I am a practicing Christian and my husband says that he is a Christian but does not practice it. It is getting very hard due to his choices in life. I pray everyday for God to break his heart and show him the way. At times he he does well, but he goes straight back to where he was.
Do you or would you find it hard? How do you or would you deal with it? Help!
2007-10-03 02:41:57 · 16 answers · asked by Kristi P 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
We have the same delima but I do the same thing that you do..pray....submit first to God then to your husband. 1 Peter 3 has a lot of instructions with regards to wives whose husbands do not obey Christ. Continue to live a life that pleases God and if you read your Bible everyday the more insight you will have on how to deal with him. The more you would see what God would let you do to win your husband to become an obedient Christian. I pray that we just do not practice christianity but rather say to live it in obedience to the will of God. And if we do...you will see though difficult it may be sometimes or all the time...His presence and guidance will be there to help you specially your husband...it is in your actions and reactions to him - your husband ...you as a christian to show forth of what a Christian really is....Be grounded in God's word...consistent in prayer and fellowship with the Lord....only then you will see...what I mean.
2007-10-03 02:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by sdrbl 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Just to let you know from the outset that I do not believe in god, but my answer will nevertheless help, I think.
First off, your husband is not a Christian. When I was Christian you either practiced it or not. The key word here is practice. That is how you become good at something, is it not? When we were kids we were told to practice something over and over in order to become skilled at it. This is no different with being a Christian. You either practice what it means to be a Christian or you don't. There is no inbetween with something like this. Just accept this first fact, that is, he is not a Christian. He is only doing what little he is doing to please you.
Second, the choices he makes are his. He may be selfish here because the choices he makes are affecting you as well. His selfishness is also mixed with a narrow view of marriage where there is supposed to be a reciprocal exchange of ideas and action. Since Christianity appears to be important in your life, his decisions to move away from it shows that it is not important in his own.
Third, you cannot pray to god to break his heart. When I studied theology and Christianity (7 years and I was going toward a pastoralship before leaving it all) you cannot will god to do anything. Prayer is not about making requests to god to fulfill. Prayer is this: 1. You declare god's greatness and your desire to worship him; 2. You tell god the situation that is weighing your heart, the facts only and how it makes you feel and how it affects others; 3. You await god's decision on how this situation will come to fruition by the heavenly will; 4. You request nothing, will nothing, ask for nothing. You wait for the heavenly will to sort things out. And do not expect a quick response because god, if god so chooses, will wait for you to make the right choices because as a Christian you are anointed with a heavenly spirit.
Fourth and finally if things do not change you should remove yourself from your marriage. You are in a great deal of pain and circumstances will not change unless your husband changes. Again, god will not do this for your husband, he has to do this for himself.
Your marriage will only succeed when both hearts are one, under the same banner and walk in the same footsteps.
Take care.
2007-10-03 03:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by fierce beard 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Shame on you!! Asking God to break someones heart just because he doesn't follow religion exactly as you do!!! God doesn't like ugly and that is exactly how you are acting!!!
I am very religious. I pray several times a day, go to mass and live my life in as God like manner as possible. I am Catholic and don't believe in in punishing people for not being a puppet on a string.
People praise God in their own way. Whether they are Christian, Jewish, Baptist, Catholic, Methodist or whatever at least they believe. God made all men equal and would not want us to be judgemental. No one religion is any better than the other. This is America, the land of freedom of religion.
Wake up and smell the real world. Love your husband for who and what he is. Karma is an awful thing to come back at you in a bad way.
2007-10-03 03:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, I live with a non-practicing...sort of Christian. My husband will not say there is no God, but he definitely could care less about God and salvation.
I pray for him almost constantly. Whenever I think of him during the day, when we fall asleep at night, I fall asleep praying for his salvation.
It's not easy living with someone who does not believe or practice the teachings of Christ. There are moral differences and values. There are issues with raising children. But what matters most is Jesus...always! Nothing is more important, so keep your eyes focused on Him. Offer up your suffering and pray for your husband's soul. Practice your faith by being true to Christ, and true to your marriage. Live your faith and know that God desires your husband's salvation more than you do.
2007-10-03 03:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by Misty 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
so very sad answers listed here....
we are to be of a like mind, equally yoked, compatible....
the non Christian spouse will follow their own ideas that have nothing to do with the "two" and this will case problems and hurt...
my ex "claimed " to be a Christian, pretended...over time he stopped "the act"...
he was heavy into gambling and pornography...his choices in life caused him to be kicked out of the military for dereliction of duty, etc.....he was dishonorable to the marriage and to the uniform...
he received walking papers from uncle sam and from me...
I should have checked his attitude toward things much more closely before I went down that road...
2007-10-03 05:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by coffee_pot12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one does love others except his own wife, children and kins, specially who think his religion is the truth and all other religions are false without ever trying to know about other religions.
Such people are blind, dumb and deaf as all the three Divine Revelations- Torah, Bible and Quran repeatedly has said.
2007-10-03 03:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by majeed3245 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made a choice and you have to live in the bed you made, yes it can be hard that's why when two marry the bible says let them be of the same mind. Give it some time and not prejudge your husband, let him work it out and you can be his best example.
2007-10-03 02:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I live in a house with two other girls, one is an atheist and one is a Buddhist. It really doesn't phase me much, if anything's hard it's going to church. It was a lot easier getting motivated when I had roommates that went, too.
I guess the best thing for you would be to tell your husband that you're concerned for him, but be sure to give him space to be his own person.
2007-10-03 02:48:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
I'm an atheist. I would rather live with a non-practicing Christian than a fundy like you. Instead of trying to intrude in other people's lives, try keeping your superstitions to yourself. Even your Bible says to pray in the closet.
If you live with someone that has different beliefs than you do, deal with it. That person has a right to his beliefs.
My wife is a Muslim, and while that sometimes causes some interesting conversations sometimes, I don't pressure her about her beliefs. She's free to believe what she wants.
2007-10-03 02:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by nondescript 7 · 5⤊ 3⤋
I stayed with my sister in law who is a practicing Christian.
Jeez, it was a pain. I am an atheist & I got fed up with her trying to ram her views down my throat all the time.
I imagine this is what your husband is going through.
Deal with it by you doing your thing - & letting him do his own thing.
Or do you want to tell him how to run his life?
2007-10-03 02:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋