My bf and i have had sex multipe times, but he is a very big christian and he says that he wants to become closer to god, and he thinks we should stop. I told him that i would still like to have oral sex and such, but he says no b/c that is a sin to. I tried to explain that it was not fair to me athat he all of the suddens wants to take that away from me, (i have a very high sex drive), but he insists on waiting till marriage!
2007-10-03 02:51:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel un sexy and not wanted!
2007-10-03 02:52:18 · update #1
I think you should be grateful you have someone in your life with morals and values. There are so many men who only want sex and no real commitment. The bottom line is this you two are obviously not on the same page so I think you should go your separate ways if you can't support him and you really need to understand that even though you are use to this certain type sexual activity, you need to understand there is more to a relationship than sex and it sounds like he wants to make love to your mind spirit and soul not just your body. Sex only last a couple of hours and in some cases a few min lol but loving someone from the heart with you mind spirit and soul is the true definition of making love. We get so caught up in the physical and I think you should evaluate the big picture. Its hard to find someone who will love us for who we are and not just for what they could be getting. It sounds like you have a great guy. But most of us don't want a good man we want the man that just wants our body never paying attention to the heart and what's on our mind! You should really give this some thought and ask yourself what are you looking for.............. Sounds like to me you're a lucky girl and if you get married then you have proven that you have the discipline to be faithful to not only each other but yourself and your marriage would truly be blessed. Think About It....
2007-10-03 05:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by aspen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You fell in love with this guy for him, just being him. Now he wants to commit himself to God and get a closer relationship and you feel left out. Sex is part of a life long commitment to each other and as old fashion as it sounds, should be saved for marriage. You should respect him for who he is and what he wants to become, and if you can not do that, then you need to leave. I am on his side, sex, oral sex is something that is to be shared heart to heart.
2007-10-03 10:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is dead set on this "god thing" then you have two options. Option 1: Leave him and find someone else that already has their beliefs set. Or Option 2: Wait it out until he 'gets closer to God'......Its very selfish of him to take away something that he has given you 'multiple times' but this could just be his test to see if you could actually be more then just a girlfriend. If you love this man, and could see yourself marrying him, I'd wait it out. In the mean time, you better find yourself a good toy! ha :) Good luck.
2007-10-03 09:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by MayMay 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to become closer to god by avoiding his sexual urges, more than likely, he's going to feel guilty after everytime you both have sex. Although you care for him, his chosen lifestyle isn't going to mesh well with yours. It's not worth feeling bad about yourself. Respect his choice and then you can find someone who isn't waiting til marriage to have a sexual relationship.
2007-10-03 10:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off ... what made him all of a sudden think that he is a "big" Christian?!
If he was so ... he would have set these boundaries the times he saw u first not after he got what he needed like couple of times and then rise up his bible and say NO!
Things needed to be questioned now.
2007-10-03 10:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Sara007 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it doesnt mean that he has no sex drive, he has the discipline to control his sex drives. i know it takes a lot of guts and courage for a man to say no to sex. bravo to your man. but i know it is also affecting you. try to talk to your man but if he remains strict with his beliefs, then you dont have any choice but to respect him or go find someone else... but if you really love him, youll wait for him.
2007-10-03 09:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by brazenlove 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The guy is a loser with ideas from 100000 centuries ago.Get a new guy and enjoy life.Leave the guy at once.You need a winner not a loser.
2007-10-03 10:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by Mario Vinny D 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
wear something sexy and walk very near to him and brush against him "accidentally". maybe that will help. Wear something tight and hot!
2007-10-03 09:55:40 · answer #8 · answered by autumn lover 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dump time. cause even after marriage you won't get what you need.
LD
2007-10-03 09:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
you may tell him Jesus has girls,and they make love,too.
and why there are girls and boys ? cuz Jesus wants them to have sex```````
2007-10-03 10:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by chenchuanmu 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋