So my best friend has a crush on me. He knows I don't feel the same way but lately I've been getting butterflies whenever we talk or what not. He's been constantly asking me to go to the pools or even the movies. Before the school holidays I liked his best friend but now I'm over him but he doesn't know and he said that he'll wait for me even if its forever. He said he'll do whatever it takes to get me and now he won't stop bothering esp over msn and txting. Yeahh I get butterflies when we talk or muck around but I really don't know if I like him in that way at the moment. And I'm really smart and focusing on my studies and everything and I just don't know if I would even have time for a boyfriend. It's just really hard to figure out. My question really is, is he ever gonna give up on me or not?! And should I say yes to him or what?! Or what should I do about it and yeahh?! I'm really confused. He's not the most attractive guy but I've never went for looks, personality is the key.
2007-10-03 03:03:27 · 7 answers · asked by PWD 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess theres maybe an attraction going on but do I follow it or focus on my studies more?!
2007-10-03 03:04:21 · update #1
Make sure your education doesn't suffer, but then if he is really out to make you happy, he would not do anything to make your life bad. You can control how much you see him, but never let your studies go by the wayside. Explain to him that you need to concentrate on your studies, and love to have contact with him, but not at the expense of your future. I want to say thank you for not being so vain that you have to have the most attractive guy, because beauty is only skin deep, the real beauty is inside. You sound like a smart person, and can see why he would want to be around you.
2007-10-03 03:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a go. slowly at first, go out together but not as dates, and see if you gradually bond. Make it clear its not a date, its 2 friends going out, cos when a visit to the cinema/bar/bowling etc is labeled "date" then suddenly it becomes a very big deal...
At least if you hang out together, you can get a feel for what it is like to spend time with them and get to know more about them etc.
2007-10-03 10:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by tickTickTICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on your studies and continue to see how you feel. He's obviously into you so don't say you are into him until you are sure you are, but sounds like the start of it. Sometimes you don't really know what you are missing or want until confronted with the possibility of it.
2007-10-03 10:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by Elvira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he really is ur best friend sit him down and tell him exactly how u feel, if u say u have slight feelings for him but u want to focus on ur studies more he will take that he does have a chance and he prob. bug u as much ne more. if hes doing all that to get with u, that its kinda wierd but if hes doing that to tlk to u then its okay. but u should go with ur gut all in all
2007-10-03 10:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by Nathan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance. The best romances start as friendships. But tell him you have to go really slowly.
2007-10-03 10:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say yes to him i fyou don't truly feel it. Because he is in a really vulnerable position right now... he loves you and could lose your friendship.
Sounds like he is in love. But don't lead him on. It will break his heart so bad.
2007-10-03 10:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some more time... Concentrate on your studies.. If he can wait as he says, he will wait and probably not stop bugging you if he really means it...
2007-10-03 10:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by [275] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋