are seeing each other this weekend after being apart for a year, and now he calls more often, answers his phone, treats me w/more respect, so I can see he's making an effort at something. I was just talking to him & he asked if I had something "lingerie" to wear, which he knows I wear cute undies, but something more like someone would wear for a more romantic setting. But he's never been like that to suggest that, so is he hinting at something? He was also boasting about this hotel he got us, so I'm just curious about this. What do you think?
2007-10-03 03:50:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we're also planning things to do around town and at night, to spend time together, which is a definite turn around from when I knew him back then too.
2007-10-03 03:51:23 · update #1
You gave him a chance..........................make it one and only one.....................no more chances...........let him be serious to know that you gave him that lonely chance to prove his love and care.............do not let him hurt your feeling any more........it is not easy to cure an injury if it happens.........you are in control now........it is your opportunity
2007-10-03 03:58:32 · answer #1 · answered by My-E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just plain old human nature to think we may be able to find something better elsewhere and the only way to find that out is to go exploring. Maybe that's what he did with the local girl and when it didn't work out, he realized how good he had it with you.
These changes you see in him could come from something he experienced with this girl or someone else and now he wants to see what it would be like with you. Sounds like he's searching for some type of fulfilling relationship that will give him what he wants or need. You can either go with the flow to find out where his head is or not.
When you mention lingerie & hotel, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to see where it's headed. If you're concerned about your reunion being only about sex, then you need to do some serious talking. Tell him you would like to take things slow and spend more time together outside of the bedroom for a while. If he goes for it, then you know he's really interested in being with you. If he agrees, but becomes a little indifferent, then you will have your answer.
Go with your instincts. They are never wrong and if you're having questions or doubts, these are signs that you should not ignore. He could turn out to be a great boyfriend but just make sure you guys are on the same page about your relationship.
2007-10-03 11:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there young lady! Maybe he realizes what he lost when you guys broke up. It's also possible that he wants to make things work out and is trying everything he can to make you happy! It's nice to be treated like your the only person that matters in the whole entire world! If I were you I would just soak it all up and see what this weekend brings and if you really love this guy it can be a turning point in your relationship. After this weekend you will see how he acts towards you and treats you. If he was in it for just pleasure then thats all he should get and you need to move on! If not then it sounds like you are going to have a lot of fun in this relationship! Good luck and have a great time!
2007-10-03 11:03:26 · answer #3 · answered by rttamez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay from the looks of it he does want to get serious....but it depends on what serious it is.Let me explain he is putting all this effort in, but the lingerie and the hotel stuff caught my attention. Okay he just broke up with his girlfriend and now he is calling you like nothing ever happened being "extra nice" with it. I would say do what you feel like doing, but dont make the mistake of getting played also okay? Talk to him and make sure he is not doing you on the rebound. As soon as you get that covered then you can handle the roses and the candlelight.
2007-10-03 10:58:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe someone showed him how to be romantic and now he is with you. Long distance relationships can either make it or not. There is no in between. If you like him try to have fun and see where it goes.
wish ya all the best. let us know how it turns out
2007-10-03 10:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by amberjake1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had his chance and found out that the grass on the other side wasn't greener, taking him back shows a lack of self respect and sets you up to be hurt worse the next time.
2007-10-03 10:54:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably really does not want to be serious. He is just trying to get that cookie. Girl get some type of committment from him before you start giving up the cookie. Especially with his track record. Men will be great to you when they want something, remember that.
2007-10-03 10:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by Lady A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he definitely wants sex, idk if ur ok with that or not, I wouldn't think too much of it, he might just be really horny cuz he hasn't been with a girl in a while. don't have sex with him when u go out with him for this 'special night.' and then see if he still will treat you with the same respect..
2007-10-03 10:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him and ask him why he's being more attentive and respectful, what his intentions are, etc .
2007-10-03 10:56:55 · answer #9 · answered by I_hate_being_single 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants sex from what i can tell... if you want it go with it... if not stay away..... but you never know where it could go.
2007-10-03 10:53:48 · answer #10 · answered by aroura 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋