I am happily married of 4 years, for our fifth year my husband and I are planning to renew our vows in a religious ceremony, since our first time was with the justice of peace. I am very excited, I am looking for any advice on what to do and what not to do, anyone who has done so, I know plenty people have, Just what exactly did you do, and what should be different with the renewal? I only want my siblings, his siblings, parents and first cousins and no children, as our families barely know one another. I have four boys, I just really want them to be there for the ceremony. huh! thank goodness I have about a year to plan...... oh yeah and I am only looking at 35 people to attend.
2007-10-03 02:58:06 · 8 answers · asked by Momof4gr8boiz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We've had been tossing around the idea about having a re-commitment ceremony for our 10th wedding anniversary, (we still might do it). However, we were going to have our children in the wedding. Our son as the ring bearer and our twin girls as the flower girls. We were only going to have my husbands sister, mother, our children's godparents and their 3 boys, my brother, his wife and their 3 children, my mom, and my grandmother. We like you were going to have a religious re-commitment ceremony in a small church where we live. But we decided to go on an extended 7 day honeymoon (we never got a first honeymoon because of time, money, and his family visiting) instead. I think it's wonderful you want to have something formal. Do what makes you and your family happy... not what others think. Go all out (in your way), but don't put yourself in the poor house LOL! Good luck.
2007-10-03 04:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by navywife_2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wonderful what you are planning! My husband and I have been married for almost 12 years, and on our 10th anniversary we renewed our vows at a beautiful park close to us. Our best friends renewed their vows that day as well. We wrote our own vows, my friends husband and myself each read a bible scripture and it was VERY intimate. I only invited my siblings and parents and grandparents. We wore nice Sunday clothes, did our hair all pretty, and I used my original boquet from when we were married just fancied it up more, and she used a boquet that I had from a wedding I was in a few years ago. Afterwards we had a bbq in the park and it was a great day. It is all in what the individual person wants, but it shouldn't go overboard. It really isn't supposed to be a 2nd wedding just a recommitment to the vows you took. Congrats and I hope you have a wonderful day!!
2007-10-03 04:16:32 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Renewing of the vows is just renewing your love and faith for and in one another. I think it's great that you are going to do it! I have been thinking about it also..got married JOP myself. And what I've been thinking is to rent (I guess thats the right word) a little church...(for me though it's a church not being used anymore just historical site now) and decorate it with pew bows and such. I am planning on writing my own vows as is my hubby. The fact that it's just immediate members make the renewal so much more personal, which is great. If you have a friend or know someone who would stand up (as preacher) and say a prayer or whatever you 'd like that would be ok since you're already married. And you probably wouldn't have to pay them either. As for the clothes... wear what you want, but we are thinking about just getting a nice dress no huge flamboyant wedding gown, and him a pair of slacks and tie.... If you're planning a reception of any kind, find like a legion, elks club or vfw type establishment that would let you make the food and bring it...if you're willing... do what you want girl...it's your day!! Just have fun!!
2007-10-03 03:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A vow renewal is basically a ceremony held at a church or another location, usually followed by a bit of an anniversary party - often a dinner at your home, with just a good chance to visit with family and friends.
It's not 'another wedding' - it's simply an anniversary celebration.
2007-10-03 03:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally up to you. You can have it in a church, or any location, perhaps a rose garden, park, beach, or lake. Just let the officiant know that you want a religious vow renewal. It sounds like you will have a beautiful, intimate ceremony! Best wishes!
2007-10-03 10:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by LoveWithNoBoundaries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try an outside ceremony, with a sunday dress requirement. I had one friend renew vows , with their minister, under 2 old oak trees in a friends backyard. They included their kids in the ceremony as attendants and had a nice family dinner after. It was really nice.
They chose to write their own vows, had a unity candle, cake etc..... You can do whatever you want to really, something simple or something fancy, its totally your choice.
Good Luck !
2007-10-03 03:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by hotmama1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would do a destanation wedding... they are worth the money for the memories and it would be a great time for the families to spend some quality time together.... if you contact a travel agent this far in advance, you can get great group rates and pay on the trip over the next 8-9 months... that way, no one really feels the financial blow.... good luck!!!
2007-10-03 03:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by Jeanette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Basically just act like its your first wedding.
The only differences are NO legal paperwork!
2007-10-03 04:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋